Everyone hates me now... I do not even know how they found out I liked guys instead of girls... I only told my best friend who is out of town now... He is going to hate me when he gets back like everyone else...
I feel horrible and evil now, only people not picking on me are those I used to pick on!
2006-08-08 02:18:36 · 26 answers · asked by no_longer_smiling 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you where homophobic you where probably outed by someone you picked on. This is why all homophobes need to be nice.
2006-08-08 02:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you. This is a really severe encounter with Karma.
I'm not really sure what your question is, however, I'm assuming you are looking for some advice regarding your current crisis.
You messed up. You are not the first person to encounter karma in a very messy way. You will certainly not be the last. Move on. Make new friends where you can. You should probably tell the people who are not picking on you that you understand the sadness you caused them and feel bad about it. You should be very thankful they didn't feel like they needed to get back at you.
No matter how bad things look at the moment, you have the ability to make things better. All people make mistakes... this is probably just your first big one. When the dust settles, look around you and find the good things/people. Rebuild on those things.
You don't have to be a victim of this situation. You can learn your lesson and go on to have a better life. People are often in worse situations and still come out ahead.
I know you can do it.
2006-08-08 11:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kiddo. . .
You're going through a ***** of a time right now, and I hate that for you. The good news is that this is the worst time.
You are NOT horrible and evil. . .certainly not because of who you choose to love! Are you in a position that you can leave town? Do you have any sympathetic relatives? I actually am not advocating this, because I think that you have an opportunity to be courageous here- to be a role model for younger kids who may need some encouragement to be who they are- if you leave, and run from the negativity and difficulty, then maybe you'll be safe, but you're just passing the buck to the next kid, who will have to deal with the same bullsh1t.
I know that you're hurting, but you really have an ENORMOUS supportive community out there that is rooting for you to have the courage to do what you need to.
Best of luck to you!
2006-08-08 10:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa'sGurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not horrible, or evil. There is nothing wrong with homosexuality.
The reason you were picking on people was to distract other people so that they wouldn't notice that you liked bois too.
It failed.
That's ok. Embrace yourself. So you've lost scummy friends who never really cared anyway. Make new ones who do -- and know that you are loved, even if its across the net.
*hug*
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
http://www.rebuff.org
PS Your "best" friend probably called someone and told them. Homophobes are like that. He may be hiding too -- and it wouldn't do to run the risk someone might figure it out. Homophobia is more pathetic than anyone realizes.
2006-08-08 11:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the saying goes, "Payback is a *****"! You were outed because of the stupid things that you've done in the past(picking on other folks). It doesn't matter if the town you live in is homophobic or not, you had no business being a bully to folks. Now that you're out, get involved with a support group and start accepting who YOU are. Others will come around if they really and truly love you. Deal with yourself first.
2006-08-08 09:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll put you in my prayers.
It will get better.
Have faith in your self and in God.
Yup! There is no kind of a hateful homophobe like a gay guy in denial!
If your parents are homophobic and you are still under their roof it would have been better not to have told anyone until you were on your own.
Can you move out? Can you move to a place with a big gay community?
Network within the gay community. Go to your local gay lesbian community center. See gay movies and read books. You need time and education. Give your self plenty of both.
You arn't alone. A lot of people have walked your path before you. Don't try and reinvent the wheel, find out what others have done to be successful and copy them.
Best of luck to you.
2006-08-08 09:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are now going through this. Coming out is often a time of trials that will build character and make you into a much better person. You now understand how hurtful words can be. You now understand how hurtful it is to have you love thrown to the side.
This will make you a better person in life as a whole. As for your family and friends. Your family will come around most likely. This is just a shock to them and their lives as well. Give it some time and I am sure their love will return to you. As for your friends. They will either change their minds and come back or thee were never really friends. You will make new ones that support you as well. Cheer up. Your life will get better. If you need someone to talk to contact me. Glad to lend an ear and support.
2006-08-08 09:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope that your family does not hate you for who you are. I think people are taught that certain things are good or bad from their up bringing.
Just remember this! You are right in being true to yourself and what you want out of life! I know you feel horrible right now, but you are not evil. You might have to get in your family and friends faces and let them know that this is who you are and they need to learn to accept it!!!
It might help you if you can find a counsler to talk to about your feelings and how to best deal with your family and friends.
2006-08-08 09:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by kimberleibenton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a parent of a gay child:- Hey, have you grown horns, or killed someone or something?
So you are gay, so what? Loving someone of the same sex - is that the worse you can do in your life. At least you ain't living a lie!
I don't expect you actually chose to be born gay did you?
It sounds like its the beginning of a new chapter for you. Remember you will have to come out the closet at some time, might as well be now as later. Your parents and family and friends will vary in knee jerk re actions to being dead cool about it.
You parents MAY run and hid in the damned closet themselves for a while, give them all time, you may well have known for ages, its al new to them. Give em all a chance, there is a lot of help out there for you, advice, support groups and stuff, seek it out. And above all love your self and give others the chance to get to know the real you, above all - be brave!!!
2006-08-08 14:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by SUPER-GLITCH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it's okay...we've all been there and we do understand...things will get better for you....Much better.....your bestfriend doesn't necessarily or may not hate you..Hell he might even be gay himself (like people often attract like friends)..In any case if he really is your friend he won't hate you.
Go a little easier on yourself...you're just feeling a little fragile..If I could take all that hurt away believe me I would..but at the same time I know you'll be okay..Believe in yourself.
2006-08-09 21:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just need to get used to it, mostly your family. My guess is that most will come around. And I doubt very much that your best friend is going to dump you after coming home and you see each other again. He might very well say to you, "Tell me something that I don't already know." Best friends pick up on a lot of things we don't realize.
2006-08-09 06:45:17 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋