He swears that there has been no sex involed. He takes her to lunch about 3 times a week. He has even taken her shopping for clothes. PLEASE HELP ME. We have been married for 24 yrs. I do love him and want to save our marriage, but how do I do it? Should I tell him to find another job? Can I ever trust him again? I find it hard to believe anything he tells me. He tells me that she was not worth losing me and the family over, can I believe him?
2006-08-08 02:46:10 · 12 answers · asked by mammaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he's cheating, there's no way he's taking this chick out everyday and nothing is happening. I cannot believe you are taking this sh** from him. Stand up for yourself, hell no you can't trust him. Sounds to me like he's going to leave you anyday now. I'm sorry if this sounds mean but come on, you honestly cant believe he's not hooking up with this skank. I'd file for divorce and take the rest of his money before he spends it all on his whore. P.S. hell no you cannot trust him! kick her *** and his.
Honestly go down to his job beat her face in and divorce him!
2006-08-08 02:53:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well considering he has spent all this money on this lady and doesnt think anything is wrong i think hes dilussional.
How can anyone expect you to think there is nothing going on.
Either your husband wanted something to happen and thought showering this lady with gifts would get him there
or
there is already something going on.
I really dont know how you could fully trust him again after all this and especially after 24 years of marriage.
You need to sit him down and demand the truth no metter how upsetting.
If this lady isnt worth losing you(in his eyes) then he should have known when all this came out it would have a devastating effect on you.
You really need to talk to your husband and tell him you want the truth no matter how hurtful.
2006-08-08 03:10:22 · answer #2 · answered by freerange00720002000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXXXX I think your husband wants his cake and the icing too. And by the looks of things obvious you are letting him have it all. How can you save your marriage when you lost it the day he started seeing that coworker? How dare he take advantage of your insecurities. He knows you won't leave him, otherwise he would not be committing adultry in your face. How dare you subject yourself to this kind of treatment. The only reason he's staying in the marriage is because IT'S CHEAPER TO KEEP YOU. He wouldn't be able to take care of her if he's giving you half of everything he's got. $3000.00 in 8 months is a lot of money. She's got herself a sugerdaddy. Your husband!!!! I'd bet everytime they get together they laugh at what a fool you are for giving him open range to their dating. How much longer are you going to put up with this? It's ADULTRY, it's MENTAL ABUSE. Sure the paper says you've been married 24 years. But in reality, I wonder how long you too have been emotionally seperated. Find someone better, he did. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-08-08 04:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's into this for 3K that YOU know about, and you are still asking that question? So you have to lose the house before you make a decision? No matter what else you do, I suggest that you get control of the family finances before you are out on the street, penniless. Go open that bank account and transfer the money into it. The rest of this you have to decide, but could I trust him again? Not me. And no man spends 3k on a woman he's not sleeping with. He could have gotten someone else for cheaper.
2006-08-08 03:00:54 · answer #4 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay,mammaw...Even if there is no sex involved..he has obviously become EMOTIONALLY attached to this other woman.Im not sure which is worse. Are You??Perhaps it would be easier if it WERE just sex,ya know? 24 yrs is a long time..You and he need some marriage counseling!Or you need to hire a divorce attorney! This is a tough situation .... I wish you all the best! God Bless!!!
2006-08-08 03:05:54 · answer #5 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong when a husband spends that much money & time with another woman. I think it's time to find a good marriage counselor and discuss your feelings while he is there too. Even if he truly isn't sexually involved with this woman, he is involved and there is a reason....you need to find out.
2006-08-08 03:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
file for divorce and make sure you get what is left over of the money. since you're married, its not his money but your money. So he is buying her stuff from the family money. What a bastard!!!
Do you honestly believe that he is spending so much money and time on this woman without shagging her?? Wow!! Good for her if its the case!! I never found anyone like that!!!
2006-08-08 03:01:44 · answer #7 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he tells you shes not worth losing you over this...call him on it...tell him end this...if you have to leave the job to do ..then do it or you'll walk out of this marriage with your half of his life..
2006-08-08 03:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he isnt sleeping with her, he is still cheating on you emotionally, and that is just as bad. And putting you in financial trouble. I would give him a choice, you (and councelling) or her.
2006-08-08 03:23:58 · answer #9 · answered by rosecrashers1365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I THINK U NEED TO STOP WHAT HE IS DOING HE HAS NO REASON AT TALL TO BE WASTING SO MUCH MONEY ON A WOMAN THAT MEANS NOTHING TO HIM OR THAT ACCORDING TO HIM HE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER
2006-08-08 03:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋