How do i increase my girlfriends desire for sex!!!!?

Question

Me and my girlfriend have had a great sex life up until the last say 6 months we love each other very much and our relatiuonship is perfect apart from the sex side of things basically she is on the pill and has been for about 3 years now i have heard this can decrease a womens sex drive is there anything we can get to increase her desire for sex im not wanting to force her into it i dont work like that but she has mentioned that it gets to her and she needs a little something to make her horny at times we still have a great relationship and i think its just frustrating us both is there anything on the market to help us get our sex life back to normal?? Any helps appreciated

She is 21 by the way i do care about her needs and i wont force her into anything she doesnt want to do i understand that sex isn't everything but it would be nice to have it once in a while ya know i'm prepared to wait i just hope its nothing im doing i try my best like she left me about 6 months ago basically because i wasn't showing her enough respect and she never thought i would change but she came back not long after and i'm trying to do more things for her like it might sound daft but things like doing the washing doing the dishes tidying up things like this i know she appreciates it but i really do want to do more for her like take her out to the cinema whisk her away for weekends away things like that but i find myself in a lot of financial dificulty a lot of the time and can't afford to i really don't know what to do and i really don't want to lose her

Answer 1

Just keep being nice to her. Show her how much you love her, continue to not put pressure on her. You don't have to resort to anything kinky at all, just relax and see what happens. If she never wants it again, that's ok too. (if you don't think you could live with that, then you don't really love her to start with)
Sounds to me like you maybe hurt her feelings pretty bad in the past. Wounds like that take time to heal. Be patient and don't give up.

Answer 2

oh sure!! there's lots of ways. the best, tried and true way to increase sex drive, is simply put in the effort to make an evening of it. what i mean is, one day, when she's out or something, get into her place and really do it up. line the floor with rose petals into the dining room. when she comes home, i guarantee she'll follow them into the dining room, where she'll find you with a home prepared meal, candles, flowers, champagne, the whole nine yards waiting for her. share a nice, quiet dinner together, and then, if you have a fireplace, curl up next to it with some soft music and a roaring fire and a glass of wine. let her rest her body against yours, take in the atmosphere and just talk for a while. start slowly, with soft caresses of the side of her neck, chest, etc...then move on to soft, tiny kisses all over her...if you dedicate your attention to making her feel good, soon, she'll be so fired up that she'll roll over you and really take charge of the situation. good luck!!

Answer 3

Oral contraceptives decrease circulating levels of androgens by direct inhibition of androgen production in the ovaries. This mechanism leads to low circulating levels of "unbound" or "free" testosterone which is responsible for increased libido in females. There are a few options, talking to her doctor about her decreased libido and discuss changing her pill, her body may respond differently to a different OCP, Doing more sports would help increase the amount of testosterone in her body leading to increased libido, or alternatively you guys may want to pursue other forms of contraception such as condoms and diaphragms and take a break from the pill for a while.

Answer 4

Try setting the mood. Use candles, soft music, incense, ect. Give her a massage using baby oil, start with her back and then work your way around. You could try experimenting using things like whip cream, jello, ect. If your both working text message her a sexy message. Ask her one of her fantasies, like having sex on the beach ect, and do it. Experimenting with different things keeps the flame burning. Good Luck!

Answer 5

How about you spend a little extra time on her like foreplay? Most women have to be into it "mentally" before they can do it.

Answer 6

Although I'm not into all that Romantic crap...... begeeman just made me hot under the collar!
I'd also like to point out to the chick that told you to stop pressuring her for sex, that......gee, I didn't read any of that in his question! I only read that he loves her, wants to have a nice sex life with her, and is caring and patient enough of a man to actually give a damn if she can be pleased sexually by him, and that he wants them both to be happy together! Where in the wolrld do these women come from that have the mentality that men only want to screw them and NOT because they want a healthy relationship with the woman they love?
Bet her husbands life will be a living hell of beating off in the shower while she reads a romance novel.....lol
Please excuse my steam-venting !

Ok, you didn't say how old your GF is, just that she's on the pill and you SUSPECT thats whats made her lose desire.
I agree, that could be it. It could also be her hormones in general, due to imbalance or age or medical issues and quite possibly ANOTHER medication other than the pill.
First things first....is she taking an anti-depressant? If so, that is probably the cause (depression can affect her libido also, but it can be physically overcome) If it is a medication, have her report this to the doctor, something as simple as a change in meds could cure it. If not, have the doc run hormone tests to see if she is too low on something or too high on another.
If this just isn't finding the problem, then we move to herbal remedies. Sometimes you can find pills for women at the local gas station, BUT, they usually only carry things for men. I suggest going to an XXX store and asking for a bottle of STAMINA RX for WOMEN. They are the best by far out there for women. There are also creams (fem'ore) that will enhance her vaginal sensitivity that could help her get more arroused.
Note that, although all the above will help allow her desire to ignite and help enhance her pleasure... most of us have to be physically touched before we get REALLY hot, so she shouldn't expect them to MAKE her completely horny, just to help her get that way and stay that way awhile!
Now, with the physical stuff out of the way, lets get to the emotional stuff......
You seem like a great guy and I'm glad to know that you care enough about your physical relationship to try to find help for her low desire. If it's romance she needs, give it to her, if it's excitement she needs, give it to her......try something new, something different.....don't just try to turn on her body....
TURN ON HER MIND!
I can't say this enough.................
Communicate with your lover! Ask her about her deepest, darkest desires..tell her about yours! Don't be afraid to tell her what you want to do to her..or what you'd like to have her do to you! Act out your fantasies together...
Unless you are offended by it, buy some XXX movies and watch them together til you are both turned on! Make foreplay last for more than 5 minutes! Don't penetrate until she begs for it.....Make it last......
Be spontanious with your affection.....pull over on a dark country road and give her a freebie! You'll likely get one in return!
Talk to her while you make love.....nothing turns blood to boiling like a sensuous conversation, or dirty talk.
Turn on the kinkyness in her, tie her up, blindfold her and TEASE her til the desire ignites.
Take her shopping for a new toy, surprise her with a toy that will freak her out, but ignite her interest!
There are SO MANY things a couple can do to reheat their sex life! MOST OF THEM rely on the EMOTIONAL SENSES!
I could go into much greater detail and even plan it out for you, but as tempting as that is to me, I 'll trust that you've retained something helpful in these paragraphs.....
I do want to express this to you:
I had a hysterectomy in 2000, and I thought I would just rather be dead of the cancer it cut out than to lose the desire I had b4 they cut me up....I had been on anti-depressants for many years prior and I think I went thru them all to find one that helped me feel better without losing my libido.
After the hysterectomy, I not only lost my desire for sex, I literally lost feeling in my sexual parts! Hormones went all to hell and I thought I would never be myself again. All the things....pills, creams, toys, videos, 3sums,etc, even lite S&M just to be able to FEEL SOMETHING down there!.........I've been there, done that....it took patience, open-minded-ness , a willingness to try the new, the taboo....but the most important factor in waking my desire up again was sharing all those experiences with a man that I trusted, who cared enough to take the time and energy to help to heal me.
This is the type of man I think I "read" in you.......or I wouldn't have typed you a novel to tell you how inportant you really must be to her. She's lucky, as was I.
More men should learn from your example, maybe they will from mine...
If you put the right kind of time and love and patience into a woman, she will never let you down...emotionally or sexually.
http://www.staminarxpills.com/stamina-rx-women.htm
http://www.femore.com/
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/sxarousal/0,,9bp87snw,00.html
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Answer 7

make her want you! Tell her how large your dick is! Tell her how good you are!

Answer 8

give it time...don't hound her thing's should come back naturally..

Answer 9

You don''t when she is ready she will come don't force her into it!!!!!