hi im 14 and 5months pregnant i dont know how to tell my parents, i won't go to the doctors what should i do?

Question

And when your in labour, can they take away the pain completly because i dont really want to feel that kind of pain, i think it will kill me

Answer 1

Sweetheart, you are not a bad person for getting pregnant. Yes, you are very young and it is going to be scary. I was much older than you when I had my children and the first one was scary for me. I will not lie to you. It does hurt but, you soon forget about the pain. They have a lot of ways to reduce your pain but, they won't if you haven't even been to the doctor. I had 3 babies the natural way and I survived. If it were soooo bad do you think I would have had more than one? Both of my sisters had 2 babies each and they had an epidural. That numbs you so you feel NO pain. I'd like to give you some advice about childbirth that no one explained to me. Throwing up helps the childbirth along. In the hospital they don't want you to eat when you are in labor because they don't want the mess of vomit. Sneak a cookie or even just a few crackers. When you vomit on your own your labor will go much faster. Your body will push on its own you'll just help it along. It really feels like you are taking a big #2. Don't push from the top of your stomach. Push like you are on the toilet and you'll do great!!! Don't worry about pooping on the bed. There is someone there that cleans it up as soon as it happens. I did it. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. Although it is painful you'll make it through just fine and I have to say the best feeling I have ever felt is the feeling right after the baby comes out. It is wonderful. You're body immediately has relief and there is no other feeling like it. Just stay healthy. Eating right helps you to have a quicker, easier delivery. I don't know what type of parents you have but, if I were you (even though you may not know what to plan) I would discuss with the father the responsibilities each of you are to have while raising your beautiful baby. Then I would show your parents how responsible you and your partner are and talk with them. If you try to be adult and figure out the obsticles by yourself your parents may be more accepting and not feel a burden. It's going to be difficult raising a child at such a young age and you will need help. Just remember that you will be the mama and it is your job and responsibility to make sure your sweet bundle of joy is fed, bathed, changed and loved. You'll do great. God only gives us what we can handle. Show Him you can handle it. Good luck to you and God bless your family, you and your little one. I'll be praying for your success.

Answer 2

Just tell your parents. You need to not be selfish and go to the doctor's for the babie sake!!! Also think out your options wether or not you are going to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. If you are going to do adoption it wouldn't hurt to go to an agency and start meeting potential parents. There are some adoptive parents who will pay for the doctor visits and the birth. And about the pain yes they can give you an epidural, but it doesn't always kill all the pain. It did with my first one, but not the secod. You wouldn't die from the pain millions of people do it daily with out any medicane and have for years. Bottom line please tell your parents and go to the doctors to make sure everything is all right with the little one. Don't be selfish. Your child deserves the best of everything. Good Luck

Answer 3

Well at this point I think that you may have to tell ur parents weather you like it or not, I got pregnant at 18 and let me tell you the telling them part is not fun but once the baby is born everything is forgotten again and all if focused on that baby they wont even remember that they were mad at you in the first place. As far as labor goes unless you go to the doctor you wont be getting anything because you need to have a primary that you will meet at the hospital who you have discussed things like pain and treatment with. Also next time you decide to have sex USE A CONDOM or don't do it at all cause the rest of you life is now devoted to that baby

Answer 4

It doesn't matter that much _how_ you tell them, the key information is going to be what it is. Tell them now. They are going to find out, the sooner the better. They'll probably initially freak out, but once they settle down (somewhat!) I think you'll feel better then yo udo now, when its hanging over you like a cloud.

The pain will not kill you. Billions of women have given birth before without any pain relief. Assuming you're in a western hospital, you will get pain relief. I wouldn't look for them to 'take the pain away completely' but rather to make it manageable. You'll be pleased to know your brain will naturally release hormones during the pregnancy so that you don't remember it very clearly.

Start talking to your parents. You need to be seeing doctors NOW - for your health, and for the baby's.

Answer 5

It won't kill you and they can give you something to ease the pain but I think you will still feel some of it just not that intense. You should tell someone an adult you trust. It is very important that you have prenatal visits or else something could be wrong with your baby especially with you being young. Young girls have premature babies more often then adult women. You need to take prenatal vitamins and there are tests that need to be done while you are pregnant for the health of the baby and your own health I encourage you to tell someone. If you are not close to your parents tell an adult you trust and feel comfortable telling maybe they can help you tell your parents.

Answer 6

OK. Just be honest with your parents. Whatever the consequences, you have to deal with them. I've never been pregnant but you have to understand that you're not perfect. Everyone is going to make mistakes. My mom had me when she was just 17 years old. I love my mom and she doesn't regret having me, she just regrets the fact that she had sex before marriage and got herself in a hard situation. Oh, and the doctors can give you an epidural, which is a shot in your back, that will numb you from the waist down when you have your baby, so you won't have any pain. I hope I answered your question.

Answer 7

If you're 5 months pregnant, you should've already been to the doctor. You must tell your parents. They may be upset at first, but they love you.

You could also go to the health department. It's free, and they will do an exam and help counsel you.

The pain of childbirth won't kill you. Our bodies are made to give birth. But if it gets too bad, there are means of easing the pain. Your doctor can explain them to you.

Answer 8

First tell your parents they will still love youu dont worry. You need tehm to help get you through this. OKay? So tell them. Now.And then go to the the doctors WITH your parents it wont be that bad. Whats the worst that can happen? Then start reading up on Labor and teen pregnancy. They do have drugs to take away the pain but i dont know if they cna give them to teens at your age. Your going to start showing soon so hury and tell your rents.

Answer 9

Well you should have thought about the pain before you had sex. Now you have to pay the price. Tell your parents, and see a doctor. They will probably go easy on you, because you do not seem to be "all there" and some boy took advantage of that.

Answer 10

Hun, you have to talk to your parents sooner or later and you might as well get it over with. I don't know how your parents will react, but you have to talk to them so they can help you through all of this. I mean, you are going to want your parents to help you through this and no one knows it better than your mom. I also want to thank you for going through with it and not having an abortion. Also, about the labor pain, the doctors can give you medicine to help you, and other teenagers have gone through it before and you can too. Good luck and hang in there!