I am just going to make this simple...How long have you been married? How old are you and your hubby? On average, how many times a week do you give your hubby oral sex to completion? What are your conditions and feelings regarding performing oral sex on your hubby, if any?
I am not fond of it but have no problem with it if I have been given the same treatment first. Problem is, I have an extremly low sex drive because I am a type 1 diabetic plus have to be on the pill and on top of that I am just feeling overwhelmed all the time. It has become another task for me since we had our son 2 1/2 years ago and I even thought my hubby wanted a BJ way too much before we had our son. I am really wondering how often husbands are asking for it and how often wives are giving it. I usually do it 2-3 times a week but for some reason I am thinking that it is way too much. I don't want to keep count of anything but his drive is insane and I am just feeling like sex has become like doing the dishes.
2006-08-07 22:25:15 · 3 answers · asked by chrissy757 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also feel like sex for him is a release of negative emotions and has nothing to do with being intimate or close to me.
2006-08-07 22:28:42 · update #1
If you are starting to feel like it is wrong then it is. I could never imagine doing that with my husband that often! Maybe once in a few months! And he rarely asks for it because he knows that if I wanted to I would. He is not going to make me do anything that I don't want to. We have been together for 2 years married almost one year. We are also in our mid-late 20's. Sounds like you need to have a talk with him if you are starting to feel like that. Maybe he is not doing enough for you? It sounds like it, otherwise it would not be a chore.
2006-08-07 22:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 21 yrs old and my hubby is 23. We have been married for 2 yrs and have sex 4-5x a wk. He wants oral sex everytime and I usually comply but sometimes, I just don't feel like doing it, especially at 5 in the morning when I'm still very groggy so I just simply tell my hubby "not right now". I don't want to have to feel pressured into doing something I don't feel like doing at any given moment. If you have a problem with doing it that many times then I suggest you let him know. You don't want to end up feeling like you're always obligated to do it do you? However, do not abstain from it completely because this would not be fair for him. Once in a while you have to give him what he wants. Men love oral sex and so do a lot of women. It has to be a give and take thing.
2006-08-08 05:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have been married almost 10 years. We are 29 and 34. He doesn't ask for oral that often, so when he does, I'm more than happy to. I even do oral without him asking. There are no conditions and I really enjoy oral (giving or receiving).
Since you are stating to feel like it's a chore, I suggest only doing oral when you want. Just because he ask for it don't mean you have to give him oral. Make him realize oral sex on him is a treat not your job
2006-08-08 07:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by okiewenee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋