My daughter has the messiest room. She is lazy and a slob when it comes to cleaning. I have tried many different organization systems. As it stands, she just has too much stuff and her dad is always buying her more whenever she goes to see him.
She doesn't pick up after herself often wi/o me reminding (nagging) her and I am just so fustrated.
She is 10 and the mess doesn't seem to bother her too much. Please help. I've even tried throwing things away, but to no avail. Thanks in advance for answering.
2006-08-08 03:07:12 · 11 answers · asked by pcgirl2006 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First, you need to deal with the Daddy spoils the little girl issue. How is she supposed to keep a room clean when she has too much stuff to begin with? This needs to be something she does at both of your houses. I would recruit the Father in this effort.
Begin with by sorting out stuff she doesn't play with anymore. She's 10, so it's time for the chore list. I wouldn't remind her of anything. It's get it done now or she doesn't get to play. Period end of story.
2006-08-08 03:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mosaic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were on the right track with the throwing away. What you need to do is a "toy purge". Go into her room and pitch everything that is old, broken, etc. You can enlist her help if you want, but you will wind up with too many "sentimental" things that way. It sounds like she's a pack rat, and to pack rats everything is dear to them. Do keep the nicer things and things that are ultra-precious. You can't throw out all her memories! Use your best judgment on what's what.
If that does not work, tell her the next time you see stuff scattered on the floor, you will break it and toss it in the trash, no matter who gave it to her or what it is. It's called tough parenting, and if she's not respecting you now, what will she be doing in the next few years when she becomes a teen? You've got to lay down the law. If she gets away with not doing this, she'll get into worse, believe me.
2006-08-08 04:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a horribly messy room as a kid but I grew out of it. It drove my mom nuts for a bit then she decided we should just keep the door shut I neatened it if I was having friends over. I knew where evrything was in my mess There was nothing rotting or dishes hidden just clothes and item all over. Ask yourself if neatness is worth the fighting and argueing and resentment. Then decide if you can ignore her current ways which just have to do with expression and making her own choices. If you clash now over little things how will she respond over the bigger stuff to come? I'm now married with a baby and a clean house so a messy room won't ruin her for life. Set a few limits, give her a pretty cool trash an so the papers won't be on the floor as much and try to enjoy good things right now. Good luck
2006-08-08 04:15:06 · answer #3 · answered by emily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow are you confident you're literally not my mum? that sounds lots like me except i do not bypass ballistic. i think like a large type of my stuff don't have an section it belongs so when I clean that's only a speedy fix. My dad continuously threatens that he will take a garbage bag to even with is on the floor, he hasn't lengthy previous by ability of with it yet when he says it I do it that evening. My mum actual wiped clean my room once and he or she did throw a large type of issues out. some I were given out of the bin and replaced into in huge problem! you're able to purchase her a medium sized laundry abate for her room and get her to apply that so that you do not have the showering pileup. Is it merely clothing that are a mess? if there's a messy table or table honestly a approach of small drawers could do the trick. Or some plastic curler storage bins lower than the mattress.
2016-11-23 15:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im almost 13 and you should see my room. Dont make her clean it WILL get messy again. Or do what DY_lover said
2006-08-08 03:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her father, tell him come over and look at how her room is and to stop buying more and more stuff for u to toss in the trash .
tell her if she dont start being responsible she CANT HAVE FRIENDS OVER
2006-08-08 03:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do clean her stuff for her.. let it pile to the point that she will be annoyed by the stuff. your child is spoiled by her father. she shouldn't be spoil with yoyu. set some limits and rules
2006-08-08 05:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by buang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her something she wants, like a shopping spree (dont have to psend alot) 4 keeping it clean
2006-08-08 03:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dead_Seagull 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it together so that's also bonding time. Then go out for pizza or ice cream afterwards.
2006-08-08 03:29:51 · answer #9 · answered by curious_maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her if she does clean up that you'll take her shopping or something thats what my mom did
2006-08-08 03:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋