Should I be jelous?

Question

My man has had several women. All of them younger than me. His oldest son lives with us and told me tonight that after him she never had anyone else. She never had a boyfriend or anything
else. It was just her and her and his 2 sons living alone. Not to mention she is 2 years younger than me. I also know that his ex wife is about 10 years younger than me and has a daughter with him. He invited her ( the exwife) to come to live with us. He pays a great deal of attention to other women and asks why i cant be more like them. he has even had other younger women since we have been married. I am not going to leave him.... that is my personal choice. I love him very much. He would have to leave me, i will not leave him. I just wonder if I should be jelous or worried? What do you think.....what is his next move..... what is he thinking..... do you think he cares for me?

Einstein, your way off. I love him b=very much. I have done everything he has ever asked me to do. He says he loves me, but does not show it. He seems to always hurt me. I dont know why i cannot leave him, i just know I cant. we have on child together. he has 3 others outside the marriage. only one lives with us. i cannot believe him because when i do then i find out he was lying. then it hurts worse. i just dont know what to do anymore.

Answer 1

are you mormons?

Answer 2

Well, to be honest with you, I think that you need to work on your self- esteem. I know you say that you won't leave him, but you are getting disrespected in the worst way possible. Set better standards for you and your child.

I don't mean this mean, but YES..with this guy you will ALWAYS have to be jealous. I can't believe this could be worth it to you. Ask yourself what happened in your life where you decided that you had to settle for someone who completely disprespects you. Maybe this goes back to your childhood...I don't know.

You might see if he will go to marital therapy with you, if you really want to give it a shot..but I have a feeling that you are the one all worried and concerned about your marriage and he is just glad that you are so lenient about this...what a terrible spot for you to be in. Think about it. You deserve better than that.

Answer 3

It is a bit confusing what you wrote... Anyways, yes, It seems your man is a ladies man.
He has had different women and children with them. It seems he enjoys young female company (who does not?) a bit too much.

He just want you to let him play and meet other girls as usual, but with the security of having you.
No, he wont leave you ... for now.

To answer your question, yes you should be jealous and should ask him to show some respect for you.

Answer 4

Your his wife...make sure he's aware of that also don't be his doormat... I would say to him bef. he invites ppl to stay or live he should ask if it is OK with all the other ppl who live there.

Answer 5

HONEY YOU NEED HELP WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE MISERABLE,HE FLAUNT IT IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE IT IS AS IF HE WANTS YOU TO LEAVE,DO YOUR SELF A FAVOR AND GO GET YOU A YOUNG MAN AND SHOW HIM HOW IT FILLS .

Answer 6

Talk about having your cake and eating it ! To be honest I don't quite see what you have to complain about when you put up with this sh*t.

Answer 7

i would absolutely be jealous. maybe it's just me, but i would go crazy. if he really cared for you, he would realize that this situatuon is bugging you and put and end to it. If it was my man, i would tell him "them or me?"

Answer 8

GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY, WHO ASKS THEIR EX WIFE TO LIVE WITH THEM???