Is it wrong to be despondent if your all alone in the world, and don't have a girlfriend to love you ?

Answer 1

No it is not wrong....everybody needs someone to love and needs to be loved.

Answer 2

Sorry to tell you this but we are all alone in this world. How we choose to interact with each other throughout life's journey is what makes it rich and worthwhile.
You cannot expect someone to love you if you do not have respect for yourself. If you can appreciate your own life then you can love and be loved.
A girlfriend will not make you complete, you are already a whole person, worthy of a good life. You just have to believe it as fact.

Answer 3

I used to be that way in HIgh School. Now that I am almost 30, and with 4 kids, I almost wish, I wouldn't have been that way. I am positive that everyone has a soul mate somewhere in this world, sometimes you find that special one if you look, and sometimes it just happens on its own.Take my advise, as a single mother, do not be a prude, let yourself be loved and allow yourself to love. Hope I helped.

Answer 4

Yes... It is wrong! Never base you personal value on someone else's ability to see love in you. You are worthy and lovable all on your own merit and accord and if you never learn that... no one will ever be able to love you.

"You teach people how to treat you." Lou Tice

Most of it is bullsh*it these days anyway! Although it is a deeper NEED in a male to have a mate out of genuine love. Women tend to love, out of needs being met. Men love deeper but don't usually know how to express it properly so they often revert back to animalistic behavior through speed mating and casual sex. Women know how to give love, but they usually use it as a means to an end.

and if anyone argues this... They are not honest with themselves or anyone else for that matter...

Remember, never give sex to get love, and never give love to get sex!

You'll be fine... Try match.com? There really is, someone for everyone!

Answer 5

Happiness comes from inside you, not from outside. Even for a person who has many friends and a girlfriend/wife, happiness comes from inside. And a person who has not (yet) chosen to create his happiness inside often doesn't appear very appealing to those people out there whom you wish would be friendlier or more loving. You have to start with yourself. Each person is wonderful in his or her own way, so be happy. The rest will come in time, but even if it doesn't, still be happy.

Answer 6

Yes,just remember if you are not happy with yourself how can anyone else be happy around you?If you are despondent you will feel desperate and no one is attracted to either.

Answer 7

Look man you aren't alone in this old world you got all of us for starters don't rush life take the time to smell the roses and live for the day Drop me a line any time !!!

Answer 8

No, it's not but you can certainly do something about it!

Just pick yourself up and get yourself moving and go out and meet some girls, man! Stop feeling sorry for yourself and just go and do it! What have you got to lose!

There are a lot of girls out there, believe me, that are dying to meet you! You just have to get yourself in to the right place to meet them. Go to the places where the girls hang out and I am sure you will meet someone. Good luck!

Answer 9

Being alone is perfectly Okay, if we master the technique of not becoming lonely !
Many many people feel lonely even when they are in a crowd of their own very close ones !

Answer 10

"Despondent" is perhaps a mild term for the range of emotions one can experience when "alone" in the world. But, many experience this sadness, depression, loneliness even when fully involved with someone else, or in the midst of a large family.

We are not informed regarding much of what goes on with us as we journey through life. We are in the dark, so to speak, especially in the West, because we are not encouraged to invest ourselves in the study of mysticism, or even our own MIND and Spiritual realms. We are encouraged to "think" positive thoughts, and to hold positive attitudes, and to keep as busy as we can doing something... what we do doesn't really matter, as long as we are continually exhausted in doing whatever it is we do.

The reason we are told to do this is to divert our attention from who and what we are.... and from what we naturally experience when we happen to wander within ourselves. Until one realizes that the intense sense of loneliness one experiences when not focused outside oneself is not "bad", but is merely a realization of how very separated one is from ones Spiritual reality, one naturally and automatically attributes negativity to such loneliness.

This loneliness is actually a bit of Grace, a way of nudging one into realizing how empty [relatively speaking] life is... in comparison to who and what one really is within oneself. The tough part is the transition from heavy involvement in the physical world to subtly moving within oneself. This initial stage of separation from ones attachments to the world is filled with sadness, loneliness, and a sense of despondency... not unlike falling into a dark pit or misery. Many are driven to suicide, due to the intensity of this pain of loneliness.

It is important , perhaps even life sustaining in fact, to realize that what one is going through is that one is being called Home by God. That we rarely imagine such a thing is evidence of just how far we have traveled from who and what we truly are. At our core, we are Souls...absolutely pure in our reality, and surrounding our Souls are MINDs with which we interact with life though our physical bodies. Only our Souls are Real, and of a permanent nature.

My only useful advice is to begin focusing on the Reality of who and what you are, and to place this world in a lesser position relative to your Self. We do need to interact with people, places, and things, but don't ever forget the illusory nature of life realitive to the Reality within you.

Answer 11

Well you're never going to get a girlfriend like that. Cheer up, there are people out there that have it worse than you. Like trying to please 2 girlfriends at once.