One of my close friends was raped.What can I do to help her?

Question

She was raped about three months ago and her life hasn't ever been the same since. She's changed a lot and won't go anywhere near men. She also won't show off her beautiful body(not in the lesbian sense). I understand her situation but I want her to be happy again. Is there any way I can help her?

Answer 1

Unfortunately, she may not be the same for a long time. My advice...keep offering your friendship and support. And keep a watchful eye on her, make sure she's not contemplating suicide. It's best not to mention it and to wait for her to bring it up if she wants to talk. Otherwise, just do things with her...fun things...keep her busy. Let her know she can count on you.

Answer 2

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that.

Has she ever tried meditation. It rilly helped me get over my abusive relationship. (Yes, I'm a guy and I was the one being physically abused.)

At first I was skeptical and the first three or four times, including a soul retrieval session, I wasn't sure I was feeling it. But now I try not to miss a class.

I would suggest for her to find a meditation center that conducts soul retrieval. (She has lost part of her soul. That usually happens to people in traumatic events. A rape would be a perfect example of it: As you say, she isn't herself these days; that's because she needs to retrieve her soul fragment she lost that day.)

Plese e-mail me at [e-mail] for more info. You can also visit this website: It's the meditation center that I attend:

http://www.onenesssanctuary.org/

The guy in the sepia picture is Taylor, my meditation instructor.
He traveled to India last year and went through the 21-day intensive training to become a deeksha giver. (Deeksha is Divine energy--or Divine Grace--that repairs your spirit and gives you heavenly energy, to put it in laymen's terms.)

If you do not live in California, you can do a search for Deeksha (sometimes spelled Diksha, but the correct spelling is "deeksha," as it's closer to the Indian pronunciation); or just do a search for meditation. All meditation is good, however I recommend going to one where the person administering the deeksha or conducting the meditation class is someone who has gone through that 21-day process in southern India--because they know how to do soul retrieval.

I've done the soul retrieval session maybe 7 or 8 eight times. It is very powerful and some people even break into tears doing it, because they are facing the moment when they lost that soul fragment--but it is essential to the healing.

Good luck!

I'll send some good energy out to her! =)

Answer 3

If the rape was reported, the hospital should have directed her to a womens help resource for dealing with such a violent act. If it wasn't reported,then I would assume your friend is dealing with a lot of different emotions. there has to be in your area a counceling center of some sort. look in the yellow pages, and gently suggest to her to go. so she knows she's not the only one that has gone through it. and so she can put that aside and enjoy life again. Happened to me 30 years ago, you never forget it, but you can have a happy life again, I promise!!

Answer 4

hi my name is sara and i am 14 but i was raped three times and i am happier then ever now but she is strong and if she was as strong as me she would report that person and he will pay and if she has not already done that then think of it other people may be out there getting raped and if she dont know the person and she did not wear prtection then take her to the doc to get a sperm check so they can find dna and catch him but if she is afraid to do that or if he told her that he would kill her or something cauze i have gone threw that to but it is way better to tell some one that will put him away then to do nothing about it this is seriouse and she needs to get help if you dont try to help her then no one will and that is not a friend and i know you are her friend so do something that shows you want to help her and you care about her more then she thinks ok? she could have a disease and needs to be treated for it trust me pleaz do this for her i was lucky and all three times had no protection i know i am only 14 but i still think about it and i want to help her i had people help me and now i am stronger then i was before so report him and ask me any thing about this i will be there just make sure she gets help and you will be the biggest help she could posibly need just please trust me ok? if you have any more Q my yahoo ID is ([e-mail]) ok i hope i helped you ? bey

Answer 5

As someone who has experienced this situation, i really think you need to get her to some kind of councilling session........can you tell me if justice has been done, to put the perp in prison? did she press charges? you really need to help her get the legal ball rolling as well, as if she hasnt done any of this and reported to the police, the period of time or 'grace period' to report this type of crime will pass and she will not be able to do anything about it, try and talk her options over with her if she will allow you to, if she doesnt, give her a little more time, and just continually let her know that you will support her through it, that you love her and care for her and will generally just be there for when she needs you, right now what she needs most of all is support, and the love of her friends and family......good luck.

Answer 6

Jus b there for her.. dont push her too much in any direction..its her choice to go out and date or whteva.. and after all being raped takes away ur sense of control..so u pushin her to move on jus like tht even though u mean well might b too much at this point in time...give her tht freedom..she needs time to heal, time to get over it all.. showin off her body will not heal her.. it might make things worse especially if shes not ready..

She needs to b comfortable wth men first.. but these things take time n esp intially they require baby steps.. she needs to reestablish herself, deal wth the pain b4 she can actually enjoy anythin.. so dont rush.. even though we all wish at times we could jus hurry past our painful moments.. a good friend is patient n there.. thru it all ..she might b tryin she might not..but whteva the case.. jus b a friend first.. worry about guys later.. when she is ready she'll let u know... i hope this helps... meantime has she had any counsellin?..

Life does not end with rape.. she can continue to acheive all she dreams off.. includin a healthy realtionship but like all good things they take time and effort.. good luck wth ur friend i hope she gets over it sooner.. for her sake.. if u wanna talk anymo email away.. glad to b of any help!

Answer 7

Look, had a friend with a similar situation. She was sexually touch at a young age. Look, could always let her know your there for her and just be a supportive friend . Give her time she'll be back to herself. You could always ask her do she need someone to talk to about all of this.

Answer 8

she might be afraid of boys so don't push her take her shopping maybe it will take mind off the fact maybe introduce her to some hot guys . i know how she feels there is a sex offender that lives down the street and they only come out at night .don't pusher to hard maybe get her to start talking to boys online

Answer 9

just be there for her and be the best friend you can try to get her to counceling but dont pressure, so long as she knows you love her (not in the lesbian sence) good luck to you and your friend:)

Answer 10

if i were a friend,i would kill the guy,just move on...bein practical,just think you had rough sex with some one,you jave to move on and get back to your life....pray....