You guys out there should understand this.My girl is afraid to have s.e.x and she told me it is because she thinks it will hurt.We have been together ever since we were 16 and we are now 20.We are going to get married in two months and i asked her if once we were married we could have sex but she is too scared.What should i do or say to make her feel better?
2006-08-07 20:39:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
she said that she has watched movies showing sex but they were not sex and the girls were screaming and i told her that it was probably because she was having an orgasm and that it felt good but she won't listen and guys i am with her all the time so i have not chance to jack off.I am gonna burst if i don't get some soon!!!
2006-08-07 20:51:49 · update #1
dude, you got yourself into a situation here - she needs therapy, I wouldn't marry here without her getting help - other wise you'll figure out that sex is really great, and you'll be cheating on your wife...'because she is scared it will hurt'
2006-08-07 21:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by *grins* ™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-21 20:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're not doing this anyway but don't pressure her or rush her and reassure her she can take the lead when she feels ready and can guide you as to how far she feels ready to go. If she's at all nervous or scared it *will* hurt as her muscles down there will go into spasm and also she'll fail to produce enough lubrication so the worst thing she can do is try to have sex when she feels scared or nervous. When she feels totally comfortable and aroused it won't hurt as much although there is almost always pain the first time.
2006-08-10 03:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by Far 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, it's ok to be scared. Sex does hurt(her) the first time, so it's understandable, but she has to get over that. Just be gentle with her abd promise her she'll get to choose how far u guys go.
Another suggestion... if you're marrying in 2 months, why not wait? It'd be a nice gesture =)
2006-08-07 20:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by theboi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where did she get the funny idea that sex hurts, unless you got a giant one that could hurt her I suppose, sex doesnt hurt, something must be wrong if she is scared of sex, maybe something happened to her in the past. Watch some porn with her to prove that sex doesnt hurt.
2006-08-07 20:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by jhnedrmr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not going to have sex with you, you definitely don't want to marry her, because you have needs and you're end up cheating on her and ruining your marriage very quickly. She needs to be okay with having sex and consumating your relationship before you get married.
Also, if it hurt that bad, billions of people wouldn't do it everyday. BILLIONS with a B.
2006-08-07 20:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by bombhaus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's afraid of sex and thinks it hurts, tell her to overcome it.. like calming her down. Talking to her about it is the best way.
2006-08-08 01:44:09 · answer #7 · answered by BaByb3aR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, just make it slwoly ...you still have enough time..your wedding will be the sweetest moment and that will best time for her...she will normally feel afraid but on that day make it so special to her so she can be confident ...
2006-08-07 20:43:37 · answer #8 · answered by hollaback holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just treat her gently and slowly since she is still a virgin.. no reason for u not to get married if because of her worrying abt it
2006-08-07 20:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta make her wanna do that nasty know what I'm saying?
You gotta make her feel the heat... Y'all some nice people though.
Four years?
2006-08-07 20:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋