What can I do to make my lazy husband notice me? I am going insane!?

Answer 1

Hon, I know just how you feel; really fed up with being ignored, I had a shower, put my best scent on, wore a really sexy nightie, and strolled into the sitting room; he looked up from the football and said" Arent you cold like that?" and carried on watching. I divorced him. Why should you make all the effort and do all the work? He is a bone-idle piece of ****, girl-----leave him.

Answer 2

Is he really just lazy or do u think there may be something deeper than that?? is there something going on in his life that has made him feel a little low or have things changed a lot between u and him? Try sitting him down and talking to him, there may be a simple explanation as to why he may not be paying u much attention. On the other hand are YOU feeling insecure for any reason at the moment? Could he really be just being the way he always has been and u just FEEL like he isnt paying u that much attention? If it is thats nothing to be ashamed of, we all need a little extra attention sometimes. Try making the effort yourself, run him a bath, cook him a nice meal, take him out for dinner, offer a massage, anything really its the little things that matter. In turn he will probably start doing more things for u. If things really get bad just tell him how u feel, remember to try not to moan it at him though. Very few men will respond to a womans moaning and he is more likely to shut off completely if he hears things like "why dont u notice me anymore?" and "i dont think u care anymore" etc etc he'll probably put it down to hormones and ignore u, lol Most importantly remember he loves u and wants u to be happy. keep smiling hun xx

Answer 3

Why don't you try a bit of the 'reminiscing' trick, back to the days when you were courting?

Rent out a DVD of a film you 1st saw at the movies together. Make a compilation CD of your 'special' songs, not necessarily soppy ballards but maybe ones that remind you of a holiday you took together or perhaps some toons that explain your current mood/emotions.

Do something different, maybe go for walks together (in the rain can be romantic) and have a picnic (when it’s not raining lol) and buy a dog if you need an excuse to get walking together. Try going to yoga or Tai Chi together, anything, just something different, something you both can look forward to doing.

Treat yourself maybe and splash out a bit on getting you hair and nails done. It maybe the case that you've (unwittingly) let yourself 'go' over the years and he may think, "...well if she ain't gonna try then I ain't gonna bother either...” I don't know your individual situation enough but I do hope you find happier ground together soon. Keep at it.

Answer 4

Write a list out of every thing you do get your bags packed and just go leave a message on the answere machine or where ever and say when he can do half of what you do you might come back if not your gone for good if you have children to consider then tell him you will do this if he dosnt get his finger out and promise him this is not a threat you realy mean it or do it go out for the night and come back saying you missed the bus or what ever leave your bag packed say no more if he dosnt feel any remorse .call it a day unless you are so in love you cant do this then it is your own fault and you just have to live with it.
Gwen W

Answer 5

You need to look back to when your guy stopped noticing you and try to see what has gone missing . I bet he still loves you in the bedroom he just isn't romantic anymore. I know I'm the same my wife says all hands and no heart . I don't love her less just different you start off life together as almost strangers and end up close sometimes to close friends .All I can say is make that man think he has come home to a strange woman in his home . send him a message at work to pick up dinner and that your at home and lonely and that his attention is needed there . see if I'm wrong I bet hell damn well come home for lunch not dinner .
Sometimes a spark can kindle a smoldering ember into a all consuming blaze . Good luck Alice .stoke that fire you little hotty

Answer 6

you sometimes have to act interested in someone a lot cuter and don't care what he thinks, if he thinks you are interested in someone else it'll most likely drive him crazy. Dress up even if you're not going anywhere and do your make-up. Or just go to the grocery store all dolled up, just do things to make you feel good if he don't notice some lucky guy will.

Answer 7

Perhaps you should tell him that you are feeling this way. Say that you feel that there are more things that you could do together and that maybe you don't have as much fun as you used to. Ask him if something is bothering him, there could be a reason that he's slipped into a rut, he may even be depressed over something completely unrelated to your relationship. the best way to find out is to talk it over

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Answer 8

What makes you like a lazy man in the first place, give him a good kick up the backside and tell him to go to work, he dosent deserve you.

Answer 9

Take a shower , apply light perfumu , wear sexist and thinnest night gown , put some light romantic music on , defuse the lights , sit lazily next to him and start caresing his body , laziest person will start jumping around , try this .

Answer 10

smack him up side the head!
Kidding!
Honestly, my husband has told me numerous times that "men are visual creatures". I used to like to bum around the house in sweats etc. I've started wearing little tank tops and shorts. Keeping my hair up, wearing lip gloss. Simple but cute and fresh...he notices! And I feel better about myself too. One day he was outside and I went out in a red teddy and just stood there watching him. He turned around and it was all over...
He has always been attentive, but we had lost that spark until I realized you still need to put the effort into your marriage that you put into it when you were dating!
GOOD LUCK!