I love a guy in California, I live in Boston, what would you do?

Answer 1

Perhaps the best advice is to take it slow and continue to keep in touch with each other. Cell phone bills can become expensive, so I recommend that you chat online on a regular bases and use other forms of communications, such as text messaging. If you still feel the same about each other, in another six months; perhaps its time to seriously consider having a discussion on movement. The problem with having a long distance relationship; is the physical aspect of not being able to embrace each other; when its required. Hang in there buddy; nothing is impossible when it comes to love.

Answer 2

Long distance relationships require a huge commitment, and a lot of work. They also require frequent travel. If you are not willing to do all that, look elsewhere.

I dated my partner for a year long distance - 1100 miles between us. But we saw each other every other weekend, and ran up huge cell phone bills. We talked online a lot of the time too. We had mutual friends (we are both members of Gay square dance clubs) and we attended many events together. After a year, I moved to be with him - that was five years ago, and we're very happy.

It can work, but it's not easy.

Answer 3

If you two want to be together badly enough then there is a way to make this work. You BOTH have to be willing to make some sacrifices, though. If you're both not willing to move or unable to move then I'm not sure how it's going to work. Moving from one coast to the other would be unnerving for anyone especially if you both have families that you are close to. I hope this works out for both of you.

Answer 4

If you met him via the Internet, Man I hate to say this because I read a lot of your questions and posts and think you are a very nice guy....but if you met him via the Internet you already know the answer.........you just don't want to know. Internet dating can really romanticize everything, and the yearning love that stretches across the miles always seems to be the hardest to obtain.

If it were me we would pass along several heart felt, anguish riddled e-mails and eventually things would fizzle, leaving us both happier for the experience.

I can offer you one moment of relief from your pain - I live in St Louis and host a huge Halloween party each year - you are both welcome to come half way across the nation and meet at my party!

Costume is required! :-) And yes, nude is a costume! hee hee

Answer 5

If you can work out the distance by frequent visits (think cost) and sustain the times you will be apart, go for it. Maybe in the future when you both decide you want something serious, either one will move to the other's place and continue the relationship.

Answer 6

Besides telling us your in love with someone across the country, your not giving up too much info. Been together long? Does he want you to move? Post another question, give up more detail...

Answer 7

Get real. Do you love him because he is unatainable? There are probably 3 really great guys within a ten minute walk of your house who'd love to know you.

Answer 8

either move (depending on him) or remain friends and date other people. simple, long distance relationships are very hard to maintain and every one I've know broke up within 6 months of moving to be together, probably because they love the ideal of the person and not the everyday reality...........good luck!!!

Answer 9

Unless 1 of you are willing to pick up and move, it's not going to work...you have a lot of thinking to do!

Answer 10

My Sister is in California and she's looking....do you have a phone number?