married 29 years not all unhappy ,,,but got worse when my dissability got worse = m.s. he divorsed me lol couldnt stand seeing me in pain and in wheelchair,,,,but could mentally abuse me , duh ,,,,,,,,,, will i be blinded again untill to late , i wanna date but scared ,,,,,, thanks
2006-08-07 18:34:48 · 11 answers · asked by shortkichi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you will now be alot more careful about who you choose.You seem like a good person.Dont let anyone make you think you dont deserve to be treated well!Take a chance...just dont jump in to anything to quick.Take it SLOW.Find someone who DESERVES YOU.Unlike that EX!In my opinion..that was just a horrible thing to do to you.Take Care,Hun.And....GOD BLESS!
2006-08-07 18:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were your parents the same way?
I think I'm kinda like you. the gusy I liked the most were the same ones who hurt me the most. I think I'm addicted to the pain because it reminds me of the way my parents treated me growing up.
Go into therapy. spend a year or two learning who you are and how you have responded to the way your parents raised you. It has a bigger effect than you might think.
Also, listen to some old Loveline shows. Dr. Drew talks about this principle extensively: people are attracted to people that remind them of their parents, and hurt them the same way their parent do.
So the way you break the cycle of child abuse is to realize what you are doing and not date people who will be the same way your parents were.
Good luck & keep your head up, ok?
2006-08-08 01:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by sisofphil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you will see the signs early on and not have to go through it ever again. I least that is what I tell myself. My ex was abusive in every sense of the word. Good luck.
2006-08-08 01:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by mik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY DEAR LADY YOU MIGHT,BUT YOU DONT HAVE TO.ITS CALLED THE FOLLOWING PATTERN.YOU MUST CHANGE THE WAY YOU SEE MEN.YOUR TYPE DONT WORK SO MAYBE YOU HAVE TO CHANGE.LOOK AT THE OTHER END OF YOUR SCOPE.FIND THE GUY THAT YOU ARE ATTRECTED TO BUT LOOK INTO THE HEART.I CAME FROM AN ABUSIVE 23 YR RELATIONSHIP(DIVORCED 1 YR AGO.I HAVE CHANGED WHO I AM AND THE LADIES I HAD CHOSEN.NOW MY LIFE IS WORTH LIVING.BUT I HAVE DISABLITIES TOO.AND I AM 58,NEARING THE END?TALK TO ME,sge4me@yahoo.com (DAVE)
2006-08-08 12:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by lickit4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a bimbo who does stupid things that annoys all men.
Any man with an IQ over 50 will "mentally abuse" you.
Go lesbo or get a really dumb man.
2006-08-08 01:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have heard the broken record theory right? Now that you know what is happening you can fix it. Date for at least 2 years...believe me on this one.
2006-08-08 01:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi ya. I was married to a verbal and emotional abuser.
Date and don't be scared. give a lot of thought about who you chose to marry and why that was wrong and why. It took me years after my divorice to figure out that I was attracted to insecure men who needed me to fix them. I have learned a great lesson and have moved on.
Hey we have one chance in this world......wheel chair or not....live your life the fullest that you can.
2006-08-08 01:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now shut up and do what I tell you.
If this brings back fond memories -yes you want to be abused again.
2006-08-08 01:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband was straight stupid how could he leave when you became disable he never really loved you and yes you can find a real man who will look beyond your faults your husband how ever he will get his pay back good luck AND GOD BLESS YOU
2006-08-08 01:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am still trying to figure out whether or not that is on the level
2006-08-08 01:40:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋