My boyfriend and i have been together for 9 months and i found out right at the beginning that he was still telling his ex that he loved her and that i was just something he was using to get over her (he dumped her). She lives in Mexico and so he was ringing her and emailing her and i overheard conversations and i found emails. He told me that he would stop and the only reason he was doing it was to keep her happy he did it several times after this each time i found out and then i told him that the next time i find something he's gone. I haven't found anything but i'm still suspicious. He still has contact with her cos he owes her money. She also sends me horrible emails regularily and he tells meto ignore them but when i say that i am going to email her back telling her what i think of her he tells me that i'm out of order and i'm being unfair to her he doesn't seem to think that she is being unfair and out of order to me by doing it in the first place! What should i do?
2006-08-07 21:57:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i feel like sending her a really horrible email to get at him!! i know she isn't to blame and he's spun her a load of lies but he will get it in the neck from her if i send one as well as me
2006-08-07 22:17:32 · update #1
From the outside looking in -- this is easy -- whatever his intentions or words may or may not be -- he really has no clue who he is or what he wants. But worse, he's hurting you and doesn't seem to care. Learn and leave.
2006-08-07 22:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by journey 2 · 26⤊ 5⤋
If there is that much of a thought process going on, I mean read your question its crazy, and this and that and that and this whats going on, only 9 months together anyway youll feel bad for about 4 months, break up. You could be doing more constructive things with a mind like yours, why not use all of that wasted thought that your using and focus on something positive and constructive.
2006-08-07 22:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by jhnedrmr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humm, looks like your BF is hiding something, and from the things you're writing he want to have the cake and eat it too.......whats more is that YOU KNOW....... and it seems you are trying to drum up courage to chuck this guy out of ur life...
well all the answers you've got are any sign then keep ur dignity intact an' give this guy what he deserves.
cheers :)
2006-08-07 22:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by strongwingman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happen to me.
I dated a guy who just broke up with his gf after some time. And every time I questioned his motives, he got real defense and told me I was being crazy..
The move defense and angry he gets at the accusations, the more guilty he is.
He wouldn't be so defense unless he is guilty.
Dump him. He's obviously doing something shady and you don't date one person and tell your ex you still love them, unless something unresolved is still there.
Kick him to the curb
2006-08-07 22:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by satckaren72 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u seriously need 2 get rid of him girl,il help!
but 1st u shud try doing the same,c how he likes it. x
cheers aswell 4 the comment u left me,im not bein discussting but my noes has being stuffed for so long that muccus up there really stinks,jus 1dering if u get that?
2006-08-08 00:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by SHELL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its about time we taught men a lesson, that woman is the only link in knowing if he's telling the truth. Email her, if you need help my address is keneuel@yahoo.co.uk. Goodluck
2006-08-07 23:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh this guy sounds like too much trouble !! i would have none of this nonsense...
lifes too short - you deserve better !
tell him to get his act together, make up his mind and break off with either his ex or you ! also tell him if he doesnt make up his mind - you will !
theres a better guy for you out there, you dont have to take this **** from anyone !
:) good luck
2006-08-07 22:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is he the only guy in town that can give u so much love. Apparently he is cheating on u. just forget about him. U will certainly find someone better
2006-08-07 23:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by ijlafia2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ban her email address from your account or notify your account provider that you are receiving abusive emails and request they block her emails.
You need to speak to your boyfriend about your trust issues...no point in receiving relationship advice from other people, just be honest and patient.
2006-08-07 22:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dump him.
its not you who are being unfair... and not even his ex... seems that he tells different things to both of you. Its just him who is a selfish Bas**** and is cheating you both and lying to both of you just to use you.
He is taking money from her while screwing you.
2006-08-07 22:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie but get rid of that loser!!
the fact he refered to you in such a demeaning derogeratory and mean way says it all
2006-08-07 23:03:43 · answer #11 · answered by rosa_govan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋