My married lover is driving me insane he has practically moved into my house. (His wife works out of town). He keeps talking about he wants to leave his wife. I don't mind being his mistress but I have a relationship I am building on my own. I never wanted this to be more than a sex thing. How do I convince him to stay with his wife?
2006-08-08 01:56:23 · 20 answers · asked by Tiredofbrainlessmorons 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pack all his shiznits in two grocery bags, change the locks and don't answer the phone or door when he comes by.
That's what you get for having such good koochie, LOL.
You can also go to his wife directly and say haye, you need to do something about your husband, I don't want him and he's taking over my house.
THAT would definitely keep him off your back. And get a restraining order if you have to.
Diva
2006-08-08 02:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by black_bi_diva 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Should not have gotten involved in the beginning. Now that you have it has opened a lot of doors to some possible and very dangerous problems. He cannot have his cake and eat it too-that's what he is doing. He is cheating on you and his wife and he sounds like a dog. You deserve better than that and there are so many guys out there that are single guys looking for a good time if the sex thing is all you want. You must, in my opinion, end things with this guy b/c it will be a sticky situation being in the middle of someone's relationship -marriage is sacred and both you as his mistress and him aren't people who seem to be trusting. If I was his wife I would be upset mostly with him and know that the marriage isn't sacred or promising. As for you, b/c you knew that he was married-why go with it? That will only get you as I said in some dangerous and deceitful mess.
2006-08-08 02:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a gorgeous severe dedication. My ideas are that if you're penning this on right here you're having doubts or a minimum of interesting the proposal of taking her again. Yes, your believe disorders do look to be reputable however why no longer take a while and appear into it deeper? Maybe a few counceling is so as...that method you'll be able to say that you just did placed forth a few type of attempt and gave it fairly of a attempt to ensure that this dating is over for you. Maybe she's going to difference her brain additionally and say "nevermind....permit's transfer ahead with the divorce" It by no means hurts to maintain your self open to all choices and also you would discover that you just fairly do love your spouse and probably inclined to reconcile...men and women do difference and a divorce is definately a lifestyles exchanging enjoy. Good success...simply my 2 cents
2016-08-20 23:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a pretty critical commitment. My thoughts are that in case you are writing this on right here you're having doubts or at least entertaining the notion of taking her again. Sure, your believe problems do look to be official however why now not make the effort and seem into it deeper? Might be some counceling is in order...That means that you could say that you did put forth some sort of effort and gave it quite of a attempt to make certain that this relationship is over for you. Possibly she is going to exchange her intellect additionally and say "nevermind....Let's transfer ahead with the divorce" It under no circumstances hurts to preserve yourself open to all choices and you would find that you fairly do love your spouse and possibly willing to reconcile...People do change and a divorce is definately a life altering expertise. Excellent good fortune...Simply my two cents
2016-08-09 10:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you it is a sex thing but it sounds like that it may be more than that for him. You may want to discuss the parameters of your relationship and explain that a relationship is not what you had in mind at all, yoir interest in him is completely physical.
Also, if you are building a relationship and it works out you may feel better by ending things with this guy so everything starts out on the right foot.
2006-08-08 02:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your fault, you have to be honest with him, why would you allow a married man to live with you?...What did you think was going to happen?You are selling yourself cheap, now you have to be honest with this man and tell him the truth....You reap what you sow, now that you want a relationship, you want to kick him to the curve.... what if that happen to you, just when you start getting serious with this other person he comes and tell you, I don't want you, I love someone else...Stay the mistress, since you didn't mind, it's women like you that make it easy for a man to cheat, don't feel sorry for his wife, you might be doing her a favor....
2006-08-08 02:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by "gg" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End this relationship...TELL HIM you are no longer in need of his "services". And maybe he will still be able to work things out with his wife.You and he BOTH should be ashamed of the way you have handled this!You may have ruined his marriage forever.You should have found your own man...not take someone else's.I understand how these things can happen...but Make him leave you alone now....Good Luck
2006-08-08 02:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to end your relationship with him and get to work on this other relationship, the best and quickest way is to tell his wife everything. You'll never see him again.
2006-08-08 02:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You cant control anybody except yourself. You put yourself in this position, now you have to deal with it. How are you building another relationship when you are involved with this man. Why would you settle to be #2? You deserve better than this.
2006-08-08 02:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to come clean, and tell him of your boyfriend.Tell him
it's just a sex thing,and you have a boyfriend.Just tell him to stay
with his wife,and STOP seeing him.
2006-08-08 02:05:57 · answer #10 · answered by ted_haggard2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋