why why why? can a g u y aswer this?

Question

why cant i find a guy who ll love me?
why do men always hurt me?
everytime i start to care about someone he leaves me as soon as i show that i care

Answer 1

I think there are some of us who love so strongly that it intimidates others. Maybe they don't feel as though they are worthy enough. I believe strongly, though, that there is nothing you should change at all. If your "crime" is loving someone, you must fiercely and strongly continue to do so... At some point, you will meet someone like you who is as loving as you. You'll relish and cherish this experience more by remembering that it was something that didn't come easy. Have faith in that. Have faith it *will* come to you. You'll meet a guy strong enough and good enough for YOU. Even though it doesn't look like it a lot of the time, the world tends toward good and love. If you make decisions constantly that contribute to that -- you have nothing to feel sad about. There will still be hurt when you feel as though your love is not being returned -- but it's not because you are not loving -- it's because they are not. If you can, wear this hurt like a badge of honor, knowing that you are a loving person who can love outrageously and fiercely even when the object of your affections doesn't appreciate it. Maybe it will seem as though you're not getting what you want at that time, but you're doing a lot to make the world better, more loving, more sacred, and -- eventually, I am 100 percent certain -- you will find that love will be returned to you beyond your wildest dreams.

Answer 2

Well,maybe your in a rush,maybe you are too damn fast in the relationship and start caring about the guy from the first or second date.
my advice for you:in the start of a relationship don't be too rushy and pretend too caring about a guy from the start,he will think you are a weirdo!.....the guy is the one who is supposed to do that and start caring 'bout the gal from the start.......i don't mean that you should ignore him!..show him that you are caring but just slow down a lil' bit!
but tell me..how and why do they hurt u?....tell you what!....some men are real f*cking *jiggalos* they don't wanna get involved in serious relationships,all what they can think 'bout is sex sex sex!...now they are real sick and i'm afraid that these are the only ones that you ran into!.........anyway just be patient,nice and eazy and i'm sure you'll find the right guy!...wish you all the best!
Peace..!

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear your message. But I think the key comes in your last line, "He leaves me as soon as I show that I care." Yes, guys do find it harder to commit to someone than girls do, but they're also looking for someone who isn't . . . clingy.

In any relationship, we look for someone who not only loves us for who we are but also complements us -- that is, people who are strong individuals without us constantly at their side. Men may be hurting you, perhaps not consciously, because they see you as high-maintenance and more to handle than the relationship just starting out is worth.

Don't worry too much about finding the right guy right now; build up your own interests, develop your own character, and stand out -- guys will come flocking! Just don't break too many hearts.

Have a great(er) day!

Answer 4

You must be looking for the wrong things in a guy and therefore always end up with guys that act in the same way ie. won't love you and leave you as soon as you show you care.

Change your criteria and change your outcome.

There are plenty of nice guys out there (I just know we're not all jerks) you just have to find one of the good ones.

Answer 5

Have you ever thought that why all similar kind of guys are being attracted to you? What it is in you that attracts them to you? What is the magnet in you?

Why have kept the bar so low that just about any one can walk into your life and walk all over you before walking out leaving you high and dry and hurt once again?

So unless you start loving yourself, and respect who you are, you will only find the guys who will simply reflect how you feel about yourself within, you can't be careful enough in life, to avoid meeting yourself, so take lesson from them, heal yourself first and find your centre before jumping straight into another relationship. For once you start loving and respecting yourself, you will find what you already have.

Without first loving yourself, you will always be vulnerable to emotional abuse, and what you call care might appear as neediness and men run away at the first sight of it, especially those who are incapable of loving themselves or others.

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Getting the Love you want. by Harvell Hendrix

Answer 6

Men today are so different. They have a hard time commiting themselfs to someone. Some women are even that way. Times have changed and they way people are raised. That plays a big part in how they act. You don't give up there is someone out there that is ment to be with you. Just take your time. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Uh, bad choice of men. It seems like you're fairly young so let me explain it this way....

When females are young (under age 21) they tend to be attracted to the "bad-boys". As they become adults they tend to lean more towards the the guys who are more reliable and will be there for the long haul, not just a fling.

So my advice would be, either don't date just yet, only date for fun and don't get caught up in the emotional part of things (which is very difficult for most females) or date the opposite of the guys you're normally attracted to, as they are most likely to be what you want as you get older.

Answer 8

hi though am not a guy....i wana try 2 help u..love is in the reach of everyone you just got 2 find the right person...maybe the guys you went out with were not compatible wid u thats why your relationship didnt last long...also guys like 2 b free,i mean they do not really like their girls 2 b 2 possessive or things like that,they feel that they are being encaged or somethin like that...maybe your way of being caring made them feel so...anyway am sure that you will soon find the ONE and that he will appreciate that you care so much 4 him...hope that i helped u a bit...good luck

Answer 9

Possibly you show that you care to soon. I know that being told "I love you" on the third or fourth date would scare of most guys. This is the only thing I can think of, I hope it helps.

Answer 10

be sure of your feelings for him, no just the feelings you want to have. Love at first site is a joke, it takes time, a lot of time. Don't be in such a rush, which is what I assume you are doing, and try not to let guys see your needy side 'til you know you can trust them with that info--they'll take advantage otherwise.