For the married women. How often would you if he...?

Question

How often would you give your husband of 5 years or more a ******** if he gave you an orgasm? How often would you want an orgasm? How often would you be willing to give him a ******** without having an orgasm? Please include how long you have been married and a rough estimate of your ages. I am 28 and my husband is 41.

I have a few draw backs for my sex drive...I am a type 1 diabetic, on the pill and I am always thinking about what I need to do for our toddler or what needs to be done around the house.

I think I am just going to post a better question because this one isn't being understood. Thanks for your answers though.

Answer 1

Been married 11 years. I am 31, he is 33. Not sure if what you're asking is what I'm thinking...but all I can say is that our sex life is give and take. Equal time for both of us. When we were young, we didn't take as much care. But now that we are older and have grown together in many ways, we are much more intimate and considerate of each other's needs.

Answer 2

Hi I've been married for 7 years, I am 51 and my husband is 39 and I am also a type 1 diabetic. I give my husband a b***j** most times that we make love and I always orgasm. I don't mean to be crude in anyway but we have noticed that swallowing actually lowers the blood sugar levels. There is never a day passes without me having at least one orgasm, I often masturbate when my husband is at work ( he knows about this ), It is a scientific fact that the more sex you have the more you want. However, please be aware that everybody has different sexual needs, some people enjoy sex a lot more often than others, it doesn't matter as long as you are happy.

Answer 3

So..you have considered divorcing your husband because of lack of orgasms? did you love him when you married him? if so...do you still love him? I am in my 40's and I am more sexual than my fiancee of 10 year. Would i stop pleasing him by not recipicating ******because he didn't satisfy my needs of achieving an orgasm? The answer is "YES". Know I will tell you why and I hope you will listen carefully because I wan' to help you and your marriage.Have you talked to him about his lack of being able to please you, please tell him that achieving an ogagsm(s) is important. What does he physically do whe trying to get you to that point? Make some suggestions( I wish i could be more direct but not on this program and you can always write me back privately,o.k.) to him, tell him how he could do it in a sexy nice way or better yet show him.This should work,men like it when a woman shows them how..it is a big turn on for them. WhenI was 18-30,I had a very high sex drive, and i still wasn't satisfied so I had tosatisfy my own needs when my last boyfriend
wasn't there.Have you tried To do this? Then,when i met my fiancee,he had a lower sex drive than I did so I had to compensate and again ,satisfy my own needs, and he knows this. See..My fiancee is the man of my dreams because he has ambition, he has a good education and very smart,and he has alot
of traits that my daddy has...which is important to me. We have talked about differences in sex, and we both decide not to have children because we're to selfish,What i'm trying to say we have talked about all our wishes and things we do not want before walking down that aisle and getting married. That's why we have lived together for 9 years to learn each others little ways and
learning to live with some of each others edosecracies.Sure..we still can get
others nerves but,95% of the time we are on the same page and chapter.

Communication is ....important in any marriage or committment



(even our relationships with God, our parents and friends are important)
if any of these suggestions do not work, i would see a marriage counselor who practices in marital relationships and sex counseling. I hope you havr good insurance,but even if you donot,ther are places that are still very good and have usually the same doctors, working with a sliding scale according to
your alls income.mu best- friend had marital problems(same ones) and seeing a therapist helped. if ...you go this route, be sure to write down everything that is bothering you(in a nice way) and have your husband do the same. Only share this paper ar the therapist's office so that he/she canhelp and eliminate any hurt feelings.
I am confused ,why did you'll marry each other without discussing what each other wanted or expected .( something you have to change, or come half way
in any relationships)Also, new problems come up all the time, do you discuss those or keep them pent up until you explode???????????????
lastly, do you have a journal? if you don't purchase one and vent in it how you feel(or if you do not want someone to read your inner most thoughts, after you write burn it, tear itup, shred it in a machine) this will help you. I write in mine everyday to give myself peace and clarity.
I s your husband a good man? Does he take care of you and your child(ren) if you have them? Does he tell you he loves you often and does he take your hand and hold it? Also does he put his arm around you or just hold you because he wants you to feel safe?Does he take care of you when you are
sick........Think about these thing because they are important!!!! They are a form of intimacy also.I ahd cancer last year, my fiancee took a cmonth off from his job to care for me:He took me to radiation,tok care of me after my surgery, and was ther intil I was recovered. He is a special man so....I firgive him for not being as sexual as I am because he has so many special qualities that I
have come to love.
My parents have been married 56 years and I want a marriage like theirs:one built on love,trust,and open communication. Why throw 5 years down the drain.A good man is hard to find...even if ,he isn't that you wanted, he probaaly feels the same . I wish you'll love,friendship, and longevity. let me know how it is going! Last thought .You and your husband ( i hope ) where best friends before you'll were married,hopefully you stillare and can work this out.

Answer 4

I am almost 30 and my husband is34. We have been married for 8 years.I am always ready and willing to do almost anything at any time(when the kids aren't around)but I get turned down ALOT!! I would like to have an orgasm every time,but it is not necessary.I use the bathtub for that.

Answer 5

Why are you keeping score? I thought love and sex was something you shared and gave someone with no expectations. There are times I get more and there are times he gets more and most times when we share in satisfying each other. There are times when we get none. It doesn't matter. I am 51 and he is 50 we have been together for 2 years.

Answer 6

hes too old and your sex drive should be greater than his rite now and u should be wanting it all the time..he want bj's cuz hes too old for wild sex and knows it. orgasms by the dozen is the only way to go. been married 19 years and cumn at least 6 times a nite.. no lie..

Answer 7

I have been in it 12 years. Considering Divorce. He has no idea. Sex is fine and hes content. I B.... him about everyother time Im 34 hes 40

Answer 8

Everytime he wants it. You have to remember whatever you done to get him you have to keep it up.I've been married for 8 years.

Answer 9

is this a tennis game........why keep SCORE of who has the orgasim and who doesnt...????......im in my 40s and have NO problem in that area........get some adult toys....lots of foreplay.......masterbate while your servicing him...etc....you should BOTH have an orgasism if not,.....something is wrong.

Answer 10

i don't get it.. ok i think ur saying how often should u please him without getting nothing back? i give up.