I'm 22 and I think I may be pregnant. What are ways that me and my fiance can deal with this unexpected surprise? We're not financially or emotionally ready for it. Was your unexpected baby a burden or a miracle?
2006-08-08 05:14:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i still remember reading the test and completely losing it. i called my then boyfriend (now husband) right away and he got there as soon as he could. i had no idea what to do and felt completely unsure of how in the world this could ever work.
once we made the decision to have the baby and get married (we were on that path already)
we discovered that by taking it one issue at a time we were completely capable.
in the first moments of discovering...and maybe for a few weeks it felt like a burden...
but now, my seven month old son CJ is the light of my life and i CAN NOT picture my life without him.
my husband is in iraq and was during the birth, he got to meet him at four months for two weeks and then had to return. we have three more months and then he will be home. in the mean time i work full time and we make things work.
whatever you decide to do, good luck.
2006-08-08 05:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by lighting goddess 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My unexpected pregnancy was my third child. I had already given all my baby things away and told everyone we were not going to have another. Basically, you just live day to day and do what is right to you. My daughter is the highlight of my life (as are my other children). As for finances, if you want to keep the baby, you will find a way. Emotionally, you are never ready for a child. You feel happy then sad then confused all at the same time before and after you have the child. If you choose to have this baby, enjoy every moment it is inside of you and every moment is it outside. Babies are more than a burden or a miracle. They are the continuence of the human race. Good luck!
2006-08-08 05:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by cows4me79 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was 27 with a 1 year old in a bad marriage when I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd child. I was devastated! But, I got out of my marriage (when I left my oldest was 2 and I was 5 months pregnant), had my daughter and reconnected with an old friend. We've now been married for 11 1/2 years and while my youngest sees her father, her stepdad is her real dad. They say if you wait unitl you can afford it or "are ready" you'll never have kids. This may feel like a burden now, but when you feel the baby move and look into his/her face for the first time, you realize what a miracle really is. Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by icddppl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our first daughter was very unexpected. I was 18 almost 19. We were planning on getting married but not till the next summer. We got married right away. And also were not completly financially ready for it but I don't think any one is! My little girl has never been a burden she is the biggest miracle in my life!!!!! I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I am also 22 and just had my 2nd 7 weeks ago. They are always a miricale suprise or not. You got to think you have the chance of bringing a child into this world. You'll really learn love once you have a child. You love your fiance and your family but it is nothing compared to a mothers love for her children. IT'S AMAZING!!!!!!!
2006-08-08 05:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of an unexpected and double blessings, I will simply suggest a few questions to ask yourself. Do you want children at all ever? Do you think you can deal a miscarriage if it happens?
The answers should help you make a decision. My choice was to get married anyway and have the kids. Somedays were far from easy. Other times I know I could not have made a different choice even if offered again.
2006-08-08 05:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by Moonsilk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and my husband and I have an unexpected baby on the way. I don't really stress about it though. She's my baby and if some of these people I see now days can raise babies, I sure know I can. I am on Medicaid which helps out SOOOO much. I don't have to pay any doctor bills, so my money gets saved up for baby stuff. Everything I have gotten for my daughter to be has been hand me downs from friends and family after their babys outgrew things. I am saving up coupons like crazy for baby products like diapers, creams, etc. I definitly don't consider her a burden at all. I look foward to the day when I can meet her face to face... to see who is growing inside me. We may not be able to give her everything, but she will have plenty of love and I think thats what matters more than anything.
I think the scariest part of this whole "having a baby" thing for me is knowing that one day I am going to have to let her go... you know, when she is an adult. It makes me kinda sad that the baby I am creating is going to have to be set free on her own one day. :( Other than that though, I love it.
2006-08-08 05:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I'm 22 and my baby is due next week, me and my partner were surprised when we found out i was pregnant. We were not financially or emotionally ready for it either, but we are so happy now about our baby we cant wait for it to be born. You just need time to get your head around the idea and when you see your baby on the scan for the first time its the best feeling ever.
Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ken22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preparation and knowledge is key. You have 9m to prepare yourself on a huge responsibility such as this. I too have had some unexpected pregnancies and am not financially stable but you make do with what you have and love them like you have all the riches in the world. Just wait until you have 2 or 3 LOL, that's when it gets fun!! Goodluck!
2006-08-08 05:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miracle.
I was 16 and pregnant with my first child. I was still in High School and lived with my b/f and his parents at the time.
There was no way we were really ready for a child, but we made it through it.
We took it day by day. We did not think about the lose of sleep or how we were going to support the child, because stuff like that can make a person depressed (especially during pregnancy).
My b/f was already graduated from High School so he got a job while I went to School and the Grandparents watched our son for us.
2006-08-08 05:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by tigergirl301 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 21 and at the time I thought it was a burden, but after awhile I realized he was the biggest miracle ever. I was not ready emotionally or financially either.. but it all worked out :)
2006-08-08 05:18:50 · answer #10 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋