Do married men have a brain?

Question

I gotta ask. Do married men relinquish all their decision making abilities the minute they say "I do"? I have seen a ton of questions and answers which blame the other woman for taking the man away or suggesting that a man can't stop himself. Shouldn't married women blame their husbands for the infidelity and not the other woman?

Answer 1

Yes their wives, no just kidding. I don't feel the other woman should be blamed for my husband violating the marriage vows he has made with me.

If he didn't cheat with the other woman tthe other woman couldn't have cheated with him.

Now if the other woman is a relative, acquaintance, or friend who know me and my husband and still cheat and disrespect me, I would blame them also.

But again, my husband has made a commitment with me not the other woman and he is required to honor it by respecting me meaning no cheating .

Answer 2

You are creating a false dichotomy here. It isn't a choice between blaming the husband or blaming the other woman. You can blame both the unfaithful husband and the other woman for infidelity. I do not like defending unfaithful acts but first of all they happen all the time. They happen for various reasons, the combination of which is usually unique as the people involved.

Sometimes the other person is more to blame that the husband. She gets him drunk. She knows he's married and she does it anyways. It's called seduction. And no, I ain't leaving the husband blameless here. He is responsible for his own actions and his own stupidity but this scenario is different that a husband who intentionally tomcats around while lying to his pregnant wife.

Infidelity is a mess and usually cannot be brOKen down into black vs white struggles, no matter how much we want it to, particularly if we love the individuals in question doing it. I know women who have cheated. I know a guy who thinks dating three women is a-ok as long as you tell them upfront that you're doing it.

And look, I hate to say it but there's plenty of people who blame husbands for failing here. Some of the most common responses to "I am unsure that my wife trusts me anymore" were "Well, what did you do?" as if a Man who is being poorly treated by his wife is automatically guilty of something. Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. Maybe she has problems. But we can jump to conclusions (both men and women) and irrationally assign blame irregardless of circumstances.

Answer 3

Halo Yeah!!!

It's the ones who never should have married that don't.

And no, you shouldn't blame the man Or the cheating woman, but take a good strong look at the two of you.

Guys don't give up their married life lightly unless they're a deadbeat.

It's all about the chemistry between the two of you, the trust and honesty. If neither of you are open to each other, then a marriage is doomed.

Love can't be real if the doors are closed.

Oh, and ask yourselves, "Do I truly respect myself and other people?"

Answer 4

you ask a silly question , you will get alot of silly answers. "do women have a brain". come on, sounds to me like you have been hurt, so you blame the whole speices. getting hurt , im sry . but it is truely the way life works, it is how we learn for most part from extreme emotion.
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Answer 5

Husbands should not be blamed alone. The other women are guilty as well. Takes two hands to clap!

It is not that men have no brains after saying i do. It is just that they use less of their god given brains for they rely too much on their women they marry for almost everything, except for those between their legs. Hence, it is not well exercised and lack power to control their body functions.

Doesnt it occur to you why men have shorter life span than women, based on current statistics ?? : )

Answer 6

hy gay dudes steevie and davey here we got to say one thing married men geting hitched right ya nuts, a life of misery and huge credit card bills, and a ball chain, not for us if they only thought with a brai instead of something else, etc, and blaming us for relinquishing our decisio n making now not at all here thats bull from the start, theproblemm here is when 2 peolpe say they do-- something here changes after the honeymon is over reality sets in owe god what did i do let me out iam a caged animal huge mistake here!! i say most marriages dont last that long, and we think know bye talking too maried men that 2 days after they get hitcheed everything changess like night day betwenn two people etc!!

Answer 7

Yes, we do have a brain. No, we do not relinquish our decision making capabilities when we say "I do". Yes, he and his new found conquest should have equal blame. I do feel slightly offended by your question..... lumping all married men into one group is similar to racial profiling and I feel your own personal experiences may be influencing your attitude toward married men. Not all married men are bad.

Answer 8

all men have brains, married or not. just that some often choose to not use it, but they have brains all right.

now, it's been my observation that it's more comfortable for women to blame the "other woman" in cases of infidelity, becoz admitting that their husbands chose to do that would put them (the women who blame) in a bad position, where they have to summon up the courage to leave the fuc*ker, and so many cheated-on women go for the easier route and just blame the "other woman". it's cowardly, yes. and extremely unfair. but this is what women do: throw the blame at the wrong person, becoz they're not honest enough to admit that it's their "dear one" who fuc*ked up, and nobody forced him to.

Answer 9

Both are to blame. Yes, married men do give up the ability to think on thier own. All brain activity has dropped between their legs.

Answer 10

I'm a man, I've been married for over a year, and make a majority of the decisions. I will discuss things with my wife, but I usually am the one that makes the final decision on things.

Answer 11

A home wreckin' sl*t should have to shave her head and not her legs for 5 years! She will then get wise and not do this again.
A cheating man should be forced to go with out sex and sports for 5 years for his first offense. If he does it again cut his nuts out!!!
And yes, men do leave a huge portion of their brains at the alter.