I am 22, we have been maried for 2 years, together for 5, and have 1 child. i am still a size 8 and i no im not ugly and have always made an effort with my aperance but i never feel like he fancys me.
I cant talk to him cos he just says i am beeing stupid, why is it that i turn heads every day, but never his.
I get chatted up all the times and pollitly tell people that i am married but all along i wish he would be the one looking at me like other men do. i am also 3 months pregnant and am worried i am about to become even less atractive in my hubbys eyes.
We still have an reasonabley good sex life but i just dont feel WANTED, how can i make him lust after me? i dont think he realises just how i feel.
2006-08-08 03:02:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It happens, honey, unfortunately all too often. Been there, sometimes still doing that some days. Talk to him, sweetie. Marriage isn't always the fairy tale we want it to be. There's kids and jobs and and chances are he's under a lot of pressure. Men feel a lot of pressure to "perform" (if you will), to provide for their families. I know my husband does. Sometimes we get so caught up in "life" that we tend to push our relationships to the backburner.
Sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Talk in terms of "I feel", not "you do/don't do", so he won't feel attacked. My husband is very much a thinker...smart, very intelligent guy. My therapist called him "left-brained", and he comes from a family where his parents marriage wasn't very good and ended up in divorce. He doesn't KNOW what a good marriage entails, you know? So he does the provider thing, does what needs to be done. I often have to remind him that our relationship needs to be on that list, that I want to spend time with him too. Talk to him, honey. But you're definitely not alone. A lot of women feel this way.
2006-08-08 03:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL FOR SOME REAON A LOT OF GUYS THINK THIS "WELL I GOT HER NOW" SO THEY THINK THEY DONT HAVE TO BE SWEET TALKING U ANYMORE BUT..... U REAQLLY NEE TO TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM U REALLY MEAN WHAT U SAY AND THAT U REALLY NEED THINGS TO CHANGE FOR THE SAKE OF YALLS MARRIAGE
2006-08-08 10:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best possible reason why he's nt treating you well anymore is he had some gals, outside which you havent been noticed yet, no feelings on you anymore. maybe.
try to spy on him wherever he goes.
2006-08-08 10:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by behind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tone down the sex maybe. Make him crave your body.
2006-08-08 10:08:28 · answer #4 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋