People go through like failed relationships and other things and i know alot had lost themselves for certain incidents, i just want to know your opinions and it might be able to help and inspire people who experience such trouble. It wouldn't hurt to share.
Thanks!
2006-08-07 19:57:38 · 33 answers · asked by leelee 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If someone actually apologized to me and sincerely said sorry then yes I would forgive but I would never forget.
If someone never apologized to me then I will not forgive nor forget. I have a hard time forgiving someone that never asked for forgiveness. I still remember and have resentment to somone in high school that bullied me after 14 years and I have a hard time letting that go even if I wanted to let it go.
2006-08-07 20:03:24 · answer #1 · answered by TiredofIdiots 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is a responcibility we all have, but only if we are asked to forgive. If someone does something that we feel is wrong and has hurt another we only need to forgive them if they are remorseful and have made an attempt to repair the damage they have caused. I don't have to forgive them if they are not willing to own the matter. I also should never forget what it is that they have done and should always be leary that they may do it again, but that I should keep to myself as an experience that I have learned from. If I have granted that forgiveness than I am obligated to get on with my life and not bring it up again to this person or anyone else that I speak with.
2006-08-10 14:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trish is right. It is relatively easy to forgive in the long term. It's a bit tough to turn the other cheek right away. But remember the Lord's Prayer in which Jesus prayed "forgive us our tresspasses as we forgive those who have tresspassed against us. the only thing that helps us to forget is time. Time itself heals a lot of wounds.
My Mother hurt me many times in my life, and I still remember many of the insults and injuries. But when I watched her pass away I felt agony that I cannot even begin to describe. And suddenly I realized a lot of the bitter memories I had held onto for so many years were totally irrelevent. I would have prefered to have my Mother back AND relinquish the bad memories. So as much as it is possible it is in all of our best interests to forgive AND forget. I hope my rambling has made some sense.
2006-08-15 14:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by Tom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I strongly believe that everyone can forgive someone else but that doesnt mean that u will forget it. I have been through a lot of rough times but i have learn to forgive them but I will never forget what has happened. its hard but some people can do it. Like i said ne one can forgive but my advise some times its not always best to forget. The things people go through make them the person they are today.
2006-08-15 12:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by stephie_lou2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ...Forgiving Is Easier Than Forgetting ..
We Have to Forgive Everybody So God Can Forgive Our Mistakes .and Forgive Us .....
The Only Way To Forget Something is By Having Something Better or Your Life Changes to The Better ....
2006-08-10 07:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Unique !! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it takes time and effort but it is possible. My parents had a terrible marriage and rough divorce. My mother requested an increase in child support because the amount my father was paying was a pittance and a disgrace. He was not happy with the paperwork that arrived giving him a choice; ante up to a respectable amount of child support, or sign adoption papers giving my step father the right to adopt me, severing all ties with him and relieving him of any further financial obligation. He signed the papers. It felt like a terrible betrayal...years later he wanted a relationship with me, and I dug deep and found a way to forgive him for his actions.
2006-08-15 07:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by kizmet1111 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me it is very hard for me to forgive some people, I have never ever forgot it. When I was about 12 I had a man hop in bed with me and touch and play with me. At 14 had another man play with my breasts. I have had a lot of men use me over there years. One of my best friend really betrayed me & she has never said sorry so I don't forgive her either. Most other thing I can forgive.
2006-08-07 20:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really like this girl and think she is the one for me but I hesitate to do anything with her because I found out that she has a sexual past. While most people might like this about girls I want am waiting for marriage and want my wife to do the same and this is my dilemma with her. She hasnt has sex but has done other sexual things with guys. I find it extremely difficult to forgive and forget and for this I might not do anything with her and possibly lose my first love. However, everyone tells me that I should forget the past and forgive her, thas my story =)
2006-08-07 20:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by silverice2388 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is against human nature to forgive and forget, so yea its a hard thing and sometimes must be bone again and again with conscious effort. My divorce was over a year ago and I still sometimes have to ask my God for help forgiving my ex for the choices he made, and forgetting those things.
2006-08-07 20:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can say it's easy to forgive and forget but it can be done.... I still find things everyday that I have not forgiven and I have to make an effort to forgive it and go on with my life...because my unforgiveness isn't hurting anyone but me. The person I haven't forgiven isn't thinking twice about it.
God bless....
2006-08-15 09:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by onyxunicorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋