Ive been talking to a guy I met on an online site for over a year..I am married but my relationship has been very unfufilling and unhappy..this guys brings a smile to my face everytime I think about him. Theres something there I want to explore..is this wrong and can u fall for someone u have never met!?
2006-08-07 19:13:47 · 18 answers · asked by nikki_dance_2001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
believe me, dont go there.. the grass is not greener on the other side. stop talking to him and get devoted back to your marriage. put your chatting time into your marriage and see the difference..would you want your hubby chatting with a woman like that? it will come back worse on u later, believe me/
2006-08-07 19:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by igotbuuurnd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although most times falling in love with someone over the internet is scoffed at by alot of people, its very possible and in many ways more 'real' than falling in love with someone you have met in person. When you meet someone in person there is (usually) a tension where a person 'tries' to be as pleasing as possible and may put on a front to hide a less than desirable trait about themselves. In other words, they are not being 'themselves'. Not to mention physical attraction (visual or sexual) may cloud a persons judgment when it comes to the decision to date. But over the internet, a person can truly be themselves (if they choose) and you have the opportunity to get to know a person on a more deep, and mental level. And truly this is the most important part of any relationship, the common bond of compatibility where you feel comfortable and connected to a mate, without words or touching. This is the glue that will hold a relationship together long after the physical aspect has diminished. I would simply advise you to make your decision wisely, make sure the person is who he says he is, and wants the things in life that will make both of your lives easier and better should you choose to date. Danger as well as destiny lies on the internet. Be smart, be safe.
2006-08-08 13:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by turbocharged187 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship in one form or another since I was 15. My longest relationship as of yet, however, is 2.5 years with someone who I met online. I have been living with this person for two years, we own property together, have never have had a serious fight, and if it was legal, we would now be legally married. So, yes, in my experience online relationships can work.
A word of advise: I would meet this person as soon as possible. You never know who you are really talking to until you have spoken to them person to person. Their are a lot of weirdos out there, and I just think that it is safer to meet an online romantic interest in a safe place before you allow yourself to become too wrapped up in a faceless stranger.
2006-08-08 02:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by ;aldjf;lasdjf;lkj; 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard question, I have found a special person on line, and she's already answered this question LOL... This Girl has given me immense emotional support as i got through traumatic times.. she makes me feel good when I'm down and she listens to my day to day highs and lows... knowing she is there gives me so much... I feel love from her emails in the way she writes... It's lovely...
Then we have to think about real life, if we meet, will she still feel the same, will she be disappointed... would my habits really p*ss her off... or maybe we will hit it off 100%, wow that would be magic...
The next twist comes when the two week vacation is over... could i leave her after becoming physically attached too... how do you deal with the heart brake of parting... is it really possible for one of us to relocate... we have families and lives in our own countries...
OK, lots of plus, lots of minus... Answer to the question... I love her, but I'm still confused... good luck.
2006-08-08 17:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your current relationship is unfulfilling and unhappy, then someone else is always going to seem great. And this guy might be great, but right now you just know him online-- so proceed with caution, because might not be the person he says he is. Also, there are lots of questions to consider. Does he live nearby? Is it possible to meet him and get to know him in person? Does he want to be with you? Is being with him worth giving up your current relationship? I wish you luck, and yes... i think you can find love in the strangest places.
2006-08-08 02:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by anniehasagun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People think it's crazy but same thing has happened to me but it's scary to feel so strongly about someone and not know what would happen if you did meet. Would you still be in love or was it more what you wanted them to be in your mind or is it for real love. Emotionally it feels real but so hard to tell without fully knowing the other person. He has helped me cope with my unhappy marriage though and now support going through my divorce. He usually can make me smile just through his kind words or by joking around. So I don't think your wrong but probably just as amazed and confused by it as I am.
2006-08-08 02:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is possible but as u are married and through the Internet u just see the writings. this could make u happy but this is not u r life. do not make decisions like this. once when u meet the guy then u might realise u have made wrong decision and u will feel sad. "Look before u leap"
2006-08-08 02:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by m.shahila m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know because you cannot fall in love with someone that you ve'nt even met physically. You ignore his real appearance and manners. What guarantied you that the person concerning is telling the truth.
2006-08-08 02:18:08 · answer #8 · answered by angate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, but I think you can definately fall in love with someone met over the internet once you've spent time together.
2006-08-08 02:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by julielove327 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that you can fall in love over the internet because i fell in love and still am we are planning to get married i know its there but the unfaithfulness is the problem wiith you your husband donent satsfiy u eough so you go and try and find it elsewhere and you found somone that wants to help but this dosnt mean u should leave your husband
2006-08-08 02:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋