My son is 11 months old today and he still does not sleep through the night. He goes to bed between 7-8. He wakes up often throuh the night till 12 -1 and then sleeps fine. But some times if could be the other way round. When he wakes up he cries loads and I just cant seem to settle him at times.When im in the room its fine but as soon as i walk out he cries. Plus i have another child so i cant leave him to cry incase he wakes up my other son. I have spoken to my health visitor and she said we will take about how she can give me some advise when he is over one. But i need to sort this out soon. I need a good nights sleep.Does anyone have some good advice?????
2006-08-07 21:59:53 · 15 answers · asked by Pinkflower 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i ended up doing a controlled crying thing when it became apparent that baby just wanted me near him, i.e he was fed, clean bum not ill etc. i would make sure all was well then put him down saying goodnight and close the door, he would cry and cry and i'd wait say 5 mins first time before going in stroking his head and saying shhhh mummys here time to sleep then leave room again each time waiting longer and on say third visit into room not talking to him just offer drink/dummy and leaving again. Trust me this method is very very hard and can be upsetting at first but i stuck with it and by end of 1 week he went to bed, slept strait through and we never had a problem again.
2006-08-07 22:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Lyndsey B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi my son is three on Monday and he has never slept right though he wakes up between 3 to 6 times a night for me i am warn out we have 6 children and none of the others wake up with him so i would not worry about your other child waking up i would also go to your doctors there is medicine that they can give him to sleep even if it only for a short time it will help you get some sleep
2006-08-08 06:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with my daughter when she was the same age. It may be that he's going through a growth spurt, in which case he may be wanting to drink more milk. Is he having plenty of fluids during the day? You sound like a great mum, so I'm sorry if that sounds a bit patronising.
When I sleep-trained my daughter I used a different technique from controlled crying (which is where you leave them to cry for 5, 10, 15 mins) because I couldn't bear to see my daughter cry. Its called "pick up and put down".
Basically, you make sure you have a set bedtime routine and follow it. Make sure that they know that its bed time. If they wake in the night make sure you go straight to them, pick them up and check that everything is OK (do anything that you need to like changing nappies etc) and put them back down in the cot and leave the room and close the door. Do not make eye contact (this is essential), speak to them, make cooing noises etc. If they continue to cry, re-enter the room, check that they're OK and walk out again, always with out making eye contact. When he wakes in the morning, go in and make a real fuss of him, even if he's been up for most of the night, so that he knows that there is a distinct difference between your nighttime and daytime response to his waking. It will take about four days before he gets the message that mummy (or daddy) will always come if he needs help but that he wont get any "fun" or emotional response out of you.
I used this with my daughter, who had a similar problem and it worked like a dream. I much prefer it to controlled crying because I believe it sent a strong message that I would always come if she needed me but that bedtime was bedtime and mummy wasn't going to engage in playing, cuddling or any form of chitchat.
You might want to get in an extra pair of hands whilst you're doing this to help out with your other child as the first couple of nights you might be going into your son several times until it starts to work. he first night with my daughter we went in about 20 times, the second, ten, the third seven, the fourth five and the fifth once - but since then......bliss!
Good luck. I know how hard it is when a baby won't sleep through the night.
2006-08-08 03:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by babyalmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my baby cries I just go in and put my hand on her tummy and say sh sh very softly and stroke her head and she goes off to sleep again after about five minutes. You have to do it quickly though as if you leave her until she is quite distressed it takes ages to work.
She has slept through from 6 weeks old doing this. I found picking them up is the worse thing you can do as they come to expect it and then cry if you don't. Also talking to them lots doesn't help as it just wakes them up more.
I think my baby sometimes just needs to know she is safe and when she realises she is she is happy again.
If he is clean and fed and not hot or cold then you know he is ok so try not to let it get to you too much! If you are agitated he will know.
Good luck! x
2006-08-08 00:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 months is way old enough for controlled crying, which you can adapt to suit you.We did it with our kids sharing a room; we had about 3 nights of AAAAAAGH but peace and sleep restored.'Toddler Taming'by Christopher Green is the only book I'd recommend. If this doesn't work go and get yourself a bloody good Homeopath; the right ones can work miracles!
2006-08-08 04:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by madfairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can either of your parents help out, controlled crying only takes a week and if your parents are willing to have him for a week this shouldnt disturb your other child. Other than that I can only suggest making the time he does wake up as uninteresting as poss, dont turn on the light and its sounds mean but even if you dont smile at him he will not get excited enough to wanna be up.
2006-08-07 22:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Helz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the wonders of motherhood for your second time. (?) Try giving him warm milk right before bed or better yet, give him a warm bath to settle him down. Do you rock him to sleep or just put him down? I have rocked mine or cuddled with him so he would fall asleep. Sometimes lying in front of him with eyes closed gets mine to doze off. Your son is grasping for the security that you are going to be there, so let him know in what I stated that you will be. Also; do you leave a night light on? I do and that works wonders.
2006-08-07 22:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky its only once a night he has you up my last boy would have me awake 6 maybe 7 times a night. He stopped waking just befor ehis 5th birthday. Good Luck.
2006-08-08 01:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by claire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't need a full 12 hours sleep, or he is still waking for a night time feeding. I like the idea of letting him sleep in your room.
2006-08-07 22:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can try this ...i don't know if your son still takes naps or not but if so try to not let him go to sleep after maybe 1pm let him play and move around all day when it is time for bed try giving him a warm bath and then maybe a warm bottle if he still takes one. then you can also try to put a cd player in his room play sounds that are like of water or rain things like that maybe this will help you i hope it does... and i hope that you will get a good nights sleep good luck
2006-08-07 22:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by amandalove2283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋