2006-08-08 05:19:33 · 22 answers · asked by nativeamericantay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
relationships of two people (more if youre mormon, or my uncle hef :o) we need to realize we're in a partnership with our lifemate and do in unison and harmony what is best for us.
both being their best self, individually and as a team openly communicating the desires and expectations they both want out of it. common goals & desires, are accomplished by the man & wife doing 2gether. they have to be true to themselves, b4 they can be true to the relationship. which doesnt even matter, what or why they are who they are. because you will be more of a success if youre true to self sharing this intimately with your one who lovingly accepts you.
the boundaries are what each one brings to the relationship and they both agree on and work thru as the relationship developes.
2006-08-08 12:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in life there should be boundaries, that's including relationships. Boundaries are sometimes called rules or laws. If there were no laws in a country, then it would be very chaotic. Same is with everything in life. If you don't set boundaries about your eating habits for example you'll eat all the delicious food that are most of the time unhealthy, and you get fat or sick, and so on.
If there were no boundaries in a relationship, then it would be allright for your man or woman to go and sleep with your neighbor, or your parents just for example.
The boundaries in a relationship are unwritten, but you know that they are there. Some overdue it with the rules, then it's wrong. Rules have to be reasonable and in favor of every one. Not only one person. I hope this explains.
2006-08-08 05:27:58 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's what makes it a relationship. If you have no boundaries then you are just two people who have sex. Both parties should know the other's expectations and limitations within the relationship and respect that. If they can't then maybe they should be single.
2006-08-08 05:26:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Any relationship should have boundaries. You wouldn't walk up to one of co-workers and kiss them, would you? You woudn't cheat on a husband, would you?
Most of the boundaries are fairly obvious as outlined above, but some might have be negotiated. An example that comes to mind is name calling. For some women, it might be OK or even erotic to be called "sl-t" or "b-tch" during hot lovemaking, but no where else. Some women might object to those words in any context.
It's up to you and your partner to negotiate what works for you.
Good Luck.
2006-08-08 05:25:44 · answer #4 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you should have boundaries. for yourself, what kind of person u want to be in the relationship, and what kind of person you want. if it is important to you to be a great girlfriend, then it is equally as important to want and need a great boyfriend. if said boyfriend is making you feel bad, negative, depressed, or scared, you have to nip it in the bud. u have to find out if he's willing validate your feelings, and work with you to fix any and every problem that comes in ur path. because you can only truly know urself, if u do all for your partner, but u can never truly "know" ur partner's mind. that is what boundaries are there for.. he may SAY he loves you, and he'll do anything for u, but if his actions make u distrust him, then he is crossing the boundaries of trust. a relationship takes work to keep it strong and growing; but it's the kind of work that is fulfilling and should make you feel Better, Happier, Healthier, Positive. a relationship that makes u feel alone, or sad, or burned out, is unrequited and therefore Not right for you, regardless of if you love him or not. u need to find someone who's Good for you, and who you are Good for. u won't know that if you don't have boundaries.
2006-08-08 05:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as long as the boundaries are reasonable. Telling someone you'd like it if they didn't go out boozing all night with their ex = reasonable. Telling someone that you'd appreciate it if they never went to the beach because the people their are wearing nothing = unreasonable.
2006-08-08 05:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine that's incorrect as well. i'm a lady, so i recognize that stuff. 14 is the precise age ladies, each of the ladies folk, are nonetheless slightly immature and infantile, idealizing their better 1/2 and making an emotional fuss out of themselves. At 15 they already commence to work out love more effective realistically. that is why 15, 16 should be your selection for now.
2016-11-23 16:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by heinemann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean? Every relationship - of any kind - has boundaries. The question is how much you dicuss them... but being there, they are....
2006-08-08 05:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by dk_angel2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell yea, if you don't set boundaries people will walk all over you if you give them a chance
2006-08-08 05:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by t4king 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yessssss YOU should always be happy and not worrying about your partner. If anything someone does upsets you or makes u feel insecure then they crossed your bounderies. They should want you to be happy
2006-08-08 05:22:19 · answer #10 · answered by kittykatB4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋