help me with this dont tell me off just help me please ok?

Question

I am 15 and share a room with my little sister and shes 10 and its ok to do that because were both girls but last night i was messin myself and she woke up and saw me but i was gettin ded good and i couldnt stop and she asked me wot i was doin and i said nothin and was ded embrassed that she saw me but she said if i dont tell her it must be something bad and she will tell mum and i dont want my mum to no i do that because she will be ded mad with me and smack me and stuff i know she would cos she does it all the time and i been trying to find a way to tell my little sister what i was doing all day but i dont know what to say to her so can sum1 help

Answer 1

OK sweetie what you need to do is

1. Tell your sister a little white lie about what you were doing there are some wonderful suggestions already been made
2. Talk to your mom about what happened try to explain to her the situation and how it occurred and then maybe (if your house is large enough) you could suggest separate rooms for you and your sister

But you need to talk to your mom about this and remember that she was a 15 year old girl to once upon a time and she had the same feelings and maybe even the same urges as you are now experiencing and so she will be able to understand

Good luck

Answer 2

You poor thing why would u think anyone would tell u off, its perfectly natural to do something like this and u shouldnt be ashamed. Your sister is a little young and may not have discovered doing these things yet so u definatly shouldnt tell her what you were doing. Tell her youve had an allergic reaction to some soap or something but definatly say something cos a girl of her age will not let it drop. Just try to keep it down and dont let her see in future perhaps leave it to bath times or something, what ever u do just remember it is perfectly natural and noone should be angry at u for this especially your mother. Take care and good luck xx

Answer 3

very sensitive subject, but to be honest with you your little sister will understand later on. Right now I am more concerned over the fact that your mother would dish out a smacking for somethign you can't help...

No, talk to your mother, perhaps by being open and honest with her and explaining what is going on with your body and that you are after all a teenage girl that your little sister and you might benefit from having seprate rooms (if possible of course - I don't knwo how big the home is)

5 years is not a big difference and most kids know what teenagers are doing anyhow... she might be curious to know her self, but please refrain from taking advice from others to encourage this development in your sister so early... she is after all only 10.

It's a natural cour´se that everyone takes in their life... but just remember that you can affect others by any action you take in life. Perhaps, it might eb a good idea to find some private time for yourself, and maybe go to the bathroom when you feel the urge to do this.

I suppose that is the best advice anyone can give you, find your own space, no matter the hour of the night, and explore in privacy, where you don't intrude on others and there is no danger to yourself.

but seriously, on the note with your mother, please talk to her, because I know as a parent myself that I would want my children to come and talk to me about such matters... and I understand not all Parents are so open and willing to listen, but Parents have to compromise sometimes and realise that chilren grow up, have their own troubles and they too have to learn how tough the world really is...

But do it now, before it gets even worse... and remember, show your mother and sister respect and love... tell them that you also need to be respected and loved...you're not just a thing that exists, you are a person... help them value you and your existence, it always takes two to Tango :)

Best of luck.

Answer 4

Say nothing to your little sister. It would be better to tell your mother
and let her handle your little sister. She will know what to say. As far
as being punished by your mum, remember that she was your age
some time ago and went through your feelings (or needs) and will
remember this time of her life very well. This will guide her on how
to handle the matter. The worst thing that could happen would be
for your sister to tell your mum since her version could be a fancy
of her imagination. I have four daughters and have been through
this some time ago.

Answer 5

Just tell her you must of been having a bad dream or something. There is no need for you to tell her, it will only confuse the little one. If i was you i wouldnt risk been caught again, there is nothing to be ashamed about, you are just exploring what is natural but dont be in a position where you have to lie to your sister. Hope that helped. Sorry i couldnt be wiser.

Answer 6

As far as being caught by your younger sister...You will have to be careful when and where you do this....If you are worried about being caught...don't do it..or cover up...
As far as your sister asking what you was doing..You have two choices...
1)you can lie to her,Like everyone here has said.and start a path of lies...
2)You can tell her the truth,,She is getting to the age that she is going to start to get feelings about things and touching things...

If you lie to her now...It is just going to start a path of lie's that may cause her to think in the future that it is a bad thing and she will feel as if she is being bad for doing it herself..

As far as your mother and her reaction..It sounds like there is other issue's with Mom...
I hope you the best in your thoughts and what ever you decide to tell her...
Just remember you are her big sis.......don't start lies this early in your life with her...

enjoy life...

Answer 7

Your sis will realize when she gets older. The problem is your mother. She should know you are in a teen age and you are just doing such things. Try to talk to her and if it doesnt go ok, ask some psychologist for a help...

Answer 8

Depending on what exactly she did see (I mean, was your quilt covering you? Or something?), you could explain her it's none of her business, she will understand when she grows older, and it's something that many, many women do, in privacy. It's nobody's business, really, even your mother's.

Although I can say I am sorry that your mother would react that way. Now, letting my younger sibling to see me would be something my mother could be angry about; but not for doing it...

Answer 9

You should be honest with her........she is your sister and probably, at age 10, has an idea about sex anyway.
Just tell her she shouldn't have seen because its private but it is normal and nearly everyone does it.

I'm sure your mum would understand as well, she probably does it. Anyway, don't worry about it, it will pass.....

Best wishes.

Answer 10

tell her that its something teenagers do, and that you'd prefer if she didnt tell your mum, coz when she turns a teenager in 3 years time your mum will kill her for trying it too!
Also tell her that its a private thing you were doing, and that if she will be a good sister and keep it to herself that you'll reward her with - oh i duno what ten year olds go for - a happy meal or something??
Failing that tell her you had a really bad itch there and you were too embarrassed to tell her in case she thought you had fleas or something?
God complications!!