stuck in a bad position?

Question

ok heres my problem i love my boyfriend so much and he wants to get married.. but he does drugs n he has told me he had stopped but every once in a while he'll go out n do coke. when he does he then calls me up curses me out makes up these crazy stories in his head n is a complete weirdo. i dont want drugs in my life or his, but when hes not on them i love him so much thats why i keep going back to him. but then once im with him, he does it again.. what should i do!? i dont want to stay but i dont want to go

Answer 1

Don't risk your happiness on someone who doesn't have control over his own life...both person must be strong if their marriage is going to work out...I suspect the first time you both run into some difficulties, he is going to medicate himself and let you deal with all the burden...don't allow that to happen...walk away now.

Answer 2

You are not stuck by a long shot!! "Don't say that ",You'll start to believe that.Anyway ,I have a Brother-In-Law the same way,and he was suppose to get Married this past July, but his Fiance backed out because she got smart and decided that he needed to get some help,so he tried checking his-self into a rehab ,but like a fool ,she kept calling him saying "How much she miss him and she couldn't be without him! Like I told her 'now your back at square one you may as well try smoking with him,if that's where you want to be for the rest of your life,you will always think your stuck until, You realize that you can do better be prepared to be at a stand-still!!!

Answer 3

I understand u 100%. First of all convince him that he has a problem and that u love him and want to help him. Tell him that what he is doing is bad for him and that in the long run it won't do him any good. Once he admits to himself and you that he has a problem, then he is ready to attend a rehab. Don't pressure him cause that will only make him want it more. Just be patient with him and support him in every aspect as he gets help. MOst important mke sure that when he does decide to quit... that he does it for himself. Not for you, his family, or anyone else. He has to do it for himself because thats the only way that he will recupperate. Knowing that he is doing it for someone else will only make him feel more pressured.

Answer 4

Leave. Do not get married to him or later on, he'd even force you to take drugs as well. And it will totally destroy your relationship til your love turns to hatred and lose respect even in yourself.
You know the right thing to do but you're hoping someone would give consent, right?
Love is blind but the people around you are not. So heed our advice.

If your bf truly loves you more than his drugs, then he shall help himself too. And he shall come back to you, clean.

Answer 5

You are smart enough to realize there is the potential here for bigger problems in your future. I am afraid it is time for you to cut your losses. Get out of this relationship and move on with your life while you still can.

Answer 6

been there they don't change sweetie it hooks them and they are lost move on because with him your future kids would be in danger and coke makes them do stupid things when coming down it's one of those things you can't get him to stop he's going to have to want to and that may never happen even if he says he'll change he won't most can't

Answer 7

Take him to a deaddiction centre and help him get off drugs. then you can be with him happily everafter

Answer 8

Hopefully you don't have a child together
If not I would bail out NOW!

Answer 9

if you dont mind living an emotional roller coaster, then stay with him

Answer 10

He will be dead soon, coke will get rid of him, then move on..