My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years; he is the love of my life and we don't ever fight (until now!) We have a king size bed, but I still roll around a lot in my sleep. I guess last night I spent more time on "his side" of the bed because this morning when we got up he was VERY grouchy and said that he would get even tonight by sleeping right in the middle of the bed (so I can't get a good night of sleep)
The fact that he would do anything out of spite makes me very upset!
I am thinking that I will just spend the night in the guest room but I think that will just make the problem worse.
Does anyone have peaceful solutions?
2006-08-08 05:31:39 · 21 answers · asked by michs96 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's cute that you have such a wonderful life that you only have stuff like this to fight over. I'm envious. However, you can avoid the fighting in the future by buying a smaller bed. If you get a queen or full, there won't be any room for you to move around too much on your bed. As for tonight, when you go home, pretend it never happened. Stop by Boston Market and get something for dinner and come home happy and smiling. Then do what you mother told you to do all your life. Be polite. Don't give in to his grouchiness. Don't answer back in a hostile manner. Smile when he talks (tries to confront) you. Kiss him in the middle of his sentence and say, "if you weren't so hot, I wouldn't be trying to be all over you in my sleep" . Remember, Be Polite! Good Luck
2006-08-08 05:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am usually the restless one in our bed. But you should look deeper than just the bothering issue. My wife got up one night not too long ago and was awake for awhile and noticed something about me. I stop breathing during my sleep!! Then I will gasp all at once and thats when I move around. It's called Sleep Apnea.
Do you feel rested or tired during the day? If your still young it may not affect you as much. Ask him to wach you while you sleep some nights and if this seems to be the problem seek a doctors advise.
2006-08-08 10:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by nooodle_ninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go- he didn't get good night sleep, he was grouchy, as anyone else would be if they didn't sleep well. He said some things without thinking about them. Just think of it this way- you were the reason why he didn't sleep well, you should be the one apologizing, not him. Just forget about what he said, go home and spend a nice, quiet evening with him and try not to push him out of the bed anymore.
2006-08-08 05:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by fasb123r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he's going to sleep in the middle of the bed you have no choice, but to sleep on top of him (smile). Then let him know if it happens again that it's okay to wake you up and get you to move to your side, because you love him and only want to make him happy. As far as the spitefulness, that's what the sex is for sometimes sex is better when your mad.
2006-08-08 05:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is too funny, sorry, my hubby and I have problems at night sleeping together as well.. I ususally am the restless one, and I do not sleep much anyway, either way he always has something to say, we do not fight over, he will just get up and go in the other room. But we have other issues there also, he likes the tv on and I do not, blahblahblah.. You will find ways to deal with it.
2006-08-08 06:05:08 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probaby said that to give you a hard time this morning. I wouldn't even mention what happened this morning, when I got home from work. If you get in bed tonight, and he gets in the middle of the bed, give him a big ole kiss and turn him every way but loose. Suprise the heck out of him!
2006-08-08 05:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you should is sleep in the guest room play your favorite songs while your trying to sleep or read a nice interesting book. just relax and do thing that relaxses you to keep your mind off of him. you need all the rest you need i know you cant help but you got do what you got to do to avoid all this
2006-08-08 05:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by Tocarra B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is an idiot. The only thing that makes me mad about my wife in bed is when she is too far away. I usually go to bed before her and she pins her body right up against mine when she comes in. we usually stay that way most of the night.
Your husband needs to appreciate you.
Don't avoid the fight. If he brings it up tell him that if he wanted to sleep by himself he should have got a dog instead of a wife.
2006-08-08 05:37:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, both of you need to quit sweating the small stuff. Say I am sorry I couldn't control my movements during sleep. If he is any kind of guy he will say ok. He was probably in a bad mood which caused him to say he was going to get even. The "I'm sorry" disarms him and avoids the tension.
2006-08-08 05:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a body pillow as a boundary line, so that if either of you roll around you will bump the pillow instead of eachother. But, to make it cute write "I love you" on the pillow really big. He shouldn't complain about that. And buy him a little "I'm sorry" present, like a goodie he likes to eat.
2006-08-08 05:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋