My boyfriend is 13years older than me.(Although he acts 20 years younger than me!) We have been together for 3years now. He does take me to his family events & has come to mine, he also takes me to his work functions. He has made slight changes for me but still can tend to fall into the same patterns/bad habits/temper occasionally. So all that aside, he just constantly wants to grope me. Ive spoken to him about the fact that he cant keep his hands off of me in a sexual way, he says he cant help himself, looking at me gets him this way. So the behavior continues. I dont mind affection but groping is another story. He isnt a very serious person & he doesnt talk all that much. He says hes not just with me for sex but lately if I threaten to leave him, he doesnt seem concerned. Is this just an act or does he just not respect me or care about my feelings? No nasty answers please, thanks!
2006-08-07 19:00:29 · 18 answers · asked by scorpiogreeneyed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He does still tell me he loves me pretty much everyday but he says hes nervous to commit to me because I still havent finished college
2006-08-07 19:16:49 · update #1
It sounds more like he's with you because of your body. Maybe you could try cutting him off physically and see how he reacts. If he does love you and wants to be with you he'll wait it out and respect your decision.
2006-08-07 19:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by K S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is groping you in public then that is nasty gross. But maybe he is telling you the truth. You excite him so much he can't stop touching you...be happy for that. Some people don't get any touching at all and that really sucks. Why are you threatening to leave him? If you aren't serious about leaving him, he can probably tell and is not going to dignify your threats with a response. He doesn't sound sooooooooo bad to leave him for groping you. Grope him back more than he does to you and he may slow down a bit or even stop. Hope it helps, but really don't leave him for such a silly thing. Maybe he even does it to get your feathers ruffled. When he gropes you, start acting like it doesn't bother you or say you like it so much you wanna go have sex right now! There ARE ways to handle men....they are so basic it's hilarious. And no, that doesn't qualify as a trophy GF. All in all it sounds more like you may be looking for an excuse to get out of the relationship...are you?
2006-08-07 19:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's rather obvious Mr. Immaturity has some issues, and yes it seems like he keeps you around for the groping sessions. He doesn't respond to your threats of leaving because you don't ever leave, so he has no worries. There is also another concern...it's been three years and you are still just boyfriend and girlfriend? Is he also afraid of committment? Move on honey, because when you get too old, he's only going to trade you in for a younger model. Men with that type of mind set always do.
2006-08-07 19:07:38 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO ME OK , he don't respect you, he won't marry you, why??? because you give him what he wants without any commitment on his part, and no he won't care if you leave because "THERE'S NO COMMITMENT" you sound like a good person so do your self a favor and have more respect for your self. leave him, go home to your parents or get your own place or something, do not have sex with out commitment anymore and tell the guys that want to date you that you want a true commitment before GOD, and your family and friends alike and see how many real men will step up for a real woman who knows what she is looking for in a man and has enough respect for her self and her own womanhood, know what you want in a man and don't settle for a fixer up kinda guy find one who is already the man you are looking for. then ask your self, is this the right man to father my 50 kids??? could he provide a home? would he be a good loving father and husband and protect you all from the world if he had to? does he have the integrity and maturity a man should have? or is he just another guy? guys come a dime a dozen. men stand out among boys & guys... you have to love your self alittle more in order to what your heart desires.
2006-08-07 19:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing the groping didnt just start but its been his way since you first met.
WAIT. " lately if I threaten to leave him" Now lets look at this . By lately I'll assume you've made this threat prior (which to Me is basicly blackmail and you should be ashamed for acting so childish) Why is it women go into relationships expecting Men to change , yet Men go into them hoping the woman doesnt?
Sorry but to Me you are hardly a "trophy" reguardless of your looks or age. I've dated both older and younger women but age and even looks werent always the mitigating factor , rather the way we feel when we are together, how she makes Me feel or I her.
ps the reason he doesnt seem concerned is because you've obviously cried wolf way too often.
2006-08-07 19:30:58 · answer #5 · answered by mfc795 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's a trophy female buddy then he have been given the booby prize. He could basically replace his techniques approximately her now he's considered that different those that say it the way it extremely is ( eg.Dale, Luke ,Stu, Lisa ) exterior of his social circle do no longer see her as a results of fact the appropriate capture
2016-12-11 09:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing you mention here is his occassional temper, please don't just accept this, you sound like a caring, sweet person and there is no way you should be putting up with this horrible guy. You really need to leave and tell him that you think you need to be with a younger more compassionate person. I wish you happiness which you certainly won't find with this creep. Good luck.
2006-08-07 19:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be so many things but the first that came to mind is that since he doesn't talk much he might be trying to make you break up with him. I've heard countless guys and girls say that they don't want to be the one to break things off so they behave in a way that will make the other partner want to leave. Good Luck!!
2006-08-07 19:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'd say believe him when he talks and about the threatening it's just that most ppl don't go oh I'm leaving you blar blar they go we need to talk this isn't working for me we need to call it quits etc... Talk to him about how you feel in the relationship....if you feel he's not listening move on bef. you get married have 3 kids and a house.
2006-08-07 19:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to forget you are a human and not a toy... You might want to remind him by leaving. If he is willing to listen after that then all the better to change his attitude. If he wont change then you are better off leaving for "greener pastures"
2006-08-07 19:06:19 · answer #10 · answered by eldertrouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋