Why get married other then the party?
If you love a bird set it free, if it comes back it loves you, it it flies away it was never supposed to be with you...
Its not the marraige that keeps you together
2006-08-08 01:48:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So all those who get divorced and fight over the cat and the cash ... was that life long?
How about those who married for the cash?
2006-08-08 02:05:30 · update #1
Marriage is just the final step to commit yourself to someone. Otherwise it's just a piece of paper.
2006-08-08 01:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships - even good ones - don't just 'work' without effort for decades. Both parties have to compromise and work to reap the benefits.
Marriage - traditionally - was a lifetime commitment to keep 'working' on the relationship. It was (and is) also a _public_ commitment - it implicitly asks the friends, family and community to encourage the couple to work through their problems and build a solid life together. I would argue that for many people, the marriage can help them stay together through small rough patches. The idea shouldn't be to keep people doomed for an eternity of misery, but to give the relationship the strength to last through the odd difficulty.
Its all well and good to say 'if it comes back it loves you', but life rarely works that way. Couples that 'take a break' are normally done. Couples who are looking for a lifetime commitment - for themselves, or for their children - need to try to work things out before giving up.
2006-08-08 08:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although many think marriage is just a piece of paper it's also a legal bond between two people. I've heard of one of a couple dying and the other wasn't actually entitled to anything because they weren't married. If they changed these sorts of laws then I wouldn't bother getting married, but right now it's in my five-year plan!!!!!
2006-08-08 12:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Laydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is not just that keep u together its the law okay when your married with a piece of paper you cannot just marry anybody or left her without divorced see its the law that will protect you when your wife or husband has been cheating on you or decided just to leave without saying goodbye you can always sue your husband or wife in court if he or shes cheating on you when your still married to each other and your husband just cannot leave you and your children and marry somebody he might get arrested for polygamous marriage or multiple marriage so he have to file a divorced in court and the Court will decide who will take care of the children when u split up okay so marriage is very important okay its not just that keep you together but it will protect u and your children from your relationship with each other okay
2006-08-08 09:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone you want to be with them always. Marriage is just the final 'seal' on the relationship. It shows everyone how committed you are to each other.
On a more mercenary note, if you have kids and something happens to either one of you, the remaining partner and the children will be legally protected too.
2006-08-08 08:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as with everything nothing lasts forever but that doesnt put you off doing things, marriage is the next step for some and is a way of showing each other and anyone else how much you mean to each other, its shows commitment... its just up to those involved whether they keep this commitment. and yeah the party after is pretty good
2006-08-08 13:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by stevieboy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married and my husband decided that the piece of paper said I should do everything for him while he did nothing! Obviously the marriage ended. 11 years on I live with my partner and we are very happy.........I dont want to get married again, nor do I see the point.
If it's not broken......... Don't fix it!!
2006-08-09 14:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by sarah k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agee with u totaly .if marriage is only reason for being together then it is not worth the pain .and if only marriage had the power to keep u together then there would not have been any divorce.actually it is the love and understanding keeps u together and not marriage.and getting married or staying married is a personal choice.
2006-08-08 08:58:26 · answer #8 · answered by why me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Well, I did until I met my husband and it just seemed right. I wanted to have his name, I wanted to feel part of him, I wanted to say ' that;s my husband, I am his wife'. I just thought wow, I need to be part of this mans life and I want to be his wife, his only wife, his love.
Plus the legal side of it makes sense. When you are married you become their next of kin, you have the right to what happens to their belongings when they die, to decide whether to turn off machines when they are real sick in hospital, you decide where they should be buried if they die. Without that piece of paper you have nothing, and along comes one of his relatives and they have the rights.
So get married, you don't need to have a party.
2006-08-08 09:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It strengthens the bond, and if you take it seriously, can be a beautiful thing. It commits you to your partner for life. You promise to love only each other and forsake all others. If you're not married, that vow isn't there.
2006-08-08 09:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋