One of my guy friends and I have great chemistry. I know he has liked me forever, but I am just not attracted to him physically. I am mad that such a superficial reason keeps us from having what could be a great relationship! Any advice? P.s. My mother and sister think he's really cute and LOVE him and that it's "just me".
2006-08-08 04:29:50 · 16 answers · asked by jiexidi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can't be with someone if there is no physical attraction and you cant find yourself liking him fully. No matter who likes him and if he likes you and you think he is a great guy...it will never work if something is missing for you.
2006-08-08 04:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical attraction is one of the first things that causes people to get together. Sorry, it's a fact of life, it not superficial. It's the deeper things that will make a relationship work for the long haul, cause believe me...the physical stuff fades with time. If you have great chemistry then I would really be honest with myself and go to the core of the reason and see if you can't deal with it.
My BF is handsome and tall, but there was something else I knew he had that I wanted and that was respect for me. He treats me like a lady and I get a wonderful guy. Once you get to know the inner person well...the physical stuff goes away.
2006-08-08 04:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing.
I strongly believe if you are not at all attracted to someone, a relationship will not work out. Just because others find him attractive doesn't mean you are. Even though the guy is nice and treats you well, you need to be attracted to him physically so you will want to satisfy other needs. don't force something to work, if you don't want it to.
Wow, that was greatly stated by mrpuffandstuff. I give him the best answer for this one. Well said.
2006-08-08 04:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I've been in this situation. He was a really nice guy and soooo into me, so I gave it a shot, even though I wasn't really attracted to him. After about a year or so, I just wasn't happy. I got into the relationship for all the wrong reasons (i.e. because everyone thought he was so great for me, I was lonely,etc) I never really got into him like he got into me. In the end, I really broke his heart. I don't think I'm a shallow person; I've been attracted to many men who weren't super gorgeous or even really that handsome. But something about them clicked with me; it was the whole package: mind, soul and body. If it's not completely clicking for you, you'll never be completely happy, IMO.
2006-08-08 04:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Steelergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened with me and my current bf. We were best friends for years, and he liked me but I wasn't physically attracted to him at all. Then one day, it was just like BAM and it hit me that I loved him and that even though he wasn't my type I couldn't imagine my life without him. We've been together now for almost 4 years and we couldn't be happier.
Don't let him get away, give it a chance.
2006-08-08 04:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by jacktripperslovechild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all in your head. You are doomed to a relationship with a guy that doesn't appreciate you because for some reason, deep down, that's what you want. You're like a lot of people both male and female.
2006-08-08 04:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try dating for a while. You'll just hve to get over what ever it is about his apperance tht bothers you. You know you have great chemistry so let that chemistry do the work
2006-08-08 04:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you just be friends? You know people spend most of there live trying to find that one special person, but why get in a relationship that already has a flaw in it. Everyone can like him, but you have to deal with him not them. My advice don't look to find a person you can live with...Look to find the person you can't live without.
2006-08-08 04:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. What kind of relationship will you have if you cringe whenever he tries to kiss you or be affectionate? If you aren't attracted to him, you will eventually hurt him by cheating, disrespecting him, etc. Remain friends, but let him know you don't look at him that way. If you keep him around, who knows what may develop over time?
2006-08-08 04:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by Just gorgeous dahling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm hello wanna get into the pool? YOUR NOT SHALLOW CAUSE UR NOT EVEN IN THE WATER YET! C'mon you know u like him and you have chemistry...u know he isn't gonna like kill u...so I say go for it!
2006-08-08 04:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋