he made me do it but its in the past i always had thoughts about having sex with a man i always wander what it would be like to be with a man cause when i with a women i cant get nothing out of it .its like this hole i must fill but i cant and no women can feel it am i gay if i am how do i come out of the closet and do it?
2006-08-08 03:06:42 · 24 answers · asked by beam 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No person is a homosexual unless and until he PRACTICES actual and voluntary homosexual fornication (including receiving or performing genital manipulation with another person for the purpose of sexual gratification).
Even a person who has done that in the past and then resolves to discontinue these practices is more properly called a FORMER homosexual. Note Paul's use of the word "WERE" at 1 Cor 6:11.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2000/7/15/article_01.htm
2006-08-08 04:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a gay male and I just want to give you the view point from the gay community , The forced sex act of your brother does in no way make you gay . The desires you are having may be a direct effect of that act . Get some counseling and talk to someone who specializes in incest and rape , second talk to the councilors not only about the forced sex act with your brother but also about the feelings you are having , Third take the time you need to work on the incest and sort out the feelings with the help of a councilor and then you will be able to put into perspective the feeling and know if they are what you truly feel or if they are a something brought on by the incest committed by your brother with you . You are in no way responsible for what happened to you , You were too young to know what you were doing , Get the help you need to work through the feelings and then you can decide what is right for you .
2006-08-08 06:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strangely, you ask whether someone's abuse of your innocense makes you gay - then you go on to describing a more than bland experience with "women" (not one woman), you supplant that statement with your secret yearnings towards men and the fact that no woman has of yet satisfied you.
Guess what?
Only you can define whether you are gay, but it sounds as if you are ready for the good ol' college try. Before you go banging down the closet doors I would suggest that you do two things and I'll explain why:
1) Meditate over whether you "really" want to take on the lifestyle of a homosexual, including familial changes and long-range effects on your choices for your own family. It is always wise to study long rather than hastily doing anything.
2) Frequent a gay establishment and participate as a spectator, slowly gaining more in-depth knowledge as accords your comfort zone. Do not be afraid to ask some of the people in attendance what their initial feelings were and get "answers" from those who are more qualified than Yahoo Answers.
Then make your decision with relation to your comfort zone. I would not come out of the closet until a few relationships (speaking from experience). You may very well be going through a phase.
Not discounting how you feel, but some can resist these urges and some must follow their yearnings. You must decide which category you are in before opening the closet and announcing to the world that you are indeed gay.
I'm just advising caution, although I feel that it is totally unfair that people are stigmatized, no matter what the Bible says, love of people for being people should reign supreme over how people interpret the treatment of gays in God's eyes, especially since He is a forgiving God. Face it, that is the origin of people's fear and hatred of gays.
Good luck in your self discovery!
2006-08-08 04:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be bi -- you may be gay. The situation with your brother is immaterial however. You don't become gay because someone abuses you at 5. I know an awful lot of straight guys who were abused by brothers, older friends, in some cases fathers -- and one by his mother. It doesn't make people gay.
Your feeling that a woman doesn't fulfil you -- that its just a hole you can't fill may be a stronger indicator. But it also may not.
When you masturbate -- if you think about male friends that you think are attractive, is it a stronger orgasm than if you think about girls? if you just let your mind do what it wants when you are horny -- does it think about boys, or girls, or both?
Those are the questions you need to ask yourself.
You also could find a close gay friend and ask him to experiment with you -- tell him you aren't sure. Then you will have something to compare it to.
Regards,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
PS to achtung -- its nice that your fundamentalist religious organization so asserts -- however, a person IS homosexual if what he WANTS is other members of the same sex. Activity is meaningless, its desire that matters. I was gay long before I had my first boyfriend. You can assert whatever you want, but other than making yourself and your particular fundamentalist group look stupider than usual, it won't prove anything.
2006-08-08 04:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yesw, you are gay, but you are right now in a moment of confusion obviouslly. Try not to think how to come out of the closet, that is something that gets done naturally. But try not to keep on having sex with your brother, it's not good. Just try to meet gay boys through chat, so you can speak with them and have some fun. They will understand exactly what you are going through and will be able to give you pieces of advice. >Good luck!
2006-08-08 03:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Genio Atrapado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raped by 7 guys when I was 9 years old and one of them sat on a pillow on my head while the others raped me, so that others would not hear me screaming. I passed out several times and thought I was going to die. For years I thought this act had made me have homosexual desires but that is the teaching of the ex-gay community. It is very damaging and can really screw you up. Because I was told that, that was the reasons for my desires I went ahead and got married and had children and have lived the straight life. This is my life now the life I chose even if based on faulty teaching it is still my life and I have to live it now as a man who made a vow before God. You need to accept that past abuse doesn't make you homosexual God makes you that way and no amount of therapy will change that. You do need therapy but not to make you straight but to help you come to terms with your past.
What your brother did was abuse and you need to process it.
2006-08-08 03:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That act when you were 5 doesn't make you gay. Lots of kids miss around when they are little. I know I did, it's just part of growing up. You are gay only if you know in your heart that you want to find love with someone of the same sex. It never hurts to try it and see. Only you can be the one to decide for yourself. Good luck.
2006-08-08 05:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should first get help for what you had happen to you when you were younger with your brother. Then you can decide from there if you truly are gay or not, good luck. What you've went through is difficult.
2006-08-08 03:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by christina s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That do not make you gay, but, and big BUT, if you like to be with a man, yes you are gay and afraid to be yourself just because of society.
Be yourself, you also might be not gay but bisexual which is normal.
2006-08-08 03:49:56 · answer #9 · answered by bigonegrande 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old was your brother? ILL! Ummmm Your gay! STayn gay be proud and get al the lovin your can. Just stay away from your brother. FYI your brother is a homo also!
2006-08-08 05:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by david s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋