My wife is so lazy, she stays home all day long and the house is filthy. what should I do?

Answer 1

I think you should sit down with her and have a heart to heart conversation with her. Let her know that you have a problem with her not doing anything all day. If she is willing to compromise then you should come up with a solution for your problem. If she refuses to change her ways or acknowledge that she has a problem then you might want to consider leaving her.

Answer 2

I think you should talk to her about it. She may have clinical depression. I have had that problem for a long time..with the house and the depression. I feel very inadequate at times because I can't seem to get up the energy to do it..even on meds. As much as you want to criticize her..please don't. It just makes it worse. See if you can get her to talk to a therapist...therapy really does help with that sort of thing.

If I am way off and it isn't depression...then you still need answers. You might ask her if you helped her to clean the whole house if she would do better in keeping it clean. She may be overwhelmed.

I'm certainly not saying that you don't have the right to feel angry and upset when the house isn't clean. You do have that right...I am just pointing out that it may not be laziness..but could be something much deeper. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I recommend being patient and persevering. Obviously, opposites attract, and you are most likely a very driven individual. This is a good thing, because you two probably balance each other well. You may be the shy sort while she may be a real people-person. Focus on her good points, try to look past her bad points, and persevere. You may help motivate her by asking her to do one simple thing while you are at work, like make the bed. What you may find is that she may feel empowered after completing the one task to do others, just to please you, especially if you praise her. Also, when you make requests, try not to expect it to actually be done. I mean, if her nature is towards laziness, expect that to be the outcome. Then, on the days when she does do what you ask, you will be pleasantly surprised.

Remember: Rome wasn't built in a day. It's not an instant Becky-home-ecky you'll get, but a slow transformation into someone who will at least do the cooking and straightening up.

Bon chance!

Answer 4

Forget about that Sorry Crystal D for lack of common sense. Women like Crystal D. deserve to be alone, and she probably is. Anyway this is a problem that u should address with your wife especially if u are sure she does nothing all day. Be considerate if there are kids in the house, for they can add to the pain. Also it will help if you don't add to the mess by leaving your own mess. Clean it up b4 u get from where u are, so that it does not pile up. You can also help her with the cleaning than just complaining about it. A good woman who see's her husband making efforts will always be glad to help. Try that and if it does not work then u might want to think of an alternative.

Answer 5

lol my husband name is Brian and i sit around the house all day but my house is clean.. anyway just tell her.. clean the house! point blank you do nothing all day.. i am not going to be working and comming home to a filthy house.. if she still does not clean then i tell ya what... DON'T GIVE HER MONEY.......... do all the shopping yourself.. Do not pay attention to her! you can do without sex for the sake of ur clean house.. she will straighten her butt out and start cleaning.. if not then i would tell her to get a dam job! So you can hire somone to clean the house!

there is nothing worse then a lazy wife that does not want to do anything. kids or no kids. there is no reason for a filthy house. and everyone always pushes it off on depression.. my mom had depression since i was a baby and her house was never dirty!

Answer 6

Regulate her!!!!!

I used to be a stay at home wife, and I kept my house spotless. A nasty house is a sign of a nasty person. If I visit a friend and their house is not clean, I will not go inside. I know that might sound rude, but I can't do it!

If I can go to school online full time, take care of my own two children and my teenage brother, cook for my family, and keep a 3 bedroom, 2 bath home completely clean...... Well so should any other woman!

Answer 7

My Filthy Wife

Answer 8

is your house really a reason for divorce. u should try compromising. my husband and i have the same prob (sorry to say i am a sucky housekeeper) but my husband is the main housekeeper because he loves me so much he won't let something like this ruin our marriage. also when i see him work so hard on it and i realize how important an issue it is to him i try harder to clean also. also if u don't have time to put into the housework consider hiring someone to come in and clean once or twice a week. also my husband suggests having a family clean house day where everyone (kids included) pitch in and clean the house. then u can reward the family by renting movies or taking them out for ice cream. that makes the whole day a family day and everyone gets quality time together.

Answer 9

you should talk to her and let her know how you feel...do you have any kids maybe its too much with the kids as well to keep up the house...it wouldn't hurt for you to help out as well..i mean i dont know your situation but that would be a great start.....my wife gets lazy from time to time but who wouldn't' caring for nine kids and trying to keep up the house..when those times come around i have to step in and help out around the House....it doesn't hurt for a man to clean you know.....but the first thing you need to do is talk to her...and not in a disrespectful manner...i always hear guys saying " you have it easy you stay at home and all you have to do is clean and take care of the kids make sure things are taken care of..." well its a hard job they may not make the money but they have an important job..im lucky my wife is great at all that....maybe she is going through a depression my sister when through that and man was she a mess.....just try to get in her shoes maybe something really is wrong....talk hings through hope things work out

Answer 10

Don't allow her to spend any money on herself and use the money to hire a domestic cleaner. Flirt with the cleaner.

OK seriously......

Make a list of things you want her to do and make a list of what you should do to help. I think you should help with the vacuuming/mopping, yard work and cleaning the bathrooms. She cooks doesn't she? She should do the laundry, ironing, making the beds, cleaning the house in general/dusting. You should help with the dishes too sometimes.