Hello,
I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. I met him when his parents were still together and right about the second year he told me that his parents are getting a divorce. He's 26 now and he was about 24 when everything started.I was there for him when he went through it all, now it's been a couple of months and he lives with his mom, grandma, n brother. Financially they are doing bad, and to top it off his mom just randomly wore a new wedding band and she told them that she's getting married with the same man that was the reason for their divorce. I don't know the exact story of what exactly happened, but my question is How DO i deal with this so i can help him?..I am so speechless because i feel so horrible. Is this going to change how he will be if we do get serious and get married?..will he not trust me ? he's a bit controlling in a sense where he trusts me but he wants us to do everything together ? I love him and our relationship, but I'm just worried about the futur
2006-08-08 04:56:11 · 7 answers · asked by luckystar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just tell him that shes a grown woman and she can make her own choices.i would encourage him to go to the wedding bc its his mom and she would probably feel terrible if her own child didnt come.(if shes any mother at all)
thats all u can do.
---glad to help---
2006-08-08 05:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by lexa (: 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to predict the future and focus on today. Try to comfort his pain of dealing with his family issues and don't pre judge that your situation and future would suffer as a result of his mother actions.
At age 26. it's time for him to grow up and be a man and try to get his own place because he need to do so in order to even think of a future with you.
First, he has to be able to support himself before he can take on a wife that should be your main focus.
You shouldn't make yourself feel horrible because of his mother decisions whether painful to him or not.
He's 26 and is more than old enough to understand and accept the choices his parents have decided to make. If he was a young boy, I would understand but he's a grown man and eventually he will have to make mature decisions on what he want to be or get out of this life in order to have a relationship with you.
I say don't let the problems of others destroy your relationship with him.
2006-08-08 05:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to let him know that what happened with his parents doesn't mean it is going to happen to your relationship ...In fact it should make yours stronger because you know what to look for...TRUST is a big thing in any relationship and as long as the two of you have TrUST then you can do anything
But tell him to please not let this ruin it for your relationship because it can...Good Luck
2006-08-08 05:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a conversation is long overdue. Talk to him, reassure him, and treat him like normal. The best thing you can do is carry on as usual and continue to show him that you are not like his mother.
2006-08-08 05:07:04 · answer #4 · answered by Miranda Martini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just b who u r, u have 2 show him that what happened with them won't happen with the 2 of u. u will not b like her.
2006-08-08 05:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't explain very well why you have to deal with his parents' divorce. what bothers me is you have recognized that boyfriend is controling. that is not a good trait for a boyfriend to have. guys who control are likely to abuse.
2006-08-08 05:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for him
2006-08-08 05:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddy e love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋