How to deal with a married man musically?

Question

So... I am best friends with a married couple and they have been having a lot of problems lately. I am in love with these people, platonically. The husband however seems to have taken more of an interest in me then "just friends". I really don't want anything to happen to my relationship with these people. They are both musicians, and tend to understand the world better through song. I am looking for the lyrics to a song that will help me let HIM know that, while I do care about him, I don't care about him like that. I'd like to keep it private - to prevent him from damaging his relationship with the wonderful woman he married. I'm sure that if given the opportunity they can work things out. And I don't want to be in the way or cause problems. I want to be able to be there if he OR she needs someone to talk to without his new feelings getting in the way. I have let them both know that I think they need to spend more alone time together to work things out but that I will be

available, if they need me, to talk by phone only and I will not be comig tothier house for a while, so that they can be together. I feel like I have taken necessary steps to make sure that I'm not hurting anyone but I feel like I need to clarify myself to the husband. Please don't post hurtful answers... I am genuinely concernedfor these people.

Thank you for all of your answers so far, I have already told him no (FLAT OUT) but he keeps sending me flowers... I don't think he really understands and I think the song would help. We generally email each other different songs through out the day, depending on our moods. I think it might make more of an impact if I slid it in there, you know?

Answer 1

"It ain't me babe" by bob dylan

Go away from my window
Leave at your own chosen speed
I'm not the one you want babe
I'm not the one you need
You say you're lookin' for someone
who's never weak but always strong
to protect you and defend you
whether you are right or wrong
Someone to open each and every door

But it ain't me, babe
no, no, no it ain't me, babe
it ain't me youre lookin' for, babe

Go lightly from the ledge, babe
Go lightly on the ground
I'm not the one you want, babe
I'll only let you down
You say you're lookin' for someone
who'll promise never to part
someone to close his eyes for you
someone to close his heart
Someone who will die for you and more

But it ain't me, babe
no, no, no it ain't me, babe
it ain't me you're lookin' for, babe

Go melt back in the night
Everything inside is made of stone
there's nothing in here moving
And anyway, I'm not alone
you say you're lookin' for someone
who'll pick you up each time you fall
to gather flowers constantly
and to come each time you call
a lover for your life and nothing more

but it ain't me babe
no, no no it aint me babe
it ain't me youre lookin for babe

Answer 2

That is very respectable of you to recognize that getting in the middle could only make thingds worse for them. As far as a song to fit I think maybe you should just tell him staright up in words rather than a song and let him know how you are feeling and that you care about the both of them and their marriage as a friend. Good Luck.

Answer 3

Don't look for a song for him that tells him "no", that will just make him think you putting the effort into that means you have feelings for him too. Just tell him NO in plain english.

Answer 4

...you seem like a pretty brite girl...i am not so brite- more intuitive than anything...

...i suggest ''the words get in the way" by gloria estephan...

Answer 5

i think you should just *say it*..