I have been with my boyfirend for 3 years. He told me that he is turned on by men, but that I had nothing to worry about because he loved me. Recently I found out that he has been chatting online with gay men, been frequenting a gay dating site and talking on the phone to a gay man. He hid it from me and denied it when I asked, but when I showed him proof, he told me he was curious and wanted someone to talk to. He has sworn never to cheat on me or to hide things from me again. Should I believe him or should I leave him? I am an open minded person and it doesn't bother me that he is curious. What bothers me is that he lied to me and hid it from me. He says he is bisexual, but I am afraid he is really just in denial about being gay. I love him and I don't want to lose him, but I am confused about what to do now. Do I stay with him or should I leave him?
2006-08-08 04:36:34 · 14 answers · asked by madhare21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Seems to me like he is afraid to say he's gay and is only staying with you to convince himself-and others that he is straight. in today's society, it is hard to be accepted when you live an alternate lifestyle.This is definitely a serious issue, and if you don't want to break up with him, maybe you should take a break to give him a chance to explore his options.If he is curious now, the feeling will only grow until he has a chance to explore his curiosity. He has already began to cheat by chatting with gay men on dating sites, and if he's lying to you now, the deception can get worse and hurt you even more. You deserve a man that loves you and is thinking of no one else. don't settle for anything less.
2006-08-08 04:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by Lana L. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-31 04:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-12 08:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you are homosexual just because you watch gay-porn and get hard from it, it's a natural reaction you know. Those tests you did online won't give you the answer you seek, you have to think for yourself! You aren't bi until you start to fall for someone of the same sex... What you need to do is think, good luck!
2016-03-16 23:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a man in your life that you can not satisfy sexually?
In addition, given the prevalence of AIDS in the gay community, you need to know if your bf is sexually active. But he has already been lying to you. Can you (quite literally) trust such a person with your life?
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2006-08-08 04:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind. First you say you are open minded then you say you are bothered by it. He will act on those feelings and is showing you that by having phone conversations with another man. Get out quick!!!!!
2006-08-08 04:49:51 · answer #6 · answered by ariola2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...bi-sexual usually means afraid to say you're gay. I'd leave that guy to free him to practice his perversion.
2006-08-08 04:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by 45Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a dilema, but i think he is gay. this is a dangerous situation for you. lots of gays have direct access to hiv. if he lied to you about his activities (even though he said nothing happened), he won't think twice about cheating on you. get out before he gets aids.
2006-08-08 04:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether he is bi or just curious does not matter since you accepted him as he is. What bothers me is the fact that he lied to you. Beware!
2006-08-08 04:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gay, and a liar if that's what you want out of life deal with it. If not dump the motherf***** already.
2006-08-08 04:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋