Amother of one.
2006-08-08 03:00:40 · 7 answers · asked by canadarikki 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have a 10 year old son and occasionally he tries me too.
1) If you are a single mom, seek a place where he gets more guidance from men. But don't make excuses for the support you don't have. You can do great on your own.
2) If you have a husband or man, he seriously needs to step up and straighten him out.
3) Apparently, he sees you as being weak/a pushover. Somehow, you've shown him you are. Usually this comes from threatening to punish him without actually doing it OR having unclear family rules without clear consequences that he KNOWS will occur every time OR trying to be his friend more than his mother OR showing him by example that you are weak in your own personal life. Internally, these things harm and stunt growth in boys bigtime. They react inappropriately. If any of this exists work to fix it.
4) Only children (as my son is also) are especially challenging. Hang in there and become stronger. Meanwhile, pay attention to what's going on in his social, academic life to make sure he isn't having troubles that he takes out on you.
5) Challenge him to a routine of chores, daily reading, etc. Reward him for doing well & have him do more work when he slacks. Expect more of him and he'll expect more of himself and he'll think more of himself and you too. He needs to be super clear at all times that you are the boss, he is the child - period!
6) There are great books with good advice out there, too.
Good luck on this!
2006-08-08 03:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by nikki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find his currency. Find the things that if taken away will really bother him-video games, TV, late bedtime, candy, fave food, sports, what ever it may be, or all of the above. Then every time he disobeys or smarts off, yank something away. All he really needs in his room is a mattress, and blanket and one change of clothing--you can actually go that far! Stand firm. Say what you mean-once-and mean what you say. It will get worse before it gets better, but when he is standing in his stripped down room, staring at the bare walls, grounded, he will start to get the picture. Let's all remember who is in charge in your house, and it is NOT your son. And you don't have to yell even once. State what the rules are, what the consequences of breaking them are, and go for it. Write it down and post it on the wall.
2006-08-08 10:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, take a deep breath...all teens go through this. especially boys at an earlier age, you just need to set the grounds, and tell him, you dont let things like that slide. remember, you the adult in this situation. you are in contrl....best of luck through his teening years
2006-08-08 10:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by i will be your friend! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the s h i t out of him until he learns his lesson
2006-08-08 10:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by ShaY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE HIM A TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICINE
NO PHONE CALLS, VIDEOS, TV, FRIENDS OVER
THE WORKS--------IF HE'S STILL THE SAME
DO WHAT MY MOM DID TO ME, WASH HIS MOUTH OUT WITH SOAP-OF COURSE NOWADAYS THAT'S PROBABLY CHILD ABUSE, BUT IT SURE WORKED FOR MY MOM
2006-08-08 10:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show him your not joking, dont beat him but the next time he disrespects you, slap his mouth
2006-08-08 10:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is disrespecting you then you should wipe him.
2006-08-08 10:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋