For years I repressed the memory of what my dad did to me when I was very young...now I can't deny what happen. I can't mention it to my mom, but have told my big sister cause he did it to her too. I love my dad, but i know he f%cked up my head a lot, and my self hatred stems from what he did to me and my sister.
2006-08-08 02:38:47 · 15 answers · asked by snowcember 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i experienced the same thing. when i was about fifteen i had sex for the first time and i noticed i didn't bleed my boyfriend thought i lied that i was a virgin. that's when i started to remember how my father used to molest me when i was about eight maybe he did before but i cant remember. i never told my mom but i confronted when i was sixteen and all he said was that he didn't remember doing anything but if he did he was sorry. i thought was a pitiful bullsh*it answer so i ran away, he didn't want me to keep any friends or go anywhere. i am 24 now and am in a horrible relationship and i blame him for my choice in men. if he died i would not want to attend his funeral. a few years ago my friend from childhood told me that when she used to visit us for the summer he used to molest her!. that was so embarrassing for me. i don't hate him i pity him. i haven't forgiven him yet i just try to avoid thinking about it bit ultimately the best thing to do is forgive and move on dint let the past stop you from enjoying and embracing your future don't let his demons hold u down then he would have one. be strong and love yourself always God loves u and would never hurt u and that's all that really matters. tell your mom but be prepared because she might not react the way u want. nuff love and God bless!
2006-08-08 03:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by sarah jessica p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... I'm really sorry. That is entirely up to you. if you want to forgive him. it's okay to love your dad and not forgive him. it's hard I know. well... I don't really know... I've had something similar but not my dad... I know my answer didn't really help you. but maybe you and your sister could go to counseling. weather it be at a school counselor or someone your mom pays for. just listen to your heart, think with your mind. and everything should turn out okay. again. I am really sorry that, that happened to you.
2006-08-08 02:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk things out and yes you should tell your mom. He sounds like he is messed up and should seek counseling. Forgiveness comes from the heart and what you are doing is hiding your feelings and self from the outer world here and b/c of it-you get angry easier and more defensive towards others as well. Must talk it out and communicate.
2006-08-08 02:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that forgiveness releases your guilt associated with this molestation, It should give you closure that this incident is over, it in the past and it will no longer effect your present and your future...your father on the other hand will have to deal with the consequences of his behavior on his own...you are released from having any connection to such consequences...good luck..don't let this ruin your happiness with others.
2006-08-08 02:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i replaced into on your footwear my father abused me because i replaced into little til the age of 13. Its problematic to forgive yet even harder to overlook. when I informed somebody my entire life replaced foster care, scientific care, even juvenile. i'm 23 now and that i unquestionably forgave my father. i'm contained in the situation no count number if I would desire to circulate circulate to him in reformatory and coach him that HIS DAUGHTER his in hassle-free terms daughter is doing solid. human beings ask why I forgave him. the respond is elementary... i'm no one to choose and prefer it or no longer if it wasn't for him or my mom i does no longer be right here. Forgiveness takes an excellent sort of you if that individual replaced into meant to be a place sort. do no longer positioned your life in risk and supply him the better hand to maintain ruining your life. I comprehend each and every little bit. God bless you and in hassle-free terms you may push urself to circulate on with your life no one else.
2016-09-29 01:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULDN'T FORGIVE BECAUSE A FATHER IS A PERSON YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO TRUST AND HOW CAN YOU TRUST A PERSON WHO HAS VIOLATED YOU. HERE IS WHAT I RECOMMEND YOU TO DO DON'T FORGIVE HIM AND TELL YOUR MOM, AND HERE IS WHAT I WOULD DO I'D KNOCK HIM THE HELL OUT , BUT IN YOUR CASE PLEASE DON'T AND OH BEFORE I FORGET KEEP THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM AT ALL COST.
2006-08-08 02:48:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mavops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be able to forgive him, You should tell someone, He could be doing it to someone else, he should be put away so that he can't harm anyone else
2006-08-08 02:44:19 · answer #7 · answered by mightymight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry this happed to you but yes it did happen to me it took me a long time to get over this but i did my dad died two years ago from lung cancer before he died me and him made amends. please tell your mother, mine did not believe me a first but later she did. at least you will know where she stands,you can confront him to with your mom present it could not hurt. please go to church it might even help. good luck, i am thinking and wishing you luck
2006-08-08 03:02:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the memories you have you will always have-at least those you haven't blocked. get help for yourself. forgiveness is devine.
2006-08-08 02:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ran away from my mom when she did that to me when i was 7. i have not seen her or forgave her. heck i dont even care if she is dead or alive. i would never want to see her at all. if you like to chat more about it email me.
2006-08-08 02:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋