i am a gay guy and my good friend Buffy's fine as hell boyfriend came on to me when she was in Greece for 10 days . he and i hung out smokes some budda and was at my place chillin ,,(i am a very straight looking gay guy).just talking and i went to the bathroom ,when i came out he was standing at the door and we came within 5 inches of each other never thinking this would ever happened i paniced. ok we are not talking about some guy whos a ugly guy. it was very hard ,but i didn't do anything. what would you have done?
2006-08-08 03:57:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Bravo for you. I was hoping that you were not going to use the fact that you were homosexual as an excuse for not acknowledging boundaries.
I have had gay friends and many times they proved helpful in pointing out men that had tendencies as they called it or block boys, who slipped into the gay lifestyle at night, deriding their existence during the day. There were times when I know one of my friends violated the boundary and made a pass and possibly more, but other friends (whom I honestly considered to be friends) obsered our boundaries.
In retrospect, I see now and maybe even vaguely then that I was merely bait for guys. My friends instructed me to be the best I could be in personal hygiene, appearance and culture swapping, which was a great bait for most men. I enjoyed it and have grown passed that time period. But double bravo for you.
2006-08-08 04:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right choice , If you had pursued him it would have been hard for you too look her in the eye after the fact . If she somehow found out the friendship the two of you have would have been over . It may have been hard for you to say no especially if he is attractive and you have an attraction to him , but by saying no you set the boundaries and let him know that she is your friend first and your loyalties lie with her . Good call . Now if they were to break up then he is fair game . Go get him tiger .
2006-08-08 06:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it was my best friend's boyfriend nothing. There is trust issues at sake here and the only thing you could do is not engage in sexual activities. Perhaps its the bubba; that was being used as an excuse to release fantasies thoughts. In any case leave him along as you did. Your friendship with this woman is more important.
However; the real issue is have you, or are you going to reveal the experience to her. My advice is to keep it between the two of you. Don't mention a word, because nothing happen but temptation; which was overcomed.
2006-08-08 04:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship to me is very very important, much more important that a quick nobber inthe hallway. I would never break the trust of a friend. I think you were noble to have done nothing.
2006-08-08 04:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have started by not "smoking some Budda."
Beyond that what happened is not clear from your message -- but if I loved my female friend, I certainly would never have sex with him. He might be bi -- he might be just horny -- he might even be gay 4real. I wouldn't care.
Regards,
Reyn
2006-08-08 04:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left some details out! Love to hear it! You need to tell your girlfriend. Maybe he is bi and went with her because she knows gays?
If you want him - take him - but make sure it is worth it. You wouldn't want a one time fling to mess up a good friendship.
2006-08-08 04:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BRAVO!!!! you did the right thing men are a dime a dozen but friends are precious, never betray a trust. they say a stiff dick has no conscience but you'd have to live with the guilt every time you saw your friend. i know it was "hard" but you'll be glad you took the high road later on.
2006-08-08 20:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I know it sucks. But friends will last longer than thatj fling and you will always feel guilty about it. Now. you may inform your friend what happened and if she says that its ok. Jk..
2006-08-08 05:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by college student 1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T do anything that would damage a good friendship. You only have so many real friends in life. If they break up then go for it if you want.
2006-08-08 04:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have went with it but I would have just had to make sure he knew what a g0y was and what that meant as far as activities where concerned.
2006-08-08 04:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋