I have had many chances with other girls but I always am hesitant about it but then I love thinking about all the kamasutra positions with other women other than my wife. I always say to myself I will definitely have ex with the next woman that offers but I cannot do it. Maybe one day I will! Some help please.
PS. My wife and I have been married for 4 years and we have sex every day, sometimes even 3 times a day. She love it!
2006-08-08 03:48:30 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try some different positions,play some sex fantasy rolls..there are many ways to spice up your sex life.Being married is a commitment for life(or should be)When you made your vows it did not include..and i promise to have sex with other people ..If you love her then work on making fantasies together..good luck
2006-08-15 19:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by annie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with fantasy. However, it is wrong to act on it. Unless you are prepared to destroy your marriage and lose your wife Please don't do anything stupid like being with someone else. If you find that you must but you do love your wife, you need professional help. I'm not saying you are crazy, I'm simply saying that you are confused and need to seek counseling to figure out what is making you confused. I found out after 10 yrs of marriage that my husband was having an affair and I can't even begin to tell you how hurt and devastated I was. I remember looking at everything around the house and thinking that everything was a lie, an illusion, that it wasn't a home it was simply a house. We tried our best to work things out and went to marriage counseling but nothing helped. I couldn't stand to have him touch me and I couldn't get the trust back no matter how hard I tried. Also, don't think that she is the only one that will hurt because you will too. And not only the two of you, but if you have children they too suffer as well as your family and hers. One last thought, if you find you really don't love your wife then you should end the relationship before you get yourself into another one. Even though you and your wife are having sex often, is it satisfying? How about sitting down with your wife and telling her that you love her and the fact that she enjoys making love often, but how does she feel about the two of you spicing it up a little. Who knows maybe she woud love the idea! For example, to start out you could get a can, jar or some kind of container and each of you put as many ideas in it as you want, then set a number of times each month that you want to pick one alternating. One time you reach in and pick one out, the next time her. Have the paper folded so neither of you can see what you are choosing. This will make it even more enticing... Good luck, I truly wish you the best.
2006-08-15 15:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably fantasizing about someone while she is with you. Why would you want to ruin a good thing? The grass isnt always greener on the other side. If you are so intrigued by the kamasutra why dont you try it with her? Buy the book and read it together. You need to grow up.
2006-08-16 02:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you but fantasizing about other women is just as bad as the actual act, especially in the eyes of God.
But since you made the statement that you will probably go ahead and cheat in the near future anyway, I guess that really doesn't mean anything to you.
Sounds to me like you have a physiological problem, and many people do. My suggestion would be to go and see a sex therapist before you do something stupid and lose your wife and family.
2006-08-15 09:27:58 · answer #4 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you can not say that you "love" your wife and have sex with other women. When you truly love someone, you would never do anything to hurt them. You wife would be devastated and you would then feel like a jerk for acting on your silly man urges. If you and your wife have been married for 4 years and she is still giving it to you as often as you say, then you are d*mn lucky and better off to tend to what you've got. Stick with your wife. Don't tell her that you fantasize about other women. Quit looking at porn. Quit looking at women as objects. Respect your wife, love her. If you can't control yourself, seek professional help! Extra marital sex is wrong no matter how you look at it.
2006-08-08 04:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Four years is definitely too soon to be having these feelings. I can't say that they're wrong but usually it's about 6-7 years. What feelings do you have when you have sex with your wife? Do you enjoy it? I mean, every day, several times a day? You must like something about with her. I think you should talk to a professional.
2006-08-15 16:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by dianee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has fantasies, that is normal. It is acting upon them that will get you into trouble. Do you and your wife ever act out any of your fantasies? If not maybe you should try for the two of you to be more creative...then the other women might leave your thoughts. As for having sex with the next woman that offers, do you want your wife to have sex with the next guy that checks her out? Put yourself in her shoes...think with your head, not your d**k!!!
2006-08-08 03:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by perfectprincess 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Fantasizing is healthy for any relationship. However, that is where it should stay. Talk to your wife about fantasies you both can share in. By all means, keep you labido at home and be the envy of all her friends when she tells them how you knock her socks off three times a day. Be the faithful stud, not the horny hound!
2006-08-15 19:49:54 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u and ur wife are having sex everyday i dont see what the big problem is...and no i dont think its wrong to fantasize about other people when ur having sex because ur having sex with ur wife not the person u are fantasizing about... ur not hurting ne one and she probably does it too. I would say talk to her... mayb u can act some of them out...she could be up to it... i know i would be!!!!!
2006-08-15 21:40:50 · answer #9 · answered by stephie_lou2007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a tough one, i think we've always like someone other than our couple, instinctively we look for beautiful people, smart ones or even the funny too, it's all about tastes, what I recommend you is what I've done for the last 2 years, I look to my girl's eyes and see what's the reason for not cheating into her. Don't throw away 4 (or more) years of your life.
2006-08-15 21:02:53 · answer #10 · answered by olitorago 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋