Do you think it is always wise to help someone out of their problems & troubles?

Question

wise and or beneficial....please explain a little . Thanks !!

Answer 1

no, because somethings are not as cut and dry as you first think - alot of the times explanations / advice can be taken the wrong way - and often makes the situation worse than before.

Answer 2

I would hesitate to use the word "always." If a person has gotten into trouble, with the law, for example, they should face the consequences of their actions and pay the penalty.

Sometimes people learn to be dependent on others so much that they expect an enabling friend or family member to come to their rescue at the drop of a hat. Helping that person is not really beneficial, because it just perpetuates a cycle of dependency. Instead, it would be wise to help that person find their own way out of trouble. Support and empower him if possible.

This of course depends on the situation. For the most part, it is wise and beneficial to help people. Even if your efforts go unnoticed by others and the results come later down the road, at least you have done what you could to make a difference.

Answer 3

Not unless you are a social worker who is getting paid to do it.

I think it's important to be willing to lend a ear but experience tells me that sometimes it's just better to do nothing at all.

I think that the exception would be family (like a child or a parent). Perhaps my family is unique but we all (on both sides) feel that money (if that's the problem) is only good if it helps and benefits the people you love. Repayments are not necessary and no one holds it over your head...ever.

However, if it's friends with issues, that's something different. I know that I have friends who do STUPID things and they never seem to learn from their mistakes. I basically listen to them rant and rave. They usually go against everything I've told them that they should do. So for them, my stock answer is usually something to the effect of, "And how did that work for you?" When they are done complaining to me, they move on to the next poor soul and I don't hear from them again until they get themselves into more trouble.

People are their own worst enemies. It's best to be empathetic and kind but not to get suckered into the melodrama of others. Life is hard for everyone. I've learned to surround my self with those who want to make the best of it like I do.

You can't save other people. It's a lesson that is hard learned but it's just reality. Love does sometimes have to have limits.

Answer 4

Absolutely not. I've tried to help people in the past, and sometimes, they are really appreciative and they stay out of trouble and strife.
But there are people that keep getting help from people, they can't figure their way out of a paper bag with a torn bottom. These are the people you can't help. They have to learn how to do it themselves. Otherwise, it will just make them depend on you either emotionally or financially or whatever the case may be and cause you stress and anxiety.
These people have had someone to take care of them their whole lives, and they need to think for themselves.
So, you need to evaluate, what type of person you are trying to help, it's a case by case basis.

Answer 5

It depends on the situation. If someone is always finding themselves in some sort of trouble then it would probably be best to let them handle things on their own so they learn to not do the things that landed them in to trouble in the first place.

Answer 6

Not always wise,because then they seem to repeat the same problems,a little tough love never hurts!

Answer 7

It may be beneficial to lend advice to someone, but not step in and "bail" a person out. Should you always bail someone out, they come to be dependent on that and think they always have a crutch to lean on.

Answer 8

it's a good thing but can be a bad thing If they think someones always gonna be there to pick up the pieces for them. They have to know they gotta do it themselves.

Answer 9

nop it isn't wise all the time...actually if u gave them the wrong advice u can get'em more troubles than they have!

Answer 10

No, because sometimes it can come back to bite you in you a$$.