need help on telling the grandparents not to spoil my kids......?

Question

these grandparents love there grand babies but just a lil to sweet, they give them junk food before food, chocolate in church, they let them jump on tables and sofas do we have the right to say no with out hurting feelings

Answer 1

These grandparents need to be told to knock it off. As the parent, you have the finally say so of what is and isn't allowed when it comes to your kids. If the grandparents get upset, then so be it, they can get over it. They'll know where you stand on this and that certain things you will not tolerate. You don't have to be rude when talking to them, just be gentle yet very firm.

Answer 2

Just ask them. Please don't spoil my kids and thats it. But you cannot really prevent it. It is the sole right of grandparents. Or maybe that is what they are made of and for. You should even be thankful if they love your kids. I am a grandparent too. And I am always happy with my grandchildren But I have seen grandparents who do not care about their grand children and even abused them. Be happy.

Answer 3

the lots of junk food thing you can talk about. Just ask them not to give them that much. Grandparents are there to spoil the kids the parents are the one's to disipline. You should feel blessed to have such wonderful grandparents for your children. I grew up w/none

Answer 4

This is what grandparents live for....spoil them rotten and then send them home with mom and dad full of sugar and bad manners. My mother use to do this on purpose. One christmas she bought all of her 15 grandchildren, the noisiest toys she could find and even supplied the batteries. When we asked why, she said it was payback for all we put her through in our teen years. Trust me, they know what they are doing...you don't remember getting chocolate in church when you were little do you? I didn't think so. I'd let them spoil them to a degree, but insist that the candy is having bad health affects on them...then deem grandma and grandpa's house as romper room to your children. It's sort of like the inside/outside voice routine. It's ok at grandma and grandpa's house, but it's not ok here.

Answer 5

DO YOU HAVE THE RIGHT, of course, but you WILL hurt their feelings.

Some common statements about grandparents:

Grandparents' are similar to a piece of string - handy to have around and easily wrapped around the fingers of their grandchildren.

~Author Unknown~

When grandparents enter the door, discipline flies out the window.

~Ogden Nash~

What a bargain grandchildren are! I give them my loose change, and they give me a million dollars worth of pleasure.

~Gene Perret~

Grandma always made you feel she had been waiting to see just you all day and now the day was complete.

~Marcy DeMaree~

Grandmas' hold our tiny hands for just a little while, but our hearts forever.

~Author Unknown~

Grandchildren are God's way of compensating us for growing old.

~Mary H. Waldrip~

Grandmother-grandchild relationships are simple.

Grandmas are short on criticism and long on love.

~Author Unknown~


Nobody can do for little children what grandparents do.
Grandparents sort of sprinkle stardust over the lives of little children.

~Alex Haley~

'Grandmas' are Moms with lots of frosting.

~Author Unknown~


Grandparents never have children, only grandchildren.

~Gore Vidal~

Grandmas' never run out of hugs or cookies!

~Author Unknown~

If I had known how wonderful it would be to have grandchildren, I'd have had them first.

~Lois Wyse~

My grand kids believe I'm the oldest thing in the world. And after two or three hours with them, I believe it, too.

~Gene Perret~

My Grandmother is over eighty and still doesn't need glasses. Drinks right out of the bottle.

~Henny Youngman~

You do not really understand something unless you can explain it to your Grandmother.

~Proverb~

An hour with your grandchildren can make you feel young again.
Anything longer than that, and you start to age quickly.

~Gene Perret~

The best baby-sitters, of course, are the baby's grandparents. You feel completely comfortable entrusting your baby to them for long periods, which is why most grandparents flee to Florida.

~Dave Barry~

A grandparent is old on the outside but young on the inside.

~Author Unknown~

One of the most powerful handclasps is that of a new grandbaby around the finger of a Grandfather.

~Joy Hargrove~

It's amazing how grandparents' seem so young once you become one.

~Author Unknown~

Grandchildren don't make a man feel old; it's the knowledge that he's married to a Grandmother.

~G. Norman Collie~


A Grandmother pretends she doesn't know who you are on Halloween.

~Author Unknown~

Perfect love sometimes does not come until the first grandchild.

~Welsh Proverb~

Answer 6

We hve every right. Sometimes we don't just gotta tell them grandparents that we don't want the kids spoilt. We gotta tell the kids to. So they don't just accept everything given to them cos they know momma's not gonna be very pleased if they do.

Answer 7

You can't. One right of the grandparent is to spoil the kids. You're stepping on toes here, especially if they're inlaws.

Answer 8

just undo it

when the grandparents allow them to jump, just take the kids down the table



when they get junk food, take it from them.

Answer 9

its what grandparents are for. its a way of getting back at their parents that spoiled you. when you have grand kids then you can spoil them to get back at your parents. its ok its been happening like this for generations.

Answer 10

Absolutely! I'm an adoring grandmother but I respect my houseproud daughters wishes and put a ban on bad behaviour my two beautiful grandsons are spoilt...but within reason ----appeal to your rebellious grandparents sense of justice....were YOU allowed to jump on furniture...etc?...Good luck ...but don't forget keep smiling!