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iam starting to get very brudy lately! but i dont think my partners all that ready! what shall i say and do ?

2006-08-08 02:25:12 · 22 answers · asked by sweets 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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if you have friends with babys go play with theirs. If not you can call your local hospital and see if they have a "baby rocking" program. You have to be over 18 and take a class but basically you go in and hold the sick babies or babys that mom can't hold themso they get that healing touch that they need.

If you "partner" isn't ready you shouldn't force the issue of having kids. Either be patient or move on and find someone who shares your desire to be a parent.

2006-08-08 02:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Brandie C 4 · 2 0

I think that having a baby is a mutual agreement. You should try to sit down and have a serious conversation with him about it. If your boyfriend/lover is the type of person that doesn't really listen and understand at all, then I suggest that you wait a while before taking such a big step and confront him with the topic once again. Show him that it means a lot to you, but don't try to rush, there's a time and place for everything. If you pressure him too much, he might just give you what you want, but are you sure it's going to have such a positive effect on your relationship?

If you think you know each other well, you can trust each other, and there is LOVE in the relationship, then you SHOULD try to talk to him. Also consider the time span in which you've been with him (How well do you really know him?).

In case that you give it a shot I suggest that you take a firm yet understanding approach about it. Tell him exactly how you feel and how important the decision you make is for you. If he agrees, babysit a certain child/baby for a while to see if it's what you really want (it's not something easy). If he says no then consider at what point your relationship is, maybe it truly isn't the right moment.

Whatever decision you end up recieving from your boyfriend, take it into serious consideration because it won't only involve the both of you now.

2006-08-08 03:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jane F 1 · 0 0

First, sit down and have a conversation with your partner & discuss this matter. Having a baby takes alot. You must ask yourself, are you ready to care for a baby emotionally, physically and financially? I, too, have thought just like you when I was a teenager. I wanted a baby so bad but started babysitting my friend's children and kept them over the weekend. They are alot of work and some are really bad children. It requires patience and understanding them, as well. Some mother's in this world have babies and when they realized that they are alot of work, they can't deal with it. When the babies cry so much, the unfit mothers physically hurt the baby to hush them. It's so much abuse in this world because of unfit mothers. Now, let me ask you some questions to ask yourself: Do you have enough money to purchase diapers, bottles, baby food, baby clothes every month (babies grow fast!), enough money to take her/him to the doctor when sick, transportation of your own, the patience, and most importantly, are you ready to take on the many more responsibilities of this precious small baby?

2006-08-08 02:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0 0

IMO, if your partner does not want one, it's a no-go. With time, you both may be ready. Make very sure that your relationship is very strong, stable and committed before you have a child. Having children puts a strain on even the best marriage.

2006-08-08 02:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by G.V. 6 · 0 0

You will need the support of that partner if you have a child. You need to make sure the timing is right for you and partner. Get your fill with relatives/friends kids or get a job with kids. Talk to your partner about your desire and maybe you two can make a plan.

2006-08-08 02:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0 0

You don't have the right to force a child on your partner when he isn't ready for one. It should be a mutual decision made by both parties.

2006-08-08 02:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mosaic 4 · 0 0

you could take my 3 year old for a week...just kidding I would miss the chaos. If the answer to children is forever no...reevaluate your relationship and your needs. If the answer is not right now ....wait parenting is way better with Daddy on board and seeing reactions first hand. My hub and I share everything and our girls know that they can be helped, comforted, or cared for by either of us....I wouldn't have it any other way.

2006-08-08 02:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by shelli552003 2 · 0 0

Speak out your feelings with your partner and let him have his say.
You must remember that if you say nothing, he will be wondering
if the pregnancy was really caused by him. Doubt is terrible in these
cases and will haunt you and/or your partner for a lifetime.

2006-08-08 02:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0 0

you could see how ready you are for it by seeing if friends or family would allow you to look after thier child for a week on trial see how your partner copes with it.....just say it like that to him it could get him wantin one

2006-08-08 02:30:42 · answer #9 · answered by rosa_govan 3 · 0 0

wait till he is ready and wait till you can afford to give it security but most of all are you mentally fit to ensure you can give a child all the things that they deserve? i mean ready by being mature enough emotionally to raise a child

2006-08-08 02:36:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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