Sitting at home with nothing to do. Kids in bed, and husband working. I decided to click on yahoo personals, no particular reason. I began to browse through the personals and find a friend of mine husband with his profile listed. With a fake name and status as divorced..Would you tell your friend? I know that everyone wants to know about their cheating spouse..But what would you do in this exact situation? I really don't know what to do..We are all friends, too...
2006-08-07 17:56:51 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To make things worst..He has his picture listed..
2006-08-07 17:58:41 · update #1
This is rough. Most people will say you should mind your business. It depends on the friend. Some people say they want to know, but really don't want to know because that means they have to make a choice that they might not be ready for, or strong enough to make. That kind of friend will end up resenting you, even though you had nothing to do with the main issue. If she stays with him, your friendship will suffer. In most cases, I would stay out of it...But, if your friend is like me...I'm the kind of woman who wants to know, because I won't stay in a relationship with a cheater, not under any circumstance. I'd want that friend to send me the link.. The thing is, how well do you know your friend..is she strong? Is she independent? If not, don't say anything.
2006-08-07 18:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He set himself up for this by using his picture. Anyone can see it there just like you did. Would she rather hear it from a friend or an acquaintance?
See if the personals has a way to forward the profile to a friend. If you don't want her to see who forwarded the profile, make up an account with a different name and then forward it.
She needs to know what he is up to. Who knows, maybe he has been shopping for a long time and has sampled some of the delights. She could end up catching something from him. It would be better for her to know now than to find out later.
2006-08-07 18:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's got her own e-mail address that isn't shared with her husband, which I'm guessing she doesn't. Write her an e-mail and copy and paste the URL from her husband's profile page on it. Ask her if that is him. That way you're not accusing anyone and you put it in her hands to do what she needs to.
I know I would want to know. I felt hurt when a friend told me AFTER my breakup that she had witnessed my ex kissing the dimwit he left me for. If I would have known earlier, I could have done something, I don't know what, but I would not have gone through the next several months clueless. So in my book, you have to tell your friend.
Good luck.
2006-08-07 18:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Polly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your place to say anything --- besides when I was married I knew my husband was cheating --- it took me a while to admit it freely but in my heart I knew it....
The other thing is why are you looking through personal ads online --- since you are married --- when there are so many other websites to view that don't tempt you to find a mate.... have fun explaining that to your husband when your friend tells him what you were doing ....
2006-08-07 18:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I figured it out for myself, regardless of if it took me awhile. i grew to become into in denial till now each and everything, even inspite of the incontrovertible fact that the signs and indications have been there. She could stay out till all hours & does not say the place she grew to become into going or made up some BS tale. Her approach in the direction of me completely replaced virtually in one day. maximum telling of all, she denied dishonest when I hadn't even accused her of it. She never gave me a reason, yet she blamed me for all of her issues, even inspite of the incontrovertible fact that she delivered maximum of them on herself. She's now my ex & i'm plenty happier now. She's nevertheless with the guy she dumped me for, yet i don't think of she's happy. I doubt if she ever would be. Revenge is sweet.
2016-11-04 02:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your friend? If thats the case..I don't see the question. If you are her friend tell her...Better yet have her set up a date with him through the personals...blind date..wouldn't he be shocked to **** if he was waiting in some cozy little restuarant and his date (his wife) come walking in....You have to get her to do it..Someone needs to start standing up to these lowlife men...
2006-08-07 18:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by justwonderingwhatever 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are a good friend no i would not tell her she might resent you for it how ever talk to the husband let him know what you came across and ask him to remove it are you will not have any choice but to let her see the profile for her self if he has any love for her he will thank you for not showing it to her and get his act together
2006-08-07 18:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her the profile. Let her know whats going on, so she can decide what to do.
2006-08-07 18:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by MandyHawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd make up a new yahoo email account & send the ad anonymously to my girlfriend.
2006-08-07 18:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her don't just tell her. Truth hurts but I rather know. The sooner she knows the less she'll hurt. You don't want him leading her on, she's your friend. Tell her and help her pack his sh*t and throw it out in the yard.
2006-08-07 18:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋