Where does jealousy come from?

Answer 1

from wanting things that you dont have and not willing to share things that you have

Answer 2

There are two kinds of jealousy - covetousness for things you don't have that other people do. That comes from a misguided sense of need, a grasping-ness and lack of faith. Although you did not ask how to deal with jealousy, the best way to deal with covetousness is by reaching out and helping others less fortunate than you. That will give you great satisfaction and help you to realize you have more than you think.

The other type of jealousy is the type most people think of -- jealousy in love. But again, this type of jealousy comes from lack of faith. When you love, give your love freely, without expectation of any return. There is no need to be jealous of someone who is not "yours" to begin with. Have faith that when you find someone who loves you as much as you love him, both your eyes will turn toward the path ahead together and jealousy will have no place to live in your hearts.

Whatever you do, don't be taken in by some sexy he-whore who castigates you for being jealous when he's out fooling around. Drop him like the deadweight he is.

Answer 3

Jealousy comes from within. It is something all people have to an extent.
We have to remember that jealousy is a good thing when we are in control of it. How would it look for a man or woman not to care that his/her mate is flirting with another person. I know I would not have that. Jealousy is a good thing to show also. It shows your mate that you care for them and don't want any other with them.
God Himself, shows that He is jealous. It says in the Bible that He is a jealous God. Remember when Moses brought down the first set of 10 commandments and Moses' people were worshiping a gold cow. God was jealous then and told him to destroy it.
Being jealous just shows you are human. Just keep it in control.

Answer 4

jealousy starts from the head..in the mind..and the heart of a person..because if you have the negative mentality and an envious heart then you cannot see love in you and in the people around you..you have to be able to clear everything...have a positive state of mind and a loving heart in that way you will learn to accept yourself and get the idea that you don't need to be jealous, envious or insecure with people or anybody around you..because you have something on your own..that you are unique and special in your own way..and that everybody in and on this earth are all equal and the same...nobody or is more perfect than the other..no matter who you are..because we're all just human beings..so there's no need to be jealous at all..it will not do us any good instead it will leave just leave us miserable..

Answer 5

I believe that jealousy stems from insecurity from with in oneself, not loving and accepting yourself for who you are and being the "you" that you should be. Accepting that there are just things/circumstances that we have little or no control over and we just have to move on, love for who you are and forget jealousy, it gets you nowhere but miserable and lonely! Enjoy what life has to offer you!

Answer 6

Thanks for asking the question coz i suffer from the problem and as a result of it ave done extensive research on it and believe you me all those who say its insecurity are wrong! well patially right coz when you say insecurity you need to elaborate, insecure from what??? many will think its from loosing a partner to a nicer looking one or more money loaded one thus WRONG

Jealousy comes from the first two/early years of a persons childhood, if the primary caretaker(parents) was/were constantly and unfailingly there, such a child will have security even in their adult relationship, you get where am going?? if the primary caregiver was sometimes there sometimes not, the child will grow knowing that it is not guaranteed to have the person who cares for them to be there constantly, if finally the primary caregiver was absent the child will grow not expecting anyone to be there for them thus in adult relationships, such children grow with these deficits, and jealousy is one of the monsters that haunt them, therefore one will always be jealous that the partner whom she/he loves will leave them for another anytime thus constant fear of loosing ones partner. This leads to them being overpossesive of their partners.

i tell you this from experience coz am what many will call beautiful, confident, educated girl( my friends actually wonder that if i can be insecure what will they be) in short i have it all both physically and internally coz i believe in morality and kindness to the less fortunate, but WO! jealousy haunts me in relationships i discovered this recently when i started seeing a very nice gentleman who told me, "cutie your problem is you are way too jealous" i was taken aback coz i had not figured it out yet and i had destroyed my most cherished relationship coz of it, but thank God coz now am working my way out of it and i accept i have the problem and am willing to talk about it openly.

gal jealousy is not because you do not think yourself worth of the person NO! NO! it is simply because of a maimed childhood upbringing!

But good news is we can work our way out of it! I am, why not you!

the best of luck

ciao

Answer 7

From detachment, distance from the reality
you feel is a measure of needing or wanting
something too much .... It comes from synthesizing
opinions one thinks valid for projecting ideas of inner
observations of analyzing hypotheses from your own
symptoms of desire. Jealousy is an illness of empathic
processes of the emptiness one feels from emotional
desires of someone or something. When the object
one desires is absent from ones attention the mental
chemistry of brain modification for behavior manifest
many descriptive styles of self answers that most of
the time are not real, or they are real because what one
desires is not in reach of the individuals way of heart ...
Jealousy is very intimate with the inner thoughts of regression
within the self, jealousy is like a time bomb, a psychological
attitude of destruction indicative to simply needing with
overwhelming induction of your own truths or principles of
how you feel about a person or thing when it is not within your
stimulated space of focus and appeasement, jealousy comes from yourself, from your arousal of needing values of what you
feel belongs to only you, it is an attitude of perceiving with too much mental energy draining the measure of control .....
It is one of the ugliest, most horrific measures one can
experience in a psychological state ......

Answer 8

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Jealousy - Where Does It Come From? - By Susie and Ott Collins




A common issue that gets in the way of having great relationships is Jealousy.

We put the issue of Jealousy into two camps.

1) Where one or both partners have broken past commitments and there is jealousy between them. And

2) Where one partner is jealous of their partner and there doesn't seem to be a reason for the jealousy.

This 2nd scenario is the one we will be addressing in this article.

One of the questions we are most frequently asked concerning jealousy goes something like this...

"My partner is extremely jealous (especially of people at work) and there is no reason for him/her to feel this way... please help me to understand what is going on..."

When it comes to someone feeling jealous without apparent cause the number one reason is because of fear.

The person that is jealous may not see it this way or be willing to admit it at first--but at the core of almost all jealousy is a fear that they may lose their partner and their needs for love, friendship and affection will no longer be met.

The second ingredient that is almost always present when someone is jealous in a relationship is a lack of trust.

This can either be a lack of trust in their partner because of past actions or a lack of trust in their partner's ability to make conscious choices and decisions about their conduct when they are with other people.

If your partner says "I trust you but I don't trust the people you work with or other people you socialize with" then you can just translate that to mean "I don't trust your ability to make conscious decisions about your conduct with other people when I'm not there."

If jealousy is an issue that you want to heal in your relationships, the first thing you must do is have the willingness and courage to talk about the issue in a non-judgmental way with each other.

First of all you must define and make clear what your commitments and agreements are to each other. Talk with each other about ways that can allow the jealous partner to feel more secure. Then create conscious agreements for how you will act in situations that could feel threatening to the one who is jealous.

Early in our relationship, one of the things that we agreed to do in social situations was to occasionally make eye contact with each other throughout the evening. For us, creating and following through on this agreement built trust between us and helped dissolve the jealousy issue before it became a bigger problem.

Another thing that has been helpful when we are working with people on issues surrounding jealousy is to encourage them to become more conscious of the patterns from previous relationships that they may be repeating in their current relationship.

Sometimes a person in a relationship may be jealous of their partner and it may have nothing to do with the reality of their present relationship. If this is the case, healing can take place when they recognize that the feelings they have that are triggering jealousy are about previous relationships and not the present one.

No matter what the reason for the jealous feelings, fear is at the bottom of it.

In dealing with your fears surrounding jealousy, it's important to recognize where fear comes from.

We've heard that fear is an acronym for:
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

If there's no legitimate reason for the jealousy, we suggest that you and your partner spend some time and look at where the fears are coming from that have brought up the jealous feelings. Then create a strategy for how you will deal with these feelings in the future.

Answer 9

jealousy comes from your fears but no one can understand the mixed emotions about an object or a living thing the fears of never being able to touch or love that thing again so you get jealous to try to prevent that from happening.

Answer 10

Jealousy comes from within, like a thief in the night from the part of your being that is most vulnerable ... the place where insecurity and fear live. Jealousy robs you of enchantment and replaces it with discouraging thoughts and negativities that reach out to pervert and destroy your most positive emotions, brightest hopes and cherished dreams toward the object of your affection. Conjuring up one's imagination enough to stir one's anger.

From your heart's most vulnerable place, jealousy causes your mind to reel and spin, causes your heart to race and your hands to tremble in their own wet, nervous perspiration ... until he looks in your eyes, takes your hand in his, and holds you close to feel the beating of his heart ... and it all drifts away.

Answer 11

Jealousy is a nasty thing its one of the most dangerous emotions, it comes from people that are insecure.