2006-08-08 03:35:47 · 37 answers · asked by Ella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i've done it - i kissed another guy yesterday - a guy who i work with - my boyfriend knows him but doesn't know him - if you get me - i'm wracked with guilt - this guy is in a relationship with a child - as am i - its not worth it - i know that now before i go any further - a little advice to all who are thinking of it - you end up feeling ashamed, getting drunk with guilt and almost confessing your diabolical sins to your boyfriend. And the thing is we nearly got caught - and i still have to go back to work with him tonight and i feel very confussed and depressed - honestly its just not worth it!!!! so why aren't i listening to my own advice - my man is hot and caring and so so lively - mabey its because i'm sick of waiting for the BIG commitment - girls you know - the ring - mabey its cos he is the only guy i have ever BEEN with sexually and i want to see what other guys are like - but i just need to be strong and say to myself NO!!!!!
2006-08-10 02:24:20 · update #1
Well, here's advice you haven't gotten yet -- you should do it! You basically want to see what else is out there and what you're missing. That's fine.
Here is the thing: talk to him first. If he is a guy with a pulse and a penis, he's thought about other women too. Talk to him about that, how he feels about that, and use that to transition to your feelings. Maybe he will be up for swapping with another couple -- that way you can both experience something new. Maybe he will let you go do your thing. Maybe he will let you have sex with another guy but he wants to watch (some guys are into that!). Maybe he'll be very against it. Then you'll have to decide whether it's worth going behind his back. But at least ask before you go behind his back right away!
Whatever you do, don't don't DON'T cheat on him with one of his friends. It will be much worse for him if his friends think that he can't keep his woman satisfied.
Good luck... let me know how it turns out.
2006-08-08 03:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by rd211 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok we all know its wrong to stray on a loved one but sometimes I think it helps bring it home to us just how much they mean to us! In a past relationship, like you I loved my man very much but just got bored with it so I had a bit of a snog and a cuddle with another guy and afterwards I felt so bad I just knew that my boyfriend meant more to me than anything else and I wouldnt risk losing him again - I never told him - but it really did bring home to me what life would be like without him.
My advice is if you feel this way - go kiss a guy, dont sleep with him though as thats a bit too drastic - if you love your boyfriend as you say you do - once to cheat will be enough - you'll have tested the water - but again come back to what you know and love
2006-08-08 03:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, I'm not trying to patronize you? Have you already got someone in mind to have an affair with? Does that person have feelings with you and how long have you been with your bf for? You need to sit down and weigh up the pros and cons before you do anything, if it all goes wrong is it worth the risk, are you fed up with your bf and feel like your going nowhere.
If you are going to do it any way be careful!
2006-08-08 03:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by vanessa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater! If things aren't right with your BF then break up first... no better way to hurt someone than to "trade up"! You are defined by the decisions you make!
2006-08-08 03:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by MadMaxx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, if you're thinking of having an affair, you DON'T love your boyfriend. I just answered a question that I ended with "All men are pigs!" I'll end this one with; All women are pigs too!!
2006-08-08 03:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u 'love' ur bf like u say u'll finish with him before dis-respecting and hurting him in one of the ways that would most probably tear his heart out!!!
2006-08-08 05:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by L G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably don't love him and last but not least, he ain't doing you right (in bed). That's why you need some variety. Spice it up a little baby girl.
PS: I keep secrets too!! LOL
2006-08-08 03:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by mezzano_persiano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously don't love him otherwise you wouldn't be considering this action. I wish I knew who your boyfriend was so I could tell him to drop you like a stone!
If it was a man who posted a question like this, women would post what a b@stard he is!
2006-08-08 03:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by DirtyLittleSecret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you loved your boyfriend you wouldn't need to think about having an affair - you are obviously not sure what you want. Don't cheat on him - that would be awful!
2006-08-08 03:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not girl. I mean you only live once so be sure to make the most of the time that you have.
2006-08-08 03:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by jmthomb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋