My stepmom's sister just passed away a couple of days ago and I never really knew her that well. I feel like dying is worse than the actual death. I feel like I know death is not an end but a transition and I know she is ok. I'm just sad for her family and those really close to her. I feel like if it had been someone really close to me I would be absolutly miserable about their passing but not for normal reasons. I'd be miserable beccause I'd miss the person insainly. But i would/do know that the person is ok and happy. just not on this plane of existance. Am I a horrible person?
2006-08-07 20:15:07 · 41 answers · asked by Tamsin 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No. You are just on a mental level higher than the average person. You are aware that this world is just a walkthrough and you react towards your step aunts death accordingly. This doesnt make you horrible it makes you wonderful.
2006-08-07 20:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey who said to you that you are an horrible person go to hinm and slap him/her for me. Yuo are so sensible and smart i think that you are so innovative and don't have so much friends or you are not a company as you wish . But i wanna tell it is just an illusion for you that what you will do when some one close will pass away ? Ok
Just forget it you do not need think about such things before time, always cheer for today and plan for tomorrow do not think that what will happen tomorrow.
ok you are so decent and your personality would be so effective.
You think right every time this is not possible but it is not good to escape from expressing yourself.
So be happy and cheer up.
2006-08-07 20:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by kellen_de 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so, my sons grandfather passed away in a bad accident and i didn't know him very well and the only reason why i hurt is because my son will never get a chance to know any thing about his grandfather. he knows who he is and he has talked to him and spent time with him, but my son is only five. I hurt for him because when hes older. He wont have the privilege of saying nice things about his grandfather like alot of kids do. My grandmother is still alive that is longer than my sons grandfather. Don't feel bad. Life happens there is nothing you can do but know that one day we will all be dead
2006-08-07 20:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by B*Nessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
H*LL NO. you are a compasionate person, people die every day and do u cry for them and their families? no, and even though you knew ur stepmom's sister, u weren't that close to her and were distant from here and didn't feel the same thing you would if someone you knew and lover had died, you'd feel like they did it on purpose and left you behind but only because you were close to them.
2006-08-07 21:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Being honest with yourself about your feeling is the best policy. If you are not sad at a funeral, tell everyone why you are smiling, it may sound strange to them, but the celebration of someones life seems like a much better way to be remembered. I want people to roast me when I am gone and walk away with tears of laughter and joy, not sadness.
2006-08-07 20:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by O Jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think you're a horrible person, just because you feel sad over a close one's death? It just shows that you are very compassionate and you think of others rather than yourself. You love people very much, and you seem to care alot. You're deffintely not a horrible person, that's just silly talk.
2006-08-07 20:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly how death should b treated, it is a transition and we r only supposed 2 cry 4 those left behind yet rejoice 4 the one who is gone because they r gone somewhere better than here.
ur not a bad person, ur views r right.
2006-08-07 20:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very normal to me, I take comfort in knowing that, when the people I love pass, they are going to a happier place... like the song says they are just changing neighborhoods and my grief is because I miss them, but I know we will be together someday.
2006-08-07 20:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you sound completely normal. You can't feel horrible about everyone that dies - you'd feel horrible all the time. We all have a short list of people who are very important to us, and those are the ones we'll really mourn the loss of.
2006-08-07 20:19:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you are a good person. I know it is hard to grieve for a person you did not know. you grieve for those who loved them and are left behind. I too look at death as a natural and sorts a good thing. it means that person has moved on and is just no longer here with us.. I am a Christian so I know that those who I have lost are with God and they do not have to suffer or worry or cry or be hungry any more.... God bless
2006-08-07 20:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋