ok, so my boyfriend of 2 years broke up w/ me about 2 & a half months ago & I am still upset about it. Some days I hate him & other days I miss him & want him back. When he broke up w/ me he said @ first it was because I was possessive and then he told me he just wanted to be single for awhile. Well two weeks later he starts dating a girl who is 15 (he is 17) & she lives 3 hours away. And they only had met once before they started dating. I don't know what to do anymore. Ive been depressed for awhile & it feels like I will never get over it. Then school is going to start in less then a month and Im really scared to see him because I haven't seen him all summer and I loved it but Im afraid when I see him @ school Im going to get upset and the progress I had made will be gone. Do you think that his relationship is just a rebound? I should just be patient because 3 months really isnt that long right? What should I do?
2006-08-08 03:32:02 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if u were together for 2 years and he could just turn his back on you and go straight to someone else then he must not love you like you love him!! i know its hard but you need to move on be single for a while or date what ever feels right to you ..i know you feel like you will never be happy and find someone you love as much as him but you will..you will find someone who loves you the way you deserve..this guy sounds a little selfish and you shouldn't take him back even if he wants you to, without dating a few other people first. then you can see if you still feel the same way or not.it is going to be hard on your emotions when you go back to school and see him but you need to see him before you can really get over him!...i hope at least some of this helps you..and good luck !!
2006-08-08 03:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by CRYSTAL S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you started dating when he was 15..I assume you are around the same age as he is. Guess what? Been there, done that. Life is about heart break, moving on and finding the one who really means something to you. (well, at least part of life is.) As we grow older, we experience many different things, including love and what we think is love. At your age, you may be in love with the IDEA of being in love. It won't be long before you find out what love REALLY is. If he wants to move on, let him..and you do the same. Ever hear.."if you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours, if it doesn't, it never was." That is so very true. I still remember my first "big love," but you know what? I got over it and moved on, had many other loves, then found the one I was meant to be with. The pain will stick around a while, but it will pass eventually. Best thing I can tell you, is show him you're over it. If he really cared for you, he'll see that and wonder why he left. But at your ages, don't expect to find what you want so soon, allow yourself to live and grow, learn from the experience and be better than him. Don't let this affect you so much, it is all part of living and maturing. You will be fine, I promise.
2006-08-08 10:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get over him...if he started dating someone right after you broke up...because he wanted to be single...well he is single and you are too. Hold your head up girl and get yourself together, start school with a whole new attitude. Go out of your way to look your best so that when he sees you, he will be the one looking and wondering, but ignore him...men hate to be ignored, and whatever you do dont get back with this jerk, hes insensitive and uncaring. Find a guy that will appreciate you for who you are, hey they are out there and judging from your ages, your gonna meet more jerks like him so learn how to deal with them now. When the right man comes into your life at the right time, you will know it and so will he. Best of luck.
2006-08-08 10:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by tigerpaws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like to me that he has moved on. If he hasn't picked up a phone to at least keep in touch with you or hasn't bumped into you "by mistake" then it looks like he is moving on. What you had may have been beautiful, but you need someone who is going to feel and love you the way you love him. It may take a while and of course it's human nature to be a little jealous of him and his new fling, especially if you have not found anyone yet. But like you said school starts in a while and things will be fresh so just make a couple of friends and see how it goes. Just don't move too fast, you don't want to make another mistake.
2006-08-08 10:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by mzpittman01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible his relationship is a rebound one; time will tell. He didn't really sound very clear about the reason he wanted to break up w/you: first saying you were possessive, but then getting into another relationship quickly.
As far as seeing him in school. you could either: ignore him, which might make him interested again (or not), or just try to be strong, say hi and smile.
It is a painful situation to be in, but do you really want to take the chance of being hurt by him again?
He doesn't seem to really know what he wants.
2006-08-08 10:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to agree with your ex but you DO sound possessive. You would probably be better off looking for someone else at this point. If he's moved on then you should too. Don't worry, you will get through this. Don't obsess over it. Try to modify your behavior so you aren't too possessive with the next guy you date or it will end the same way.
Good luck and try to have a great day.... no wait... I order you to have a great day!!!!
2006-08-08 10:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to take a while for you to get over him, your feelings right now are normal. You WILL get over it. It sounds to me like he just doesn't want to be in a relationship, he'll probably see other people besides the girl who is 3 hours away. Hang in there, you will find someone else, in the mean time have fun with your freinds.
2006-08-08 10:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by nahimana34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patient for what? The possability that he'll want you back. You can't live for possability. Don't sit by and wait. Waiting is why you're still upset and depressed. No. Take back your life. Start living it. Then seeing him in school won't be a big deal.
2006-08-08 10:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I've heard this question before. I know life can be difficult when you have a broken heart: But if he ended it, then move on sweets! Good luck. Try changing things around you that you see every day, such as your closet, your bedroom, your bathroom, rearrange things. KEEP BUSY.. often times if our mind is occupied with one thing, its harder to focus on the things bothering us. Kind of like mind control on yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-08 10:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you are feeling as I am going through my own heartache right now, but ....
He doesn't want you, sweetie! I know that sucks because you want him, but that is just the way it is. Have you ever read the book 'He is just not that into you'? Pick up your life and find someone who worships the ground you are walking on....
Don't wast the pretty....
2006-08-08 10:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by dk_angel2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋