my neighbor has told me that shes attracted to my hubby and would like to have sex with him she asks me how he is in bed and I dont ever answer her or talk to her she was becoming a good friend of mine until she started hitting on my hubby, but she asked him over the weekend to work on her car and I told him I didnt want him to go any where around her....was that wrong? My hubby said he doesnt want anything to do with her he was just being nice by saying he would. Am I not being reasonable am I being a bad wife?
2006-08-08 01:44:58 · 71 answers · asked by Missy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him what she said and that you would be deeply hurt if he goes. At that point, it's his decision. If he goes, then you have other decisions to make.
2006-08-08 01:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are NOT a bad wife, you are being cautious. I actually had the same incident with a former neighbor where I once rented. She would not stop, please talk to your hubby about this, do not make yourself sound jealous. Also, if she continues with the lewd remarks and questions, I would contact your local law enforcement, she is technically harrassing you verbally, which in some states is classified as communication harrassment. I would NOT want her as a friend, but I would keep a watchful eye, sounds to me as if she has an insecurity problem & some control issues. She doesn't want a single man, she only wants to create problems with a married one. Seriously, call your law enforcement and ask them if you can press charges for harrassment, lewd comments, verbal harrasment. You never know, it will probably help you, plus who's to say she hasn't done this before to others?
Unfortunately in my case, my bf played into her nastiness, and I would not like to see that happen to someone else. I did end up getting a harrasement charge against her for things she put in writing and the messages and phone calls, not to include she wouldn't stay off my property after I asked her too...tresspassing.
Good luck, and watch out....you are NOT bad, just cautious!
2006-08-08 01:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by thedothanbelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, let me get this straight. He's afraid of how his daughter will see him if he cheats (something that would be secret, private, and that she wouldn't actually see--only hear about years later) but he's *not* afraid of being a lazy a** slob who is disrespectful to his fantastic wife in front of her? That's messed up. Dude needs to get some perspective. Wouldn't it be better for his daughter to see him as an equal partner who does something more than play video games and forget to pay the bills? As far as what you do, you're amazing. You do not get enough credit for the amazing support you're being to him. You are the dream wife and if he says you're a bad wife then it only reflects on the warped perspective of the world he's developed through being what sounds like a bad husband. Thank you for being you. You are a credit to human beings everywhere.
2016-03-27 03:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly not being a bad wife. You two are both committed to each other and both made that sacred bond of committment for one another. Trust and communication is very important in a relationship as well. Know that when and from the point of your wedding day to years to come that this is for the long run and for always. Communicate with your husband and let him know that it is bothering you and also -I would not be friends with this girl that is hitting on your husband-big no no. This can lead to problems big time if you continue being friends with her. She def. doesn't deserve you as a friend and most certainly not even try to hit on your husband. Do you think that by her being friends with you-it was a way to get closer to your husband? These are just some things to truly watch out for and just put trust in your husband-but if for any reasons your instincts tell you that he may be cheating on you-some signs to look out for...Is he listening to you when you talk with him? Does he come home very late from work each night? Has he just not been himself lately and acting weird as in not had his mind on anything or focusing on what he is doing? Good luck
2006-08-08 02:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missy,
I will not pretend to know what type of relationship you share with your husband... but that is YOUR husband and YOU are his WIFE. What your neighbor is doing is wrong...morally. I have to give her props for being honest enough to test the waters with you. Now...listen to this part very carefully....you have brought the knowledge of your neighbor's ill intentions to your husband. Now is the time for open discussion between you and him about the boundaries of your commitment. FORSAKING ALL OTHERS. To answer your question: NO, you are not being a BAD wife. You are protection your family from a threat. Stay the course.
I am not a clergy nor am I female. I am just being real.
2006-08-08 01:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by floridadragon65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you aren't being a bad wife. You are just trying to keep her from driving a wedge between you and your husband. Have you talked to this woman and told her that what she says bothers you? I would.
If your husband wants to fix her car or do anything around her place, go with him and be his assistant. That way you know nothing is going on. And it might be the perfect opportunity to tell her how you feel. That way if tempers start to rise, your husband will be there to pull you out before any real damage can be done.
2006-08-08 01:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that makes u a bad wife is talking to her knowing that she wants to screw ur man. If i was u i would cut her off completely and everytime u are with hubby and she sees u make sure u embrace him and show her that u 2 are happy.
2006-08-08 01:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jersey Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your his wife and what you did was complelty reasonable. A man is only as faithful as his options. Dont give him any. Be more stern and tell him you dont trust her. Tell her whats she has said and what she has alluded to. If he loves you he wil not go over there again. But beware telling you husband that a female within close proximity has feelings for him could be dangerous. If you guys have a huge falling out,in a moment of revenge, he will goto her and thus ruining and thing you guys have. make sure are aware of that
2006-08-08 01:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope your not and bad wife and your not being unreasonable at all. i think you handle that alot better than what i would have. i would keep my eye out on this some people get hell beant to brack someone up. i ween though something like this with my hubby x-girl ween i found out i was going to have my lilgirl. she even went to the hosle of getting his cuz in on it he called my home at 2:30 am want my hubby to meet this girl at and hotel. and it been 5 years and she steal isnt giving up let so my thing is always be on your toes. make shore he dosent do any thing. some plp well bring other plp into it to try get them to meet them places.
2006-08-08 01:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Missy, I don't think you are a bad wife. She has definitely crossed the line by saying those things to you about your husband. I seriously think she is probably a little wacko. In my experience, people that seem crazy at first usually only get worse and the more you can avoid her and not be involved with her the better.
2006-08-08 01:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have reason to worry with that she dog on heat next door . He might be being neighborly and all but Id be sitting in the car ready to run her over if she sided up to him the wrong way .Its amazing how these accidents happen in the driveway of suburban homes lol
2006-08-08 01:54:15 · answer #11 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋