Marriage seems to dissolve so easily.
2006-08-08 00:16:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Oh such good answers."a genuine desire to be a part of another person in body, mind and spirit. " But this answer tells me there are good people too.
2006-08-09 00:12:45 · update #1
Because, despite the fact that people are living longer, and are healthier longer, and the population is reaching all new highs every years, many people find it necessary to be attached to another person, and are so desperate to do so that they marry the first person that comes along. I made that mistake myself--thought that I required a husband to be of value as a human being, and that the one I got was the only one that would ever have me. Turned out that a) there were men following me around, and I didn't notice (my best friend keeps pointing out that they were there, because he still doesn't understand why I married the one I did) and b) the one I married just wanted me because he thought marrying me would get him his trust fund. He got it and dropped me like a hot rock.
Marriage should be based, not on a bizzare and stunted need to attach oneself to another person or to breed, but on a genuine desire to be a part of another person in body, mind and spirit. And people should probably live together first before they get married, to have some idea of what marriage will be like. How many people actually get married under those circumstances any more?
2006-08-08 00:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by grinningleaf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have bobbed for apples at Halloween and I have also gotten married, the two seem quite different to me but I suppose I didn't bob for some random husband, I had my little golden delicious picked out special and then we lived together for many years as we were both cautious about jumping in and getting wed and it not working out. I think the key is to take your time and make sure you're both doing it for the right reasons. And don't rush into having children if you can help it, you need a few years enjoying each others company before you add a screaming dependent babe into the mix. The marriage advisors always say make sure you agree on the same key issues, such as politics, education, lifestyle etc so then there won't be any major battles. You need to be similar in the big ways but then different in the little ways so you can keep each other interested, that way you won't be eyeing up any other Cox that you see,,, hee hee x
2006-08-08 01:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are too busy checking out the apples that have already been picked. You need to find your own tree to climb.
Marriage is hard work and you need to climb the tree to find out which apple looks the best for you.
Marriage dissolves easily because no one will work hard anymore. Having a job, working with your boss is easier than trying to fix a relationship....That is why people jump around in other peoples trees.
You find a tree, pick your apple, climb the tree and stay there.
2006-08-08 01:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, not married yet or wil lget married soon, but I think it is because one of the partners or both are not mature enough and give up on each other along the way... :(
2006-08-08 00:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by kichka_2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get the right apple, plunge in, and never let go.
2006-08-08 17:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by chdoctor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of commitment and values!
2006-08-08 01:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to be the first or else you will get everyone else's germs!
2006-08-08 00:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋