My wife is addicted to the lifetime channel and won't come to bed at night it's destroying our marriage, help

Question

Erica, I am not insecure, I have plenty enough guts to walk the hell out and find a women who will apreciate spending time with me. because I am worth that.

Answer 1

lifetime is every man's nightmare

they should just call it the man hating channel

is this week set a man on fire week on lifetime?? or is it the lorena bobbit month?

in any case, you clearly how no clue how to control a woman, just cut your own nuts off and save her the trouble

Answer 2

Your problem is simple. WHen she's not around simply break the TV. By the time you "get around" to fixing it (or buying a new one) you can get some talk out of her. Yes this is "game play" and not always a good thing.

The crux of the matter is she is avoiding you for some reason. You as the leader of the family must sit her down and "have the talk". To remove the excuse of I love this show then maybe you buy her a TVIO or some other recording device so she won't miss her shows. Then she can watch them at her leisure. But I feel that she is only avoiding coming to bed with you. Probably to avoid sex/intimacy. So initially you must address this first and offer the material things later.

How long have you been married to her. My ex-wife did the same thing...started to watch TV late at night...comming to bed way late all to avoid intimacy with me.

Check out the following website. It can answer your questions much better than I can. It covers things like borderline personality which may be an issue for your wife. But I don't have enough information.

http://www.condomsbrasandstraightjackets.com/

Good Luck

Answer 3

divorce her for loving the tv more than you... totally kidding

just explain to her your feelings about her addictiveness to the tv, and that you feel its becoming between you and your wife. Maybe you could tell her to keep to a certain time, in which she has to turn the tv off at like 10 pm or something. Try getting her out of the house, take her for a romantic dinner, or go start a hobby like salsa dancing, revive your marriage and your relationship. Make her look forward to something other than catchin the next programme thats on the channel. Shes probably that bored the only thing she finds entertaining is the tv. Get some excitement back in to both your lives. All the best x

Answer 4

It's only destroying your marriage because you are feeling insecure. Have you tried talking to her? Try an alternative like someone suggested watching with her. Or find a hobby that you enjoy during that time. How long has this been going on and wha time does she start during the day and end at night. If it's an obession that has been going on for years, she may need help with her addiction. At least you know where she is every night. But if this is a recent development it could be a phase she is going through. By all means, talk to her.

Answer 5

Give her an incentive to come to bed. Or try putting a television in the bedroom. Make a deal that you set the sleep timer for a period of time. When that's over, the television stays off till the next day. Most of their shows can be watched later in the week anyhow. Or are reapeats. While she is watching you get to have her in bed with you, and snuggle. When the television goes off, maybe you could turn something else on.
If that doesn't work for you, tell her you will cut off the cable if she doesn't start coming to bed.

Answer 6

It seems funny but it's television. -it will always be there-shows will come on again some point or another, but people grow and things will change overtime. Let your wife know that time with each other is very important and helps your relationship grow. I tell my husband and ask him for his time when he is on the computer at times. He does get a little mad at first but then he rethinks and turns the computer off. She may be a little stubborn at first but know that time is important with one another. Most precious thing in a relationship is time, love, communication, and trust.

Answer 7

For one thing it depends on what time of the night that it is! If it is the time of night when the two of you can share together, you should sit and watch it with her! They have a lot of beautiful & romantic movies to watch! If she sees that you are interested in the movie too, that will make her wants & needs for romance increase, because you are sitting and snuggling with her! Her intrest in the movie will soon vanish, because she has you with her, even if she is still interested in the movie she will be loving and talking with you! If you want your marriage to work you have to show her that you want & enjoy her company! And vise-versa
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 8

Be thankful she is not out drinking and cheating~there are worse things she could be doing than watching TV~its not even bad TV
if you are going to keep cable on, then put a TV in the bedroom~then you can watch together~and be in bed together!!! :)

Answer 9

She seems to be turning to Lifetime for the solutions to her problems. It isn't the answer. She should seek counseling. If there are problems in your marriage and she is using a movie or program as leverage to win arguments with you, this isn't conducive to a successful marriage. It only adds more problems.

Answer 10

maybe you arent doing what you are supposed to do to get her to WANT to come to bed...maybe she likes the fantasy of the marriages on tv, wishing you were more like some of the tv husbands, you have to romance her, and not just in the bedroom, but from the beginning. treat her like the queen she is, maybe also she is just so tired and needs to relax, you should give her massages, cook dinner, make her WANT to go to bed. there is a huge difference between WANTING and NEEDING. you need to learn and understand the difference.